“Come on, pull yourself together”, “Shake yourself up a bit”, “It’s all in your head”, these are phrases that have never succeeded in helping anyone in their fight against anxiety or depression, yet people use it far too often.
They probably want to do the right thing, but it is not at all the right way to help someone who is suffering, on the contrary, it will probably only make the situation worse.
No one can control their anxiety, there is no on / off button and this feeling of helplessness in the face of this suffering only very often reinforces this person’s despair.
We have the impression that there is a pessimistic intruder in our head who affects every word that comes out of our mouth as well as every movement we make, and we feel completely helpless in front of him.
Someone who has never had to deal with this may not know that anxiety is like there is a little voice in the back of the head that you can’t even drive away if we try.
It is as if a surly stepmother follows you everywhere saying that you are not going to make it and that you are not good enough.