Why do we fail every time in love, despite so much effort?
Why have humans suddenly become unable to make relationships last?
Have we forgotten how to love?
Or worse, forgot what love is?
We are not ready.
We are not ready for sacrifice, compromise, for unconditional love.
We are not ready to invest all it takes to make a relationship work.
We want everything to be easy.
We are cowards.
We collapse at the slightest obstacle that stands in our way.
We leave our relationship before giving it time to evolve.
It is not love that we are looking for, it is only the excitement and thrills of life.
We want someone to watch movies and party, not someone to understand us even in our deepest silences.
We spend time together, we don’t create memories.
We don’t want a boring life.
We don’t want a lifelong partner, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, right now.
When the excitement wears off, we find that no one has ever prepared us for the mundane.
We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.
We immerse ourselves in the banalities of city life, leaving no room for love.
We don’t have the time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships.
We are busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there is no room for love.
Relationships are nothing but convenience.
We seek instant gratification in everything we do – the things we put online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with.
We want maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional bond that develops over the years, that sense of belonging when we barely know the other person.
Apparently, nothing deserves our time and patience – not even love.
We prefer to spend an hour with several different people instead of spending a day with just one.
We believe we have “options”.
We are “sociable” people.
We are more interested in meeting people than in getting to know them.
We are greedy. We want to have it all.
We enter a relationship on the slightest attraction and exit as soon as we find someone better.
We don’t want to bring out the best in that person. We want it to be perfect.
We date a lot of people, but we rarely give them a real chance.
We are disappointed with everyone.
Technology has brought us together so much that it is impossible to breathe.
Our physical presence has been replaced by texting, voicemail, snap chats and video calls. We no longer feel the need to spend time together. We have had enough of each other already. There is nothing to say.
We are a generation of “vagabonds” who didn’t want to stay in one place for too long.
Everyone has a phobia of engagement.
We believe we are not made for relationships.
We don’t want to settle down. We are scared just thinking about it.
We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our life. We leave.
We despise stability as a social plague.
We want to believe that we are “different” from others.
We want to believe that we are not up to social standards.
We are a generation that calls itself “intimately liberated”.
We can distinguish intimate relationships from love, or that’s what we think. We are the “short story” generation.
We have an intimate relationship first and then we decide if we want to love someone.
One-night stands is easy, fidelity is not.
Now you go to bed not because you like the other person, but because you want to feel good, like when you were drunk.
That’s all the temporary blooming that we need.
Intimate relationships outside are no longer a taboo.
Relationships are not that simple anymore.
There are open relationships, friends with benefits, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our life.
We are the practical generation that functions by logic alone.
We no longer know how to love madly.
We wouldn’t fly to a faraway land just to see someone we love. We would leave him because of the distance.
We are too sensitive for love.
Too sensitive for our own good.
We’re a scared generation – we’re afraid of falling in love, afraid of commitment, afraid of failure, afraid of being hurt, afraid of breaking our hearts.
We do not allow ourselves to love everyone unconditionally.
We hide behind the walls that we ourselves have created, seeking love and shying away from it when we really find it. We don’t manage it. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to expose our soul. We are too careful.
We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let the most wonderful people go for “the other fish in the sea.” We no longer consider them sacred.
There is nothing we cannot conquer in this world, and yet we are clumsy at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. They call it evolution.