Why do people make relationships so extremely complicated?
They honestly don’t have to be – people just make them that way.
It’s partially because people love having a little extra drama in their lives, making them feel like they’re living their favorite soap opera or reality show.
This complication is also largely due to the fact that most people don’t really know what they want.
And when they know what they want, they still have a hard time figuring out if what they have is really what they want — or if it’s good enough.
Few are the ones who can make a decision and stick to it until the inevitable end, whatever the end.
Most people end relationships before time runs out.
It’s this kind of Band-aid approach that leads people to give up on their partners for little.
Even worse is the fact that many people already understand what they think and decide to start ruining the relationship by never fully committing.
All of this is great for people to never give in fully – they invest a minimal amount and minimize their risk.
However, they cannot let their partners know how little they are involved in the relationship that they really are, because that would guarantee a premature breakup.
Instead, these crooks – because that’s what they are – put on a facade and let their lovers believe they are just as dedicated to the relationship as they are.
I believe it goes without saying how cruel and wrong this is.
The truth inevitably emerges, and the only person who gets hurt is the one who has dedicated himself totally to the relationship.
The crook simply goes on with his life as if nothing has happened.
While only dedicating half of yourself to a relationship is unethical, the responsibility falls on both parties.
Of course, the crook should never have started the scam in the first place.
However, it is also the fault of the individual who was deceived.
If you are being lied to, you must know that you are being lied to.
Easier said than done?
In truth no.
Most people are evil, liars and crooks.
For the most part, there is a lot of transparency in the relationship and how much each individual is putting into it.
The problem lies in the fact that love is often blinding, making it difficult to see the illusion we create for ourselves.
However, if you are being lied to, you have to blame yourself as much as the idiot who lied to you for so long.
Worse still is the fact that many people see the blow coming from miles away – and allow themselves to be a part of it anyway.
This is simply stupidity.
We fall in love with someone we know is bad for us, someone we are almost certain will never love us, and yet we decide to get involved.
Why?
This varies by individual.
Some like to be victims.
Others think they can make someone fall in love with them.
Others still simply lie to themselves and convince themselves that the relationship will work – when it clearly won’t.
I’m sorry, but if you see a blow and let yourself be fooled, you deserve the pain that follows.
I hope this pain serves as a lesson and you begin to realize the madness of your ways.
Someone who is only half dedicated to you and the relationship is not someone who is worth your time.
You are better than that.
You deserve better than that.
And you need to demand and expect better than that.
If you don’t, and if you allow yourself to waste your time with someone who will never love you the way you deserve to be loved, at least accept the result.
Don’t go running to your friends and family looking for a shoulder to cry on.
They don’t want to hear your complaints or see your tears.
It’s the pain you wanted and it’s the pain you got.
You decide how to live your life and who to spend it with.
We make decisions and then we must live with them.
Learn to make better decisions.