“The whole world understands love, but very few people know how to love in reality. I’m talking about loving true, loving without wanting to “own”.
To love without attaching but on the contrary leaving the other free to exist outside oneself.
This does not mean resigning oneself to not having exclusivity and pushing him to be unfaithful to us, but on the contrary, it is wanting as the highest proof of love that he is first of all faithful to himself. .
This love implies an understanding, a total respect for the loved one, and also for oneself.
This implies not to impose his desires or his will, not to want to exercise any power over him.
In reality we really like it when we don’t use the weakness of the other to impose our strength on him.
But to love true we must of course be fully aware that our current way of loving is very often conditioned by our emotional shortages linked to childhood, by the false or demeaning ideas that have been transmitted to us by our loved ones, society, the so-called morality.
When we hope and do everything we can for the other to give us back the love that we may have missed in our childhood, we are asking something far too big for them.
How could he be up to it?
No man, no woman can replace this love …
We must therefore already:
- Mourn this,
- Give up a better past,
- Accept what has been and forgive yourself for sustaining the suffering for so long.
To move forward, we must also recognize our share of responsibility in everything and not constantly flee from it by blaming the other.
Then we have to see in ourselves our own value, because we all have one, we are all unique, special beings, as wonderful as it is possible to be.
So begins a work of resilience that allows us to transcend suffering and we can finally begin to fully love the being that we are.
From then on we can also really love the other for what he is and not for what we would like him to be.
We must also bear in mind that the person we love is not the one who completes us because we were already a whole being before meeting him.
We just have to think that he is only a “supplement”, someone who embellishes our existence but who does not fulfill it in any case.
So when it comes out of our life, because very often love stories end, it will not collapse.
We will even agree to let him go because we will know deep down that we cannot prevent him from experiencing what he has to live elsewhere. He is a free being and we owe it to ourselves to respect his choices, even if it hurts us….
The meetings we do are never the result of chance!
Each human being, who accompanies us a bit of the journey, has something to teach us about us or we have something to teach him about him.
We must, therefore, welcome him at best, try to understand the message, live each moment intensely in his presence, and then let him go when he decides, when something else or someone else calls him elsewhere.
To love in this way is to access the source of love in oneself which will make giving love to others become our essential, our absolute priority. “
Especially since we will realize that by giving without expecting anything in return, we receive infinitely.
This Love there, Love without any conditions, without fear, without reproach, without expectations, it is the only one, the true Love that is, Love with a capital A. All the rest is only illusions and unnecessary suffering …