Wherever you look, you will see roughly the same message.
If you look at the covers of magazines, TV shows – the media in general – everyone will tell you how to become more attractive to men, how to be more beautiful, how to behave in a relationship and how to keep a man.
Basically, from the moment you become a woman, the world only tells you how to become the ideal girlfriend and woman.
It would be normal to think that, over time, things have changed and that the message we receive now is different from that which the media sent a few decades ago.
However, if you look at the bottom, you will see that we have not evolved as much as we think.
The message may appear to have a different packaging, but it is in fact almost the same as it was in the past.
Wherever you look, there is this incredible pressure on women.
We are supposed to be good wives, amazing mothers, successful careers while keeping the house clean, and being innovative in the bedroom just so our spouse doesn’t get bored.
We also need to be good cooks and control our finances, while wearing stilettos, flawless makeup and fabulous hairstyle.
The same goes when it comes to dating and romantic relationships. In fact, this is where we expect the most from women.
We can’t be too available, can we? Otherwise, the men will only want to sleep with us and then drop us.
However, they cannot be pushed too often either. After all, no one likes a girl who is inaccessible.
When we are married or in a serious relationship, it is our duty to make things work.
It is our job to save a broken marriage and to ensure that our spouse does not leave you.
Although we are only a human being, as a woman, it seems that we have no room for error.
Every gesture we make is seen under a microscope and carefully observed by the whole world.
So what the world is trying to tell us is that we have to do everything to be blameless – mentally, physically and emotionally.
Women are not allowed to have a bad day, to feel bad, to have cellulite, stretch marks or to gain a few extra pounds.
If we have faults, we are supposed to do our best to hide them. In fact, if you want to be seen, heard and chosen by a man.
But what about these men around whom the whole world seems to revolve? I don’t see any of them trying to achieve perfection, do they?
It seems that girls have been taught to be perfect for men who are far from being so from an early age. Where is the justice in all this?
And above all, what is the point?
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to tell you not to work on yourself.
I’m not telling you that you don’t have to improve.
On the contrary, I fully support your individual empowerment. I encourage you to become the best possible version of yourself.
However, there is a big difference between making yourself better mentally, emotionally and physically because you feel like it and making all those efforts just to become more pleasing to the eyes of the opposite s**x.
There is a huge difference between changing some things that YOU don’t like at home and doing it to meet society’s unrealistic standards and expectations.
If you are doing all of this just for yourself, then all the better for you. Keep doing a good job!
And even if it is so, I must disappoint you and tell you that perfection does not exist. You can work on yourself but you will always have faults.
It is therefore better to accept and love these imperfections. After all, they are part of the person you are.
On the other hand, if you are doing all of this for the sake of a man who is far from perfect or to please the opposite s**x, stop immediately.
And let me tell you a secret: a man who focuses on your faults and wants to change them is not the one for you.
In fact, the man in your life will never ask you to be perfect.
And you know the best of it all? He will love you as you are and you will be imperfectly perfect together!
