It is always extremely frustrating to meet someone who seems nice at the start but turns into a real moron after a few days.
We all had null companions. I had a TAS of it – forgetting each time what I had learned during my previous relationships.
I hear my friends talking about their abusive partners and it makes me think of all the characteristics they have in common.
Make no mistake, your sincere feelings are not always enough and it sometimes takes time and energy to make your relationship work.
But sometimes it’s not even worth it. Here are 10 signs that you should stop fighting for two.
1. He makes fun of the things you love
Have you ever told her how painful it is?
Perhaps you shared the importance of something (or someone) because it makes you happy and he laughed as if you had just told the joke of the year.
I wouldn’t even bother making an effort with people like that, because they aren’t even open-minded enough to respect everyone’s tastes.
If you told him you wanted to go to the theater and he had a laugh, leave him. It is a stupid situation that may happen more often than you would like.
2. He is possessive
As you probably know, possessive behavior is disguised manipulation.
It consumes you little by little and when you realize what is happening to you, it is already too late. It often starts with small fits of jealousy, which he justifies by his desire to spend more time with you.
Then, it becomes a constant need for attention and it comes to having control over your whole life. We don’t even see it coming.
Please do not confuse this with a manifestation of love, because there will come a time when it turns into violent behavior.
It will be difficult for you to get out on your own, because you will be taken hostage!
3. He abuses you psychologically
Even if it is not physical violence, it is still violence. Violence that could hurt you even more than if it hit you, believe me.
To tell you that you are worth nothing and that it would be much better without you is not love.
Talking about your past relationships and your missing ex, just to make you jealous or upset, is not love. The terrible truth is, there is nothing you can do about it.
If he sees that you can’t take it anymore, maybe he’ll stop for a while because he doesn’t want you to leave him. But don’t be fooled! Torturers don’t give up so easily.
They continue until their victims are on their knees.
4. You are not happy
You are unhappy and uncomfortable when you are with him, because you know that soon he will do something to upset you.
You lock yourself in your room and cry hot – even when he’s there. You are constantly lonely and no matter what people tell you: it is much worse than being single.
Perhaps you have even invested so much effort and work in your relationship that you are destroyed. If you’re the only one fighting to make it work, it’s doomed to fail.
I’m sorry but it’s the truth. So save your energy – it’s not worth it.
5. He cheated on you more than once
“Honey, it was just a mistake! I will change ! ”No longer work. He has deceived you so many times that you have lost count.
All you can do is go away because he keeps trying to find bogus excuses.
Can we really rebuild a quality relationship with someone who cheated on us? I would say no.
6. He’s a pathological liar
How do you know if someone is a pathological liar?
Easy, he lies about everything! Their ultimate lie is when they tell you “I love you”; because pathological liars are impulsive and very fast-acting beings.
If he tells you that he loves you, and then runs after another woman, he is a pathological liar.
As much as you want it, you cannot cure it. This is something you cannot change.
7. You are his “second choice”
He already has a girlfriend but he promised you that he would leave her to be with you. Did he leave her?
And even if it was, what makes you think it will change once you become your boyfriend? He cannot magically reinvent his personality as hard as you want.
He will cheat on you too and why would you want to inflict such pain on yourself? Better get away from him.
8. He has no ambition
This is something that can bring you both down!
If you don’t know what I mean, just take the time to think about it. Think about the fact that he spends all his days lying on your couch, doing nothing.
Do you really want to spend your time and effort on someone whose greatest ambition is to watch the next game show? It may even be his only reason to get up in the morning!
Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating, but you should be with someone who is committed to helping you flourish and inspiring you to surpass yourself.
9. He is not there for you when you need him
You were sick and called him to find out if he could bring you medication, but he only answered with a laugh and told you that you were not independent enough.
Why are you still with such a moron, I ask you? Someone, somewhere, will be there for you without you even having to call them.
Someone will call you and ask how you are and if you need help. This is the type of guy you should be looking for – not wasting your time and energy with a violent narcissist.
10. You are the least of his worries
Which means everything is more important than you and your relationship. He cancels your meetings because of a football match?
Or because he doesn’t even want to make the effort to come to your house?
Yes, that’s what I’m talking about! If he really wanted to be with you, he would treasure every second spent in your company.
So if your partner is not behaving in line with your requirements, you don’t have to be the only one fighting to make things work!
Happy relationships are based on love, trust, honesty and mutual commitment. If you are the one to give it all, it’s time to forget it.