To Each Single Mother: You Are A True H e roine

Being a mother is difficult, but being a single mother is the most difficult thing in the world.

You find yourself alone with a lot of emotional pain that you have to endure and a child who needs you more than ever.

And every day, you find yourself crying because life was so unfair to you, but you have these two bright eyes looking at you and asking you if you are well.

So you get up, summon the last bit of strength you have inside you, and tell your child that mom is fine and you’re not crying – but something fell into your eye.

You are lying to your child – you can’t believe your own lie – but you don’t want to hurt them because you don’t want them to suffer like you do.

You don’t want him to miss his father figure, so you always go the extra mile to make up for the love he doesn’t get from the so-called father.

Because there is a man who is his father, but your son will never call him “dad”. Fathers don’t do that sort of thing. They do not make mothers sad and never leave their children.

 

The fathers are there to tuck in their children every night and kiss them to wish them good night. They come to all football games and are their children’s biggest fans.

Fathers carry their children on their shoulders and give them the impression that they can conquer the world because they are so tall.

Dads make kids feel so special and unique. But when there is no father to do all of these things, a parent must do it. 

And in this case, it’s the single mothers. They carry a heavy burden on their back, but never say how difficult it is for them. 

 

They are so good at multitasking that they melt things they never thought they could do.

They are tired of all the work they have to do alone, but they never talk about it.

Single mothers are not talking about the two jobs they are forced to have in order to pay the bills and the rent.

They don’t talk about all the emotional pain and all the love they still have inside them, without having someone who will give it back.

 

They claim they are very strong women in public, but once they get home, they fall apart into a million broken pieces – pieces that can’t be put back together no matter what.

And they live like that – like everything is fine and they have a dream life.

Single mothers are real heroines, but the others don’t see it. It’s easy to chat and judge them, but if you were in their shoes, you would see that every day is a new battle.

It’s a battle for their lives and for this little creature who admires them, thinking that they are powerful and that they can solve any problem.

And precisely because of those huge eyes and the smile that makes you day, you, single mothers, fight as often as you can. 

You fight to give them everything they need, to give them love, affection and advice.

You have two jobs because you know that support is not enough. You just don’t want to disappoint your kids more than they already are.

 

You hate to see tears in their eyes when they see other families going to the park together.

And you hate not being able to find a valid reason to explain to them why your family does not come home with dad and why he is not there with you.

You have a big lump in your throat, you are on the verge of tears, but yet, you manage to invent something and tell your child that he will have fun with dad the next time. 

And with heavy legs, you crawl to your empty house, pretending to be a superhero who smiles and who always feels good.

You are doing your best to be the best version of yourself, to be the dream mother of your child, but you know it is more difficult than ever.

Then, when your child finally sleeps in your arms, you look at him and you do not regret anything that you did for him. 

You don’t mind being a mom, housekeeper, doctor, psychologist, best friend, waitress and protector all at the same time.

You don’t mind doing all of this every day, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and not getting paid for your work. 

 

You don’t even mind that you are the one who is putting in the extra effort because you know your child will turn into a good person.

And all thanks to you, mom!

You are a real superhero and I know there is someone up there who sees all your pain and sacrifice. 

I also know that one day you will see the fruits of your labor and that you will be so proud of yourself because you have achieved all of this on your own, without anyone’s help. And you got there.

Your main project is finished and it’s absolutely perfect thanks to you, mom. So don’t think you made mistakes because you did the best you could to make things work. Like a magician, you accomplished things that didn’t work at first.

So raise your head, be a proud woman, and never let anyone make you look down.

You are more than enough!

 

You are worthy of it!

Your deserve the whole world!

You know you have imperfections but they make you perfect as you are.

 

Your hardship is not reflected in your worth, because you already know that you are more than enough, so don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

I am not going to lie to you and tell you that it is easy because it is not.

This phase of your life is like a roller coaster of emotions, a crazy race whose end is unknown. But I know there is one thing that is really worth it.

It is worth it because of those little eyes looking at you and thinking that you are perfect.

It’s enough because of those little hands that reach out to protect you because they think you are the strongest.

They think you can conquer the world and the truth is, you really can.

Mom, you can take over the world with one hand while your child holds you with the other.

So never forget that you are enough.

In fact, mom, you are more than enough!