Narcissists suffer from a personality disorder that eventually destroys you. At first, we do not understand what situation we put ourselves in because these people excel in the art of manipulation.
When we meet him for the first time, he seems perfect, a kind of rare man: we are happy and we cannot believe that we have hit such a jackpot – we cannot believe that the we found the perfect man for us.
It is only afterwards that we discover that everything was a lie. We realize that he is nothing more than a manipulative b**stard who has only sought your love for one purpose – to vampirize you.
There is a game they excel at – no one can compete with – and it is the game of manipulation. It is their most powerful weapon and they know how to use it to get everything they want. They play little games to hurt and humiliate you. The unhappiness and suffering of others boosts their ego and nourishes their soul.
The narcissists will consume and vampirize you and once they are done with you, they will blame you.
What is fascinating about them is that they always manage, in one way or another, to make a new start. No matter how many people they have destroyed, they always find a new victim to handle and once they are done, they give up on your pain and move on to the next person.
These people never admit that they made a mistake. What’s more, they’ll blame you for everything, knowing full well that it’s all their fault.
When you finally realize that he has taken advantage of you and that he has drained you of your life energy, when you have finally dumped him, he will do everything in his power to recover you. He will use “recovery” tactics to literally vampir you and lure you back into your dysfunctional relationship.
Here are some “recovery” tactics that all narcissists use to recover you:
1. Willfully misinterpreting your thoughts and feelings
Narcissists have the power to make your opinions and thoughts look ridiculous. They have the power to make you think that it is you who are mad and irrational. We could almost then speak of “telepathy”.
These toxic people think they know exactly what you are thinking or feeling; they, therefore, tend to draw hasty conclusions, without even analyzing the situations. They obviously do not realize that they are drawing hasty conclusions since they are convinced that they are right.
They will attribute words to you and when you try to confront them about this, they will deny having said anything and will go away.
2. Change the subject
Narcissists love to use this tactic. Whether it is to put an end to something or when you confront them about something else, they will change the subject by trying to impersonate the victims. They will come out of the mistakes you made a whole year ago. They never forget anything. When you make a mistake, they will lie to you, telling you that it doesn’t matter until a situation like the one presented here arises. They will throw everything at you, just to distract you.
3. Harassing and destroying your reputation
If they have lost all control over you, they will do everything in their power to make others think that you are the toxic one. They will try to sabotage your reputation and dirty your name so that you have no safety net after you leave them. They want to make everyone around you think that you are dangerous, so that you end up alone, with no one to talk to after you leave.
They may even harass you and people you know. They will try to trap them and slander you or expose the so-called truth about you.
4. Sarcasm and paternalistic tone
Narcissists will use sarcasm to harm you. When two interlocutors are followers of sarcastic jokes, it can be funny but when someone tries to provoke you by using sarcasm, it does it only to humiliate you and to belittle you. And if you show him that you are not at all amused by the things he tells you, it is because you are too sensitive or do not understand his jokes, carefully studied to harm you.
Another form of manipulation is treating you like a child, as if you have absolutely no idea how to do things on your own or as if there were things that you were unable to understand and that you should be scrupulously cared for. explain. He will make you feel stupid and underrated, exactly what he wanted. He wanted to silence you and force you to forget that you have your own opinions, but little by little you have killed yourself.
5. Gaslighting
This tactic is perfect for taking away one’s esteem and self-respect. His ultimate goal is to make you feel useless without him and therefore stay with him forever, thinking that you cannot live without him, that you are unworthy to live and that no one would want to live with you anyway. He will use this tactic to trick you into believing in things that are not real. It will convince you that you said or did something that never actually happened.
He wants you to completely lose self-confidence and trust him to continue to use you, an obedient puppet, as much as he wants.
6. Criticisms and impossible tasks
These people will criticize you for one purpose: to put you down and make you feel completely worthless. There are those who will offer you constructive criticism, hoping that you will learn something and remember it next time. They want to help you, but narcissists only use criticism to discourage you. Maybe they do it out of jealousy or out of sheer wickedness.
Also, it will give you impossible tasks and determine impossible objectives to achieve; so that you keep failing and never feeling good enough. No matter how hard you try, it will set the bar so high that it will be impossible to achieve.
7. Control
They will take control and put you aside. You will never have a say. They will gradually isolate you from your friends, your family, and more or less everyone you know because they want to be the only ones to have a grip on your life. They want to shape you into the one they want by their side. And taking the risk of someone destroying this, the risk of someone making you come to your senses is completely unacceptable.
They will also take control of your finances and your free time. They will want to know what you are doing, with whom, and when. They will make sure you have control over every aspect of your life, so you can never run away.
