Forgiveness is a deeply saving act, it helps heal the deepest wounds. It uplifts and calms the mind, whether you are the giver or the receiver.
There is something wonderful about being free from pain this way, because knowing that someone is giving you a second chance, or deciding to accept someone’s apology after being broken, frees your heart.
Forgiving someone is a powerful act.
But sometimes in love and in our relationships, we don’t forgive the right people. Sometimes we are closely related to the people who hurt us and we may tend to think that we have to forgive them in order to move forward, save the relationship, or fix what has been destroyed.
Personally, forgiveness has transformed my life in a very positive way. Accepting apologies from people who hurt my feelings, forgiving people even when they didn’t ask for it, healed my heart in the most beautiful way. But it was not easy. And not all stories are the same. Sometimes it is difficult to forgive people and it can be very painful.
But I still think forgiveness is a saving act because it helps you free yourself from what is holding you back. It frees your heart from your bitterness and pain.
However, forgiving someone doesn’t mean you make a place for them in your heart. This means that you are trying to give it a blank slate and let go to relieve the pain you are feeling. You do it above all for yourself, so that you no longer feel this weight on your shoulders.
But that doesn’t mean you have to keep that person in your life.
You can forgive someone for betraying you. You can forgive someone for breaking your heart. You can forgive someone for abandoning you when you needed to, for walking away, not taking care of you, for letting you go.
But that doesn’t mean you trust him again.
Forgiveness does not mean that you are forced to stay in a relationship or marriage with someone who has destroyed the foundation of everything you have built. When you forgive, it doesn’t mean that you continue to have a close relationship with a friend who betrayed you.
Forgiveness means that you accept the harm done to you, calm your heart, and walk away with a healthy foundation, with or without that person, it’s up to you.
When you decide to walk away from a toxic relationship, it doesn’t make you a bad person. It just means that you put your needs first.
You are not wrong to forgive and not let that person in your life again.
Giving forgiveness is a very powerful act. But it should not be given or received just because the wrongdoer asks for it. Forgiveness must come from the injured person who decides to heal. And the one who forgives can decide to forgive, but then they can choose to walk away instead of staying in the relationship.
Don’t feel like you have to stay in a relationship with someone who has broken you up. You don’t have to feel pressured to continue with someone who has betrayed your trust.
To forgive is to give someone a second chance, even when it is not deserved. But that’s all you need to do.
Just because you forgive doesn’t mean you should stay. Don’t have to stay in a relationship that has been tainted by someone else’s bad decisions.
Never forget your worth and know that you deserve genuine love that doesn’t betray you. Know that forgiving someone does not make you weaker, it makes you stronger and more resilient in the future.