31 Sure Signs He Doesn’t Love You

When you’re trying to figure out if someone loves you or not, it’s definitely not easy.

Here are some expert tactical indicators that will tell you whether he loves you or not.

Signs He Doesn’t Love You

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Studies show that a man doesn’t love you if he’s not interested in the little details of your life.

If he doesn’t want to hear about your cat acting weird or how embarrassed you were at work for forgetting a meeting, it’s best to think about whether or not he loves you.

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He just doesn’t seem to “want” to connect or make things better with you.

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It seems like he’s fighting over the silliest things and for no valid reason.

This will affect the quality of the relationship as a whole.

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He starts buying things he likes but you don’t.

This is simply reckless behavior, no matter how you look at it.

It shows that he really doesn’t care what you think and that’s not love.

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If a guy starts trying to make you what he wants and not what you want to be, he doesn’t really love you.

Think about this for a minute.

You deserve to be with a man who loves you for you, just as you are, not how he wants you to be.

It just doesn’t work.

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He always seems to be talking about what’s happening in the future rather than what’s happening at the moment.

If your man is talking more about the future and nothing else, you have reason to be concerned.

The now is as important as the future in any relationship.

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There is no routine or consistency in his contact with you.

For example, for a while, he might text you every morning and night religiously, and then suddenly he doesn’t text you at all.

Or maybe he just stops trying to call or text you.

Pay attention, because if a guy loves you, he clearly lets you know that.

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He keeps you hidden from his parents.

If your guy does his best to make sure you don’t know or get to know his parents better, that’s a sign that he just doesn’t love you.

Think about it, if he loved you he was proud to have you as his girlfriend, he should want his family to know you or at least know you exist.

Don’t be fooled here, please.

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So you asked him if he loves you and he clearly says he’s not sure.

If these are the words spoken into your partner’s mouth, you need to take this as a direct sign that he doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved.

If he did, he would be afraid of losing you and wanted to show you that he loves you on many different levels.

He wouldn’t leave you guessing.

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It’s only natural that the two of you have some common interests or you probably wouldn’t have met in the first place.

However, if you don’t have clear-cut future goals together or are at least talking about them, he doesn’t see you in his future.

I’m sorry, but better now before I waste any more time.

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He has no interest in meeting you in the midst of his future goals or desires.

If his mind is closed to negotiating, he doesn’t want you to be the love of his life.

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If he tells you that he still wants to meet other women before making a solid commitment, you need to kick his ass quickly.

You don’t deserve a second or third place.

Of course, you have different expectations, wants, and needs, and it’s time to keep your chin up and move on.

Don’t think about it, just do it.

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This guy you like shows or, even worse, says he doesn’t trust you.

Damn… this one is hard.

If your guy starts accusing you of things based on a lack of trust, he’s just trying to take the focus off his lack of love for you and place the blame he’s probably feeling on you.

This is one of the oldest tricks and you need to be careful.

If he doesn’t trust you, he shouldn’t be with you no matter what.

So if he makes you feel that way, your best decision is to say goodbye.

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He doesn’t want to listen when you want to discuss the things in life that are important to you.

That’s pretty nasty.

If someone loves you, they should know and learn what is important to you and be there when you need them – End of story.

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Every time you want to talk to him about relationship problems, it ends up in a huge fight.

This is another strategy to try to put the blame on you.

Don’t let him get away with it.

FACT – relationships are hard work and if he’s not willing to sit down and discuss issues routinely, without big fights, the problem is much bigger than normal conflict.

A guy who just wants to fight you doesn’t love you – period.

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He makes very little or no effort to make sure your two lives intertwine.

If your guy doesn’t do his best to do his thing and avoids making plans with you when it’s definitely possible, that’s a sign he doesn’t love you.

What you need to do is shake your head and take positive action to stop this nonsense.

Couples in love want to stay together and grow together.

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He seems to be brain dead when it comes to remembering the little things; like your favorite color, your birthday, etc.

Don’t you think someone who loves you would remember the little things to make you smile?

