Fear of suffering, of getting involved, of being abandoned, of feeling betrayed, humiliated… the best way to overcome your fears in love is still to face them. Fear of suffering, of getting involved, of being abandoned, of feeling betrayed or humiliated: so many ideas that often prevent us from having new experiences in our emotional life.
Some people still have in-memory one or even several painful memories, reactivated as soon as they start to experience romantic feelings and which are a real brake on commitment. But the best way to overcome your fears is still to face them. So here are 8 tips to let go of your fears.
– Understand your fear
Know how to identify and understand the reasons why you are afraid of being loved or of falling in love. The first step is to find what is holding you back.
– Think about your previous relationships
Are you one of those who are afraid to love, because love has made you suffer? To overcome this fear, however, we will have to rehash certain (bad) memories and rethink previous relationships. Maybe you remember running into problems during one of these relationships, especially with a youthful sweetheart? If you broke up, what was the reason for your breakup?
– Understand your fear
Know how to identify and understand the reasons why you are afraid of being loved or of falling in love. The first step is to find what is holding you back.
– Think about your previous relationships
Are you one of those who are afraid to love, because love has made you suffer? To overcome this fear, however, we will have to rehash certain (bad) memories and rethink previous relationships. Maybe you remember running into problems during one of these relationships, especially with a youthful sweetheart? If you broke up, what was the reason for your breakup?
– Afraid of being loved or being hurt?
There are many people who deep down want to know love but are terrified at the idea of taking the risk of loving. This fear has also added the fear of being hurt, of hurting someone, or the fear of getting involved.
– Are you (really) worthy of being loved?
Fear of giving up, embarrassment at the idea of confessing your feelings… Some people have difficulty expressing their love because they feel that they are not worthy enough to be loved. Often, emotional deprivation or rejection is at the root of this feeling of not being worthy of being loved.
– Transform negative into positive
Negative thoughts are sometimes painful and often they condition our behavior in life as in love. They prevent us from loving or being loved. We often think that it is these negative ideas or those of our spouse that are at the origin of all the evils within the couple. When a negative idea crosses your mind, you just need to divert your attention to realize that thought and the feelings that are inside you. Resisting the urge to judge yourself will help change your mindset and gradually lessen your fear of loving or being loved. The next time a negative thought creeps into your mind, try to turn it into a positive one.
– Gradually regain self-confidence
Thanks to simple techniques such as self-persuasion or visualization, positive thoughts can help you better manage your apprehensions and fears, especially in love. Each day, take a few moments to look at yourself and gradually regain your self-confidence. Even say something positive to yourself about love. For example, whether you believe in love, whether you would like to believe in love or that love is a wonderful feeling, you will eventually find a soul mate!
– Try to be (more) vulnerable
To love is also to accept being vulnerable. People who have difficulty opening their hearts are often suspicious in a relationship. If you want to overcome this fear in love, you will have to break the ice and be vulnerable with your partner. It might seem scary at first, but it’s a necessary step in becoming more comfortable in love.
– Without love, life is not worth living
Overcoming these fears in love will not happen overnight. So be persistent and patient. Sentimental wounds are inevitable, it’s part of the game. But don’t give up because true love is worth living.