Marry Or Divorce?
Many people perform wedding ceremonies in churches, parks, or other locations, such as the picturesque scene shown above a gazebo.
They take vows and prepare for what they hope will be a time of unequivocal bliss with their partners for decades to come.
Undoubtedly, committing takes work and sacrifice.
Over time, situations arise that test the couple’s level of enthusiasm and dedication to the ideas and beliefs they have about marriage.
However, couples can overcome these obstacles with understanding and compassion.
However, divorce can be the end result if these issues are not resolved.
While divorce rates appear to be decreasing, fifty percent seems to be the stubborn statistic where marriages end in divorce.
In some countries, marriages last longer, but staying together requires flexibility and patience from both people, regardless of where they live.
Below are some of the most common factors that contribute to divorce:
The Key Components of a Successful Marriage
Even though two people decide to get married, they must engage in behaviors that lead to a long-term marriage, preventing them from seeking a divorce attorney.
The two must carefully develop unshakable respect – and admiration for each other’s traits, accomplishments, and abilities.
This is not just about making each other as each prefers, but restraint is crucial.
At the same time, from this mutual respect, a deep level of trust must end up revealing its presence in the relationship.
This cohesion does not occur without effort and difficulties.
Even so, I have worked with individuals and their partners in implementing rehabilitation services to help them solve problems.
The one consistent point I’ve found to be true – if these couples had a good foundation in their marriage, they would tend to successfully overcome obstacles.
In addition, they displayed many of the qualities below in their patterns of communication and actions towards each other.
Here are several strategies that can help you maintain a strong and healthy marital relationship; my wife and I practice these guidelines daily:
9 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage
Friendship With Other Couples
Find married couples to hang out with and develop close, trusting friendships for when problems occur.
A long-term couple can help guide the younger couple through the early years of their marriage.
A huge plus: if both couples have young children, the children will be able to observe good, healthy interactions between adults.
Remember: imitation is a powerful learning tool.
Divide The Interests
Everyone is different, and couples must remember that they are individuals who agree to come together with different experiences and abilities.
You may prefer an activity or thing while your spouse does not.
Try to bring these interests together: for example, you can play an instrument and your spouse likes to sing – together you can make beautiful music.
Or you might like to cook; treat your spouse to a surprise meal they prefer.
Encourage each other
When the crisis erupts, you will have to comfort your spouse.
Listen up.
Give advice if asked.
Cheer up your partner by reminding them of situations that the two of you have overcome with strength.
Find Time to Chat Every Day
Remember: your marriage is your most important adult relationship.
A few minutes of honest listening can make a substantial difference to the progress of your marriage.
Some examples of good times to talk include: bedtime, during a meal, or just before/after the workday.
You will receive dividends in your relationship over the years by simply asking a question like, “How was your day?”
Plan Time For You and Your Spouse Alone
To stay in touch emotionally with each other, plan activities that you both enjoy on your own.
For example, watching a movie is a good way to have fun and talk about the movie afterward.
Visit a museum or go to a concert.
Go hiking or camping.
Working in the yard or garden – these activities are as diverse as the number of couples on this planet.
It’s up to you two.
learn to argue
Disagreements will happen – naturally.
Pay attention to the problem.
Avoid name-calling and accusations.
Look for resolutions that benefit both of you.
Remember: you don’t have to be right all the time.
Consider your spouse’s happiness when you start a fight.
Be willing to apologize, ask and offer forgiveness.
Free yourself from the little things
Unless health is involved or there is some other constraint: food choices, types of music to enjoy, shows to watch on television – these are not essential topics to position yourself in the long term.
Learn to take turns and share the little things, or ignore them altogether.
Focus on the Big Questions
The quality of life in a marriage helps determine whether it will remain successful.
Discuss long-term goals and enjoy planning for them, such as for retirement.
Balancing family needs, changing income and assets, the perception of moral obligations – are important topics to keep in mind.
Adjusting to Changes in Marriage
Realistically, the person you marry will not be the same person for decades to come.
People change and evolve.
Disabilities can affect one spouse or both.
Jobs can be moved from one location to another.
The list of variable events is numerous.
The essential question you need to think about all the time is: Can I handle the best in life and will I be there when the worst comes?
Ironically, recognizing that circumstances can change unexpectedly is a key step in strengthening the relationship.
Do you believe that the marital relationship is the most important adult involvement in a person’s life?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not intended to replace formal, individualized advice from a qualified professional.