Breaking up with someone is always difficult. Even when it comes to the most normal guy, it still sucks.
The end of a large part of your life comes, and especially if it is you who is left, this can be difficult to accept.
Like any other big change in your life, you have to know how to get used to it.
But when the guy who breaks up with you is a narcissistic pervert, things get even more muddled and destructive.
A narcissist never makes anything easy. He’s the one who needs to be in control, so whatever happens, you will end up being the victim of his vicious intentions.
As I mentioned above, narcissists cannot bear not having control.
And as soon as they feel they are losing their grip on you, they will resort to drastic measures.
If he feels that you are trying to end things or that you have started to challenge him, he will want to make sure he is the first to do so.
And not in a friendly way. It will be from his devious plans and it will hurt like anything.
If you have the impression that your narcissist is about to drop you, be ready for one of the following 4 scenarios.
Here are his most common methods for letting you know he’s done with you. Consider it a warning!
1. already has a reserve section in place and it will suddenly leave you, without any explanation
When a narcissist is certain that he will finish things with you, he makes sure to have another bed partner already in place.
There should always be options in case things go wrong. And in this case, you will have no warning and no explanation.
His mood will suddenly become unpredictable, he will be very irritable and he will have an unpleasant attitude towards you.
Remember that narcissists do not have the capacity to feel shame and regret, therefore whether you make a scene or not will not make a difference.
He will leave you with no excuses and will make sure that you know he already has another daughter to replace you.
And it will be the end between you and your narcissist. Your relationship will end as brutally as it started.
2. He will make you pass for the bad guy by verbally abusing you and making you bear all the responsibility on your back
His plan will be so devious that you won’t know what hit you. First, it will cause minor annoyance to make you look really crappy.
He will make sure to let you know how bad he thinks you are and he will not choose his words.
Then he’ll push you to the limit by doing things he knows you don’t like just to drive you crazy and use them against you.
He will make you look like a crazy, unstable bad girlfriend and he will pretend to be a poor guy who has fallen into your web of lies and deception.
You will not even understand how he does that he will already be gone, having reached his goal.
You will feel like you have done something wrong, when what really happened was that he manipulated you and left with your head held high. As he had planned to do from the start.
3. He will play hot and cold to the point of chasing you
His emotions (the ones he claims to have) will overflow everywhere.
One day, he will adore you and cover you with love, and the next day, he will be furious because of the crumbs you left in the kitchen.
You will not know what to do, because his behavior will worsen drastically and the smallest details will push him to extremes.
The atmosphere will be extremely toxic and you will not be able to endure it for long. While it is flourishing there, you will have to put an end to it and then that’s it.
So it will be over and he won’t have to pull the trigger. You will have done it for him.
4. He will use s ex as a tool to demoralize you
Sex will become a powerful weapon in its arsenal. He will use it against you in any way possible. And if your sex life is fulfilled, it will be particularly difficult.
He will refuse you sex when he sees that you really want it.
And when he notices that you are too tired to function, he will ask you if you are in the mood (knowing that you are NOT in the mood).
He will make you beg him to sleep with you, something you never thought you would do.
But his behavior will leave you no choice. Although it is a toxic waste of time, it knows how to give you pleasure.
And damn it, you’ll want it for the last time. And that’s how he will take it out on you.
Your ego will take a big hit every time it says “No” and it will use it every second.
And once he’s done having fun, he will be done with you, leaving you with the consequences of his actions. And this will fear. Deeply.