It is one thing to conquer a man, to make him fall in love, but what to do to make him really commit?
In other words, how do you get a man to marry you? What are the tips to achieve this?
Men usually become comfortable at some point in the relationship. What is funny and frustrating is that it is exactly the stage that becomes boring for the woman. The one we try to avoid at all costs.
What happens is that he becomes comfortable and you are at the end of your rope because you want to go further and you want to take your relationship to the next level.
In other words, you wait for him to ask the question, but he seems too comfortable where you are currently to do so.
What if he panics at the mere mention of marriage?
What you have to do is play the game. You are not going to handle it or play dirty. You will just play smart.
You’re not going to lie, you’re just going to show him who you are and convince him that he needs you – in fact, you’re not going to convince him, but show him with your behavior.
Men are like that. They think they are complicated, when in fact they are very easy to read, and let’s just say it is easy to make them believe that they did something by themselves, when in fact , you will have played a huge role in their decision.
How do you get a man to marry you?
Maybe you think you’ve done it all, but I bet there are things you haven’t tried yet, maybe even some that you won’t even have considered doing because they seemed negligible .
1. do you like
I know it’s all trite and repetitive, but it is so because it is true. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else either.
If you are not satisfied with your appearance or your behavior, if you are not satisfied with who you are, nothing and no one else will ever be enough.
And I say this from experience. Whenever there is a problem in your life, start solving it on your own.
When you have dealt with all your problems and accepted your person for what you are, you will be able to move on.
Therefore, love yourself. Analyze the things you don’t like and change them. You can do it if you really want to.
2. Hang him out with your married friends
Do you know how sometimes people who hang out for a long time start to look alike?
Start talking the same way and, in extreme cases, become the same?
Well, this phenomenon is called the mirror effect. It is a behavior in which a person, without realizing it, imitates the way of speaking, the body language or the attitude of another person.
This happens in everyday interaction and the people in question don’t even notice it is happening.
Why am I talking about this? Well, if you hang out with your married friends and they like them, they will realize their behavior and start to imitate them, which will make the idea of marriage more attractive than ever.
Your married friends will show him that marriage has its ups and downs, but at the end of the day, love always wins.
Some men are more careful when it comes to marriage because they come from divorced families.
All they learned and heard was arguments and disrespect. Therefore, marriage has a negative connotation for them.
Try to prove to them that they are wrong. Show them with your married friends that things are not always that bad.
3. Always maintain good communication
As soon as you stop communication, you will be faced with real problems.
You see, as long as you talk to your partner, any damage can be repaired. Conversation can resolve any conflict.
Even if you don’t feel negative about your partner, you should talk to them.
When you are positive, when he has done something right, tell him. Simply put, share every little thing with your partner.
Communication is vital from the start of the relationship and throughout the marriage.
It is not easy to get involved with someone for the rest of the days, even when you love them deeply.
Therefore, never keep anything buried inside. When you become a communication-oriented person, he will certainly marry you.
4. Make him need you
If you want to have it forever, you need it. When he needs a friend, it has to be you, when he needs someone to watch the game with, you should be there.
You will have to be her lover, friend, support, partner to pass the time – all in one.
As you will see, it is not that difficult to do. It may seem like a lot of work, but when you love someone, you are already all these things for that person.
You become the whole package if you want to have it in your life.
Make him need you by spending invaluable time together. When you are together, make sure to laugh and create only beautiful memories.
He will not want to go away from it. Keep the drama to a minimum and enjoy life with the person you love.
Another crucial thing that he will appreciate more than anything is to leave him some time alone.
All men need it, and to be frank, you need it too.
You have to give him space and time to think and take care of his own business.
It doesn’t matter what he will do when he is alone. Only one thing matters: that he respects the fact that you let him breathe.
It just shows him that you are confident enough to let him go. It shows him that you trust him.
He will realize that being with you does not mean that he will lose his freedom. He will realize that nothing will change except the fact that he will have constant support by his side.
5. Stay natural
You don’t need fake breasts or fake lips to be attractive.
After all, physical attraction is not the only type of attraction and over time it fades, which is why most relationships fail.
The attraction comes from within; it comes from your very essence and no plastic surgery can do better.
You have to show your partner who you really are. When you get up in the morning, and when you sleep next to the man you love, you don’t need makeup.
And he doesn’t want you to hide your real person either, I guarantee he’ll like you better without makeup.
No man wants his partner to hide who he really is for the rest of his life.
6. Break the routine
Men easily feel comfortable and when they get to this point it turns into a routine that is really hard to get away from.
