Dealing with narcissists with a taste of their own medicine
You have two options, leave it or take revenge. There is no third option when dealing with a narcissist. Either you say that it is your bad luck to have met him and you leave, or you stay and show him that you are strong and leave him how he feels.
A major problem with narcissists is that, out of ignorance, they don’t know how annoying and hurtful their actions and words are. No one would show them. Most people would just walk away because they don’t bother to deal with it.
You want to show the narcissist a sample of their own medicine, that’s normal. Good for you for taking this step and not backing down. A narcissist also has a weakness. Target their ego and shoot hard, that’s how you get to them. Let them know how you feel.
10 things that most damage the ego of a narcissist
1. Ignore them
They want recognition. They want to know that they are better than you and potentially have control over you. Well, they don’t. You can easily prove it by ignoring them. Don’t return their text message and just walk past them with your head held high. Don’t even pay them the least attention they want.
Show that what they say cannot affect you. Don’t show any emotion and act like it’s nothing big. Narcissists will look for opportunities to make you feel bad. If ignoring them doesn’t work, if they’ll chase you just to destroy your self-esteem, then pretend you don’t care, which you really shouldn’t.
3. Be honest about what you feel
That’s how it is. They are full of garbage. They think they are so smart and better than everyone else, when in fact they are full of stupid things. Tell them directly. When they start blabbing about some random nonsense, ask them when they’re going to stop fooling around and saying something that’s scientifically proven, not just what their smart asses believe.
Narcissists hate being challenged because they think they know better than everyone else. Being called shit will surely hurt your narcissistic ego a lot.
4. Ask them for proof each time they say something
Always challenge everything they say. If they say they can play guitar like a pro, have them show it to you in person. If they say no or find excuses, tell them they are just cowards. Take them to the guitar store and tell them it’s time to show off. Either they are actually a professional (chances are slim), or you will expose their narcissistic and lying face in front of everyone. I bet it will feel great.
Narcissists cannot bear to be challenged because they have no real power. Once challenged, they would feel very embarrassed and would try to fool around to get ahead. Keep attacking their argument until the world knows it’s just a fraud.
5. “Google it”
Another way that a narcissist would bring you down is to ask questions that they think you wouldn’t know the answers to, thus showing that they are smarter than you. Do not be fooled. Tell them to Google it and leave. Don’t waste time with them. Whatever they ask you, it is not that they want to seek answers from you. They just want to humiliate you.
6. Be sarcastic
“I thought someone as smart as you would give a more logical reasoning to your arguments.”
Be sarcastic. Making fun of them for being an idiot. They’ll be really mad and it’ll shrink their big-ass narcissistic ego. They often want to be sarcastic. Knowing that someone can be more sarcastic than he makes him doubt his self-esteem, mission accomplished.
7. Don’t contact them
Don’t start anything with a narcissistic bastard. If you start talking to them, they will think they can do anything to you and they will not respect you. After all, after everything they did to you, why would you contact them first? It doesn’t matter why you want to contact them first, whether it’s to reason with them or to yell at them, just don’t. I can tell you 10 times out of 10 that it’s not worth it.
Initiating contact with a narcissist shows dependence. It depends emotionally on them. In fact, you might believe that they are better than you. This is how idiots get to you. You should avoid arguing with them. Refrain from any temptation to contact them first. They will feel small and unpopular because no one would speak to them first.
8. Laugh at them
What is the best way to get back at a narcissist? Treat everything they say as a joke! Hurt them as they hurt you. They laugh at what you say, well, do the same to them! Laugh at them to your face. Be as hysterical as you can. Don’t worry even if you seem a little crazy. Be crazier than your enemy.
Narcissists often treat themselves as the king of the world. They don’t care what other people have to say, they think they are the best. The only way to take them down is to show that they are not the best. You don’t buy it for a second. They are normal and it is just a joke that they think they are the best.
9. Make your friends turn against them
The most rewarding feeling of all. Make a friend of a narcissist your friend. Ask them why they would be friends with this narcissist, to begin with, and convert them. You don’t really need a lot of skill to do this. What can the narcissist really do? If you are successful, you have one more friend and you will piss off the narcissist. If you fail, no harm was done, it’s not like you want to remain friends with any of them.
It is a smart move because you have nothing to lose. You are not counting to be friends with any of them. That is why you can go worry-free and use everything you have.
10. Tell them you feel sorry for them
Seriously, I would feel really bad for a narcissist because they don’t know how to act like a decent human being. It doesn’t even bother you. You can just get up and go and never see them again. Tell them that you feel sorry for them because they are the only ones who have to live with their stupid selves for the rest of their lives. For others, they can easily go away. But if they don’t change, they will have this unpleasant self that will be with them forever.
For these people, simply send your condolences. This is probably what will hurt them the most. What they have been so proud of turns out to be a shame in someone else’s eyes.
How to recover and move on
It is understandable that quitting being narcissistic can be difficult. It certainly makes you challenge yourself and your self-esteem. You think maybe you did something to deserve this. Otherwise, why would they choose someone as nice as you?
Know this, being teased by a narcissist is like being hit by a drunk driver while walking down the street. You didn’t choose him and he probably didn’t choose you either. You were just there, in the wrong place at the wrong time, and you became the victim.
Narcissists are destructive to both other people and themselves. Of course, realistically speaking, we don’t care too much about them. We worry about ourselves, we don’t want to be dragged down when they come down. Once you have realized that you are friends with a narcissist. It’s time to leave.
You have to convince yourself that it is not your fault to attract a narcissist. It has nothing to do with you. It could literally happen to anyone. You really can’t blame yourself when a drunk driver hits you, blame the driver. Blame the narcissist on yourself and no one else. Once you’ve figured it out, moving on becomes a lot easier, because you’re no longer mired in guilt and regret.
After this experience, you will be more aware of the people you make friends with. That is a natural defense system and there is nothing wrong with it. Pick friends that you are comfortable with and stick with them. Remember, quality is always above quantity. It may get to a point where you feel like you only have a few friends. But you will know that those are your friends by heart. They are there for you no matter what. That’s what true friends do.
Being the victim of a narcissist is a devastating experience. Taking revenge on a narcissist is simply comforting and charming. It feels better than becoming a Disney princess. Narcissists are human too. They have their weaknesses, especially with that gigantic ego that they have. You want them to try their own medicine. You go for his ego. Take our advice and it’s time to kick your narcissistic friend’s butt today!