Even if he’s bad with dates and numbers, he should at least take the time to program on his cell phone as a reminder.

Excuses get you nowhere.

A man who loves you will remember many details because he wants you to feel special.

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He’s quick to explode at you in public just to hurt your feelings.

A man who loves you shouldn’t belittle you on purpose, especially in public.

Of course, there may be times when he doesn’t recognize a certain subject you are sensitive to.

However, if he knows how you feel, think, and offends you anyway, you need to break up with him, because he doesn’t love you for the right reasons.

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This sign is super sad.

When couples fight badly, it’s unhealthy and will only lead to lots and lots of heartache.

If this guy is hitting you where it hurts and playing dirty, he’s showing he doesn’t love you.

Sorry, but it’s true.

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He says or suggests that you need to dress better or lose weight because you are too fat.

These are two very sensitive issues for most women, and if a guy is trying to change you, he’s not for you.

You must be proud of who you are and love yourself for who you are.

Of course, there will always be things we want to work on to improve, but you shouldn’t feel pressured to make changes by the man you think loves you.

He must be supporting and loving you as you are.

Think about it for a long time and take action.

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This guy chooses to date other people more than you.

He wants to be with you or he doesn’t want to be with you. Score.

And if he’s choosing your friends over you all the time, he’s trying to tell you something. He does not love you.

A man who loves a woman wants to spend time with her, with no excuses.

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You seem to annoy him easily.

If someone loves you, they won’t bother with you, usually anyway.

So if your man seems to have gotten angry with you, you need to ask yourself if you really believe he loves you or not.

Be smart here, please.

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When they screw up or make a mistake, they don’t sincerely apologize to you.

This sign is the worst.

You shouldn’t be with a guy who doesn’t have the human capacity to apologize to you when he reacts.

You do not deserve it.

So if your boyfriend can’t apologize to you, you need to seriously consider the possibility that he just doesn’t love you.

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He just doesn’t give you little tokens of affection, showing that he loves you.

Reach out, kiss your cheek, you know what I’m talking about.

If a guy doesn’t give you these little signs of affection without you asking, he doesn’t love you.

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You seem to be his friend instead of his lover.

I’m not going to tell you that this is all bad, but if you feel the focus on “friendship”, you’ll need to consider the fact that he might not love you; sad but true.

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Conversations are like pulling teeth.

It’s all about desire and attitude here.

If a man loves you, he’ll do whatever it takes to make sure you feel comfortable, and yes, you’ll naturally have those awkward moments of awkward silence, but they should be few and far between.

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His eyes aren’t glowing when they look at you.

If you pay attention, you’ll see that people actually smile with their eyes when they’re really feeling it.

Maybe the eyes are really the window to the soul?

Take a good look at his eyes and you’ll be able to find out if he really loves you.

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He is cheating on you.


If a man cheats on you and says he loves you, he’s manipulative.

Cheating has never been and never will be in the love equation.

You know what you need to do if that’s the case.

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He doesn’t mind letting go of his family and friends.

If a man loves you, he will not consciously try to hurt you by speaking ill of his friends and family, whether it’s true or not.

When a man just doesn’t like his family, he doesn’t love you, because your family, whether you like it or not, is a part of you.

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He has no problem making fun of things that interest him.

Maybe you like to knit or like to watch birds.

It doesn’t really matter what it is, because if a guy loves you, he won’t go out of his way to make you feel bad about it.

When a guy makes fun of the things near and dear to his heart, he just doesn’t want to be with you.

Of course, it can hurt, but you deserve better.

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The wall goes up when it comes to compromising.

If this guy with a heart of stone closes the door on any kind of commitment to you, he’s just not ready to love you.

It’s up to you to find out if this is a sign to run away from him or give him a little more time.

Let’s take a look at the signs that he really loves you.

Final Words

I wish it were easier to find out if a man loves you or not.

It just isn’t.

What you need to understand are the clear signs that a man doesn’t love you.

The point is… You deserve to be loved for who you are now, as you are.

If the man in front of you isn’t showing you that he’s in love with you, then you need to let go of him and look for something bigger and better.