For example, your man is used to being at home every time he comes home from work, or staying at home on the Friday night when you both watch Netflix.
It has always been so. He’s used to you always being there. Well, be smart enough and shake things up a bit.
When he comes home from work, don’t stay home. Go out with friends on Friday evening. Do something he doesn’t expect you to do.
In a way, you will let her know that you too have your life and that it does not need to revolve around your own.
Break your routine and shake it up a bit. He will realize that you are not going to wait forever.
7. Stay s e x y
We have already covered the whole aspect of physical attraction. We agree that it is not that important in the long run.
And it’s true, but that doesn’t mean you have to stop being sexy, and you have to stop trying.
There are women who let go completely when they are in a long-term relationship. I don’t know why it happens, but I can guess – they feel too comfortable; they become too sure that their partner will be there and that he will not go anywhere.
Well, this lack of effort is the number one “killer” of relationships.
The relationship gets more and more boring with each passing day and you both find yourself unhappy in a relationship that however worked wonders.
Keep the flame alive and don’t get boring and predictable. After all, he will not only marry the friend in you, but also the lover.
8. Threaten him to leave
You can do it when everything else fails. If you tried to play smart and fair play, but it didn’t work, it’s time to go out of your way and play tough. It’s time for a little manipulation.
If you find that your relationship is at a standstill, you need to do something to make a difference and wake up your partner.
Mention by chance that you are thinking of moving to another city because of a job opportunity or simply tell them that you are bored of where you are now and that you need something new and exciting.
But don’t let it be just words. Pretend you’re really going to do it.
Make your plan credible and real. Even if you have nothing planned, make him believe that it is.
Do whatever it takes to shake him up a bit and make him realize that he needs you and wants to spend his life with you.
Sometimes men just need a little boost.
9. Be emotionally stable
Nobody wants a “drama queen” by her side. Too much passion and too much is not a good thing. You need to be balanced – neither too cold nor too emotional.
Men like stable women who don’t lose track of every little thing and who don’t fuss about something that isn’t important.
When you think about it, why wouldn’t they want a nice, stable woman by their side?
As a woman, you too are looking for a stable man who will support you throughout your life, right?
Staying calm and together is not an easy thing to do because life is hectic and all kinds of things happen to us all the time.
Life presents challenges and problems at every stage, and not everyone can cope with it by keeping a clear head.
If you notice that you have dramatized things that are not so important, or that they are important to you but others do not see it that way, you should probably ask for help.
Talk to a professional who will help you cope with life without dramas.
10. Keep having fun in the relationship
Don’t talk about things until it’s time to mention them. You risk ruining everything.
The most important thing to do if you want a man to marry you is to never put pressure on him. Don’t even joke about getting married.
Men take the commitment very seriously and they will not do so until they are ready.
On the other hand, if you put pressure on them, it will only make them move away completely.
You have to let things take their natural course. When he sees you as someone he could spend his life with, he will be committed to you.
When he is committed enough to you, then you can start talking about the future, although he can probably do it first.
Slowly, you will realize that he is showing signs that he is about to ask the question.
11. Romance is a two-way street
You can’t expect him to be romantic. You have to make an effort too.
Isn’t it nice to be surprised with a romantic dinner or a nice gift for no reason other than love?
Well, guess what, the same goes for him too. It is not made of stone, it also has feelings.
If you want to be treated as an equal, you should show him that you care about him and that you can also be romantic.
Give her a reason to stay in this relationship. Don’t expect it to give all the time and you never give anything back.
If you continue to force this stuff, he will never marry you.
12. Consider how you will approach “the conversation”
If you feel like you’re not on the same page, think about how you approach him because what you feel is not necessarily what he feels.
Instead of approaching it with a serious tone, try to be light and positive.
Pass yourself off as someone who wants to solve problems, not break up for good.
You won’t even have to say anything; your body language will speak for you. Be light and optimistic. This is the feeling you want to convey to it.
Let her know that you intend to marry in the future and that you want to be with someone who wants the same things as you.
Then ask him if he feels the same and if he sees himself one day by your side?
You see, honesty is always the key. But what matters is how you say what you think.
If you want to say something, but you have a bad feeling and you think it will not end well, you let this vibration spread to the people around you.
But if you approach someone in a cheerful and positive way, that same conversation can take a whole different path.
That’s why I say you should play smart. Be the woman you are and play this game differently.
Introduce yourself as you are and he will understand what he has to do, and what would be best for him.