You can love someone and not want them to be a part of your life
A few years ago, I made the difficult decision to leave someone I loved because my relationship with that person was one-sided. One day it was “come here I want you”, and the next day “I don’t want you because I don’t know what I want”.
Several times I have found myself hurt and disappointed. This relationship was not healthy and I did not deserve it.
When I ended this relationship, I started to question myself completely. I was starting to think to myself that maybe I had overreacted.
That maybe I could have this person in my life and have no expectations of them.
I thought that maybe I could convince myself not to love him anymore to fix the situation.
But we don’t stop loving people. So sometimes we have to make decisions that go against what it means to love someone to us. And that means it might be better not to have him by our side.
It’s not just about romantic partners, it’s also family and even some friends.
I am deeply lucky to have the most amazing family, but I know people separated from their children or parents who tell me that they have never stopped loving them, even if they have not heard from them. ‘them for years.
Many of us justify why we keep unhealthy relationships in our lives. We tell ourselves that we love this person. We explain that he’s a family member and that it would be heartless and mean to tell him that we don’t want to talk to him.
But it is not healthy.
By doing this, you are only dishonoring yourself by giving your precious time and energy to someone who doesn’t make you feel good.
Life is too short to feel like you can’t choose who you want to spend your time with and who you prefer to say goodbye to.
It doesn’t make you a bad person for wanting to feel safe, loved, and treated with all the respect you deserve.
You may think of a person and not want them to be a part of your life.
You may miss someone, but that’s no reason to contact them.
When you miss someone, it is your heart that reminds you that they were an important part of your story. You can miss someone as much as you want. But that doesn’t mean that person has to come back into your life.
You don’t have to stop loving someone to get them out of your life. You just have to love yourself enough that you know when it’s time to walk away.
