When we are attracted to someone it can be for various reasons. But, at the end of the day, if there is no love, that relationship has no future.
For some, love is instant and intense. For others, it grows over time as you get to know the person.
There are times when that love was never there at all or may even disappear over time.
People change and with them their feelings. It is natural.
The problem is that some men can get into a relationship with a woman for whom they have no feelings. Or there are simply people who, due to their life experiences, have not learned to love healthily.
It can be heartbreaking to find out, but it’s best to be clear about it so you can move on with your life.
One of the greatest dangers in relationships is resignation and denial. Many couples stay together simply out of comfort or habit.
But from my own experience I can tell you that if they are not good together, it is almost certain that both of them will be better apart.
If you are wondering if your partner loves you or not, then it is time to review the signs below
1) He never says
It may seem a bit obvious, but women often forget to see this as a red flag.
The simple fact is that if your guy loves you, he will have no problem telling you so .
If he hasn’t uttered these words yet, then take it as a sign.
Especially if you did tell him. This shows that you are at that stage of the relationship, but the feelings are not reciprocated.
2) It’s never in the details
Has he ever ordered your coffee before, knowing exactly how you like it?
Does he text you randomly during the day, just because he remembers you?
Does he notice the little things you share with him, like your favorite color, your best dessert, or even your childhood dog?
Remembering the little things is a strong sign that he loves you and cares about you.
On the other hand, if he can’t even remember your birthday, the love is clearly not there.
If your man has never been one to notice these little details, it’s safe to say it’s not love.
3) He never shows it
While it is true that not all men are hopeless romantics, if he is in love with you, he will find a way to show it to you. Even if it’s his way.
Forget big gestures like a surprise weekend getaway, and think about the smaller things.
Will he sit next to you at the end of the day and rub your back?
Does he ever offer to cook your favorite meal?
Does he go out to buy you ice cream?
These are the little things he does to show you how much he cares about you. It’s his way of being romantic.
If you cannot think of any gesture he has made for you, no matter how small, it is a sign that he does not love you.
4) You feel like his mother more than his girlfriend
There are some men who just need to be taken care of.
These are the men who are moving house, away from their mother, and need a woman to fill that place.
They are basically incapable of living alone and taking care of themselves.
They enter a relationship to fill that void. They’re not looking for love, they’re just hiring help.
Think about your own relationship…
Do you cook, clean, wash, shop… all for him? Does he want you to?
Is he sitting around playing video games while you frantically clean around him?
This is not a relationship based on love.
Get out while you can, you’re worth much more than this.
5) They fight a lot, sometimes it’s as if they can’t stand each other
I’m sure this is not strange to you. Because you have lived it or because you have seen it.
There are couples who just can’t seem to stand each other.
They are irritable even when other people are around. And they have no problem claiming and criticizing each other in public.
If this happens to you with your partner, you should know that it is not healthy and it is a clear sign that he does not love you.
6) He is not interested in your life
In a love relationship, both of you support each other in what you want from life.
Whether you’re thinking of making a career change or having an argument with your mom, your partner should be there to hold you, comfort you, and help you through.
- Does your partner ask about your day?
- Do you want to know how your work is going?
- Will he listen to you when you’re in trouble?
If you still find yourself running to your best friend or friend for this help and not receiving anything from your partner, that’s clear.
You are simply not a priority in his life.
He does not love you.
7) Doesn’t make any effort
Does your boyfriend ever go out of his way to set up a date? Does he make compromises for you and does he give you priority?
Does he call you to make plans (besides sleeping together)?
If your relationship feels very one-sided and you’re the only one putting any effort into it, then that’s a good sign that he doesn’t like you.
A man who does not love you will not compromise anything, nor will he worry about being the one to give in from time to time.
He simply uses you for his convenience. He has you at hand when he has time and nothing else.
8) No communication
Communication is one of the basic pillars in any relationship.
If you don’t share your personal problems, dreams, passions, then the relationship doesn’t have much of a chance.
If you feel like you’re competing with television or play to exchange a word with him, then it’s clear that he doesn’t love you.
A boy in love will want to share everything with his other half. He will tell you about his day and his plans for the week, he will want to share everything with you.
At the same time, he will want to hear everything about your day and week.
- Do I feel comfortable sharing my problems with him (and him with me)?
- Do you listen me?
- Do I know what is going on in his life (and he in mine)?
- Do we ever have meaningful conversations about the future?
If the communication is not there, it is very likely that he does not love you enough.
Do you want to give this relationship one last chance? After all, if you’ve shared a lot with this man, you probably care.