Most of us know at least one person who moves from one relationship to another with little time to breathe.
These people have never been single for more than a few months, and during that time, they actively research or start “talking” to someone else in hopes of assuaging the perception that they are now, in fact, alone.
What they don’t understand, however, is that being alone after a breakup is the best medicine on the road to recovery from a broken heart.
While you likely already know this, I can attest to the fact that being alone after a breakup is definitely not easy — especially if your ex quickly moves on to someone bright and new.
It’s important to remember that you’re definitely better off without him in the long run.
Immediately after a breakup, why would you need to worry about a new person?
A new person means new relationship problems to fix and new ways to learn and adapt.
A new person means leaving someone new and relearning to trust.
Are you ready to let someone in while the pain of the past is still very fresh?
Fresh from a breakup, it’s ideal to worry about fixing yourself.
I’m not saying you should go out and eat alone at a restaurant, but it’s good exercise.
I’m just saying you should stay off the phone and not worry about who is texting and who isn’t.
The bottom line is that people who need to be constantly dating someone tend not to be the most self-reliant and independent people.
If you’re really afraid of being single – subconsciously or not – you need to focus on the core self-esteem issues you might be ignoring.
You owe it to yourself to become as strong as possible on your own two feet.
In the year after my devastating breakup, I learned more about myself than I ever dreamed possible.
And I know there is still a lot to learn.
When I didn’t have to worry about someone else’s wants and needs, I was able to satisfy my own first.
Before this year I had already tried it, I didn’t even have a favorite flavor of ice cream because I had been eating my ex’s favorite flavor for years.
A few years later, when you’ve completely gotten over and forgotten about the person who broke your heart, you’ll be proud of yourself for taking the time to get over things—alone, without someone else filling the space.
Don’t feel inferior because you’re just dealing with your breakup; feel strong.
You absolutely need time to heal before you can fully give yourself to someone else.
Nobody wants – nor should they try – to rebuild their heart for you.
You need to be strong enough to do it yourself.
Your patience and perseverance will definitely pay off.