Are you and your man running out of things to talk about?
Have you just gotten into a new relationship and have no idea what to talk about when you’re not locking lips?
Here are 14 things to talk about with your boyfriend (old or new).
After all, what are you going to do when your mouths aren’t glued together?
Talking isn’t as easy as kissing, is it?
In fact, it can be downright intimidating, especially for those of us who are introverts and not very good natural conversationalists.
But a real relationship isn’t just physical stimulation; it’s also based on intellectual stimulation, so you and your partner need to talk to each other!
So I made a list of things to talk about with your boyfriend.
It’s basic and simple, but that’s how all good conversations start anyway.
Depending on where you are in your love life, these could be casual conversations for daily dinner or they could be an early stage for you to get to know what your conversation is about.
Whatever the case, they really work!
1 . Sports
There is a high chance that one of you in this relationship is a sports fanatic, or at least watches a game once in a while.
Try chatting about your local football team, or better yet, go to a local sporting event so you can talk about the game later!
2 . Comics
The world of comic books is virtually limitless and you can talk about anything from Batman to Chobits.
If your partner has never gotten into the comics business, try taking them to a bookstore and leafing through them.
3 . Skateboarding
Many men are (or were) skateboarders.
Now, I can’t tell you anything about skateboarding because I’ve never been, but I dated a few in my high school years and I can tell you that if you catch a guy talking about his skateboard, he’ll talk about it for hours!
What’s even better is that he usually asks if you want to try (which makes for a good time together!).
4 . Art
On the other side of the spectrum, I also know some men who love art or are artists of some kind.
When it comes to art, there are so many different types to talk about that it’s practically impossible to go wrong.
Try going to an art museum or spending the day creating it yourself.
Arts is not just for girls.
5 . Films
Everyone has a list of movies they want to see, so it would be a good idea for you and your boyfriend to compare lists and rent a few movies to watch together.
Plus, the movies you two saw will contribute to hours of conversation, believe me!
I once spent an entire first date talking about movies.
6 . Foods
Speaking of dates, why not talk about your favorite foods?
Is there a food you’ve never tried, but always wanted?
Do you have a food list?
I bet so.
Go ahead and strike up a culinary conversation… preferably over dinner.
7 . Your Dreams
This topic can be literal or figurative.
If you had any crazy, quirky dreams last night, then this is a great conversation starter!
Unless he’s one of those guys who never remember what he dreamed about, he must have something to add to conversations.
Of course, you can always talk about your dreams and goals for the future.
What are your goals, what do you want to be or do?
Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
8 . Catching Up
One of the easiest and most overlooked conversation starters is the very simple and basic “how was your day?” Without you asking your boyfriend how his day was, there’s a good chance he won’t talk about it.
Guys aren’t like us; they don’t just openly share all their thoughts and feelings.
Ask him about work.
Tell him how your day was; Did something fun and exciting happen?
Bring it up and comment with your man.
9 . Books
Everyone has a favorite book, so why not ask him to share his favorite literary titles with you?
Or better yet, why not read a book together?
Have you ever seen movie scenes where the couple is in the park and he’s reading to her while she’s lying on his lap (or the other way around)?
You and your man should give it a try!
10 . Family
Okay, there are good family stories and bad family stories.
One of the best ways to get to know your boyfriend (or anyone else) is to compare the good ones.
Share some of your childhood pranks with your partner, talk about when you and your family vacationed in another country.
The family talks a lot!
If you’ve been in your relationship for a long time and have some family baggage, maybe it’s time to open up about it?
11 . History
One of my favorite questions to ask someone is, “If you could live in any era in history, which era would you choose?” This is always a great conversation starter because there are so many different options!
I can tell you what time I wouldn’t want to live in, but it’s much harder to pick a time when you’d really like to be!
Discuss the pros and cons of your chosen time periods.
12 . Songs
One of the best things to talk about is music.
There are so many great bands out there right now, and so many different styles and genres to choose from… music can bring endless possibilities!
Another great way to start a conversation is to go see a show!
You can go to a concert or symphony, or you can just go see a local band at a bar and have a fun night out.
13 . The Future Together (Even Just For The Short Term)
If you’re looking for a more serious conversation to have with your boyfriend, try talking about your future together.
In fact, I highly recommend having this conversation.
You can talk long-term or short-term, or if it’s a new relationship, you can even just talk about what you’re going to be doing together in the next week.
The purpose of the conversation is to make plans with each other.
14 . Current Events
An often overlooked topic of conversation is current events.
I’ll be the first to say I don’t watch the news.
I can’t stand to hear bad news, I get even more depressed, but not all news is bad.
Find something positive to talk about, even if it’s something that happened to a family member or friend, and share the joy.
Talking to your boyfriend should come naturally.
The two of you must want to be with each other all the time and you must be genuinely interested in what the other has to say.
The best way to talk to each other is to be open and honest with each other.
Oh, and when it comes to questions to ask a guy, remember to ask the open-ended questions… you know, questions he has to answer in sentence form, not just yes or no.
Either way, when it comes to talking openly with your boyfriend, the most important factor is how well you can really understand him.
Men have their secrets and they are often difficult to decipher unless they feel close enough to really open up to you emotionally.
But it doesn’t have to be that hard once you learn to speak directly to his heart.