Wouldn’t you like to be born in the traditional era of love? It looks like it was easier at the time. At least everything seemed to be authentic and honest.
Nowadays, going out on dates and finding love is a mess.
The art of courting and long periods of dating have been replaced by hanging out and hanging out with someone, which has done tremendous damage in our love lives.
We end up in quasi-relationships instead of being in a real relationship. And it’s not like you don’t want something serious, it’s just that it’s hard to find.
It’s difficult, but it’s not impossible, especially if you know how to do it. There are 5 important things a woman should do if she wants a real relationship:
1. Immediately remove all dating apps
Of course, you know someone, or you know someone who knows someone, who found love through dating apps.
But these people are really rare. These are exceptions.
If you’re using Hinge, Tinder or something similar, you should be aware of all the dirty guys out there.
Even if there were someone decent, he would be in the shadows of all those who try to get laid or who are just spending their time and, in so doing, spoiling yours.
So if you’re serious about real love, chances are these apps won’t help you.
They will only waste your time and exhaust your efforts.
2. Don’t settle for poor last-minute fake appointments
“I have nothing better to do, so hang out with her.” It’s not the date you’re supposed to go.
You don’t need someone to call you out of the blue just because it suits them.
Make sure you tell them it’s not right for you and that they should have asked you earlier.
You’re not one to sit by the phone and jump when it rings, at least you shouldn’t be.
Appointments need to be scheduled in advance so that you get something to think forward to.
They don’t have to be luxurious or expensive – that’s not the issue.
The goal is to see that the guy made an effort to plan this meeting with haste to see you. Only a man who makes an effort is worthy of your time.
His efforts around the first date will tell you a lot.
3. Don’t let him cross the doorstep too early
And don’t go to him either. It’s a trap.
Most of us are used to relaxing and spending time in the comfort of our own homes, and many of us make the mistake of inviting someone to this area too early.
This unconsciously gives others the impression that we are ready for a relaxed and relaxed relationship.
It’s not just about not having s**x too soon. It is a question of not transforming a gallant date into “let’s hang out together”.
Don’t give all the benefits of a boyfriend to someone who isn’t your boyfriend.
Better keep it away from your couch for the first few weeks until you get to know it better.
If all goes well, you will have all the time in the world for sofas, hugs, Netflix and moments of relaxation, but later.
4. Move away slowly if he starts playing with you
Now you can spot a player a kilometer away. He will play sending text messages.
One day he will be there and the next day he will not be found. It will lead you in any way possible.
Of course, you are not going to endure this. There is no point in going back there.
That’s why you have to send that text you’re afraid to send, but you know you have to.
It can happen like this:
“Hi Hi. I do not like to beat around the bush, so I will be honest with you I do not like meetings too relaxed. I like real dating and I believe that the men who make efforts are extremely s**xy. I need time to get to know someone better before I jump into bed. If you don’t share my opinion, it doesn’t matter. I like that people know where they are with me. ”
5. Know what you want and don’t be afraid to say it
Usually, you lie to yourself. You get caught up in something with someone who does not involve any commitment, just to avoid pretending to be too needy from the start.
One way or another, this beginning continues, and we almost find ourselves in a relationship without wanting to.
All it gives us is heartache and a waste of time.
Don’t let someone put words that aren’t yours in your mouth.
Don’t say you don’t like labels and you don’t mind keeping things casual if on the contrary, you really want to be his girlfriend.
So be honest with yourself first, and be honest with the person you’re dating.
Set your limits and don’t stray too far from your standards.
If you want a real relationship with someone who is not afraid to be part of it and who is ready to match all your efforts, do not settle for less than that.
