How do you know you’ve found the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Are you wondering if you are making the right decision?
Well ladies, here is the checklist of important qualities to look for in your future husband.
I’ve been married twice, which means I’ve learned a lot about the qualities needed in a man who is a husband.
Love really isn’t enough.
Now don’t get me wrong, love is an absolute necessity in a marriage.
You have to be madly in love with your man to marry him (or risk the chance to fall in love with someone else when you’re already married).
Aside from love, though, what are the qualities you absolutely must-have in your future husband?
The first thing a husband needs to have is honesty.
He not only needs to be honest with you, but also with himself.
He needs to know who he is, what his strengths and weaknesses are, what his limitations are, and where he is going in life.
Honesty with each other and with yourselves is the only way to keep a marriage filled with open communication.
2 . reliability
Your future husband must be trusted.
Can you trust him to remember to pick you up at work?
Is he picking up the kids from swimming or going out with his friends?
Does he say he’s going to fix the garage door or clean the kitchen and actually do what he promises?
Reliability is required.
Remember, marriage is forever and you don’t want to spend forever doing everything yourself.
3 . Kindness
One of the most important qualities your future husband should have is kindness.
As simple as this concept is, you wouldn’t believe how rare it is.
A man must be kind.
He should be kind to you, to strangers, to the elderly, to children, and to anyone and everyone in between.
A man who is kind to others is a man who will be good to you.
If he helps old ladies across the street and donates to charity, then he has the quality of kindness.
4 . Monogamy
An absolute necessity in your future husband is monogamy.
I’ve read countless stories about studies that show humans shouldn’t be monogamous.
I believe humans can certainly be monogamous and this is one of the most important qualities your future husband should have.
You need to know that he is yours and yours alone.
5 . Prospects for the Same Life
Since we’re talking forever, it’s important that you and your future husband have the same outlook on life.
If he has strong religious convictions and you don’t, you need to discuss this matter.
If you want twelve kids and he doesn’t want any, then maybe the two of you need to make a compromise.
There are always things you need to compromise on, but it’s important that you and your future husband have at least the same ideal of where you’d like to be in the next six years.
6 . Sense of humor
One of the most important qualities to look for in your future husband is a great sense of humor.
Life has its ups and downs.
Sometimes you need a good laugh to get through the day, and any man you marry needs to be able to laugh at you.
My ex was from another country and he didn’t understand Brazilian humor.
I would tell a joke, and he would look at me and say, “I don’t understand.”
It was always weird to laugh alone.
Also, if you plan on having children, both of you will need a good sense of humor.
7 . good with kids
Speaking of having kids, you should try to find out if your future husband is good with kids.
If you and he plan on having at least one child, you need to see how he acts with other children before you marry him.
8 . Family Values
It’s not just the kids you and your future husband have to agree with, or he has to be good with; your husband must also have strong family values.
He must care for and protect his family, he must respect them as a wife, and the children must listen and respect him.
Strong family values (regardless of religious beliefs) are a quality to look for in a future husband.
Finally, one of the most important qualities to look for in a future husband is respectability.
If you don’t respect someone, you can’t love that person.
Make sure he is hardworking, reliable, kind, and considerate.
These qualities are necessary in a respectable man.
He also has to respect you.
If your future husband doesn’t respect your opinions or feelings, he’s not worth your time and you should run away now… End it quickly.
Otherwise, if your man has all these qualities (and more), keep him and have a long and happy life by his side!