There’s nothing more disappointing than falling in love with a man who looks like he’s never going to commit to you!
Maybe, for you, you’ve finally hooked “the chosen one” – only to find he’s just not ready.
Time after time, he shows that he’s not ready for compromise.
This is frustrating!
Here are some reasons why he might not be ready to admit that you’re the woman in his life…
Why He Doesn’t Commit And What To Do About It
Reason One – He Isn’t Breaking Up With His Ex-Girlfriend Yet
According to relationship experts from an online dating service, many guys say they’re over their ex when they really haven’t.
That makes sense because they wouldn’t have a chance with you if they didn’t say so.
In all honesty, he might have tried to convince himself of that too.
It’s hard to accept the fact that you might have opened up to him, shown his vulnerabilities, only to end up with the rebound girl when all is said and done.
As disappointing as this news is, it’s best to find out sooner rather than later.
That’s little consolation for how you’re feeling right now, but it’s the reality.
If you find a picture of his ex hiding in a drawer somewhere or even a gift or two lying around, you’d better seriously ask yourself if this man is ever over his ex.
Reason Two – Simply Low-Quality Past Relationships
Some relationship endings suck.
If your guy has had a nasty breakup, it makes sense that he would be a little cautious about committing to someone else, no matter how perfect you are for him.
Remember, this is about him, not you!
Of course, this depends on the circumstances.
It can take some time for him to figure out that you’re not like her, no matter how much you show him.
He’s scared and is probably looking for indicators that you’re going to get just as nasty as his ex.
Think of it as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That’s a tough question, and if you can muster the patience, you can expect him to find out.
Otherwise, you will have to try to move on.
Reason Three – He’s Thinking About Someone Else
This is a truly painful reason.
Sometimes men can’t make up their minds and like to shoot in different directions.
It’s not fair, but it happens.
Follow your instinct.
If you think he has another girl in mind, you need to talk to him.
If you haven’t yelled at the world that you’re boyfriend and girlfriend or your guy has a history of dating more than one at the same time, you need to take this point seriously.
The last thing you want is to end up being the second choice to a man who clearly doesn’t care about your feelings.
Hard to hear this, but it’s the truth.
Reason Four – Glad As He Is In The Now
Believe it or not, there are some guys who decide to date even when they don’t want a girlfriend.
Totally not fair to the girl, of course.
Sure, he might enjoy closeness, but his priorities are his friends, hobbies, and work.
That’s what I call the “me” boy.
You better give up, unless it’s a colorful friendship.
Reason Five – Money, Money, Money
Yes, money is a huge factor in any relationship.
However, it can prevent a man from committing to a woman.
A guy might not commit to a girl because he’s built a mountain of riches and doesn’t love her enough to take her along for the ride.
Sad but true, and that just means he doesn’t know what love is all about.
He may also be worried about the divorce factor.
It’s unpleasant, and it’s often the man who loses.
There is no doubt about it, and understandably it scares men to death.
If you really want him to commit, you need to reassure him that he can stand on his own.
Show him that you will contribute and that this should solve this problem.
Seeing is believing.
Let him know that you are willing to sign a prenup if necessary.
Just make sure he’s the one you want to commit your heart and soul to.
Reason Six – Some Men Are Addicted to Romance
Many men are truly addicted to the idea of falling in love.
They really believe it.
These men like to flirt; they like to meet new women.
It’s not really a game for them.
Think of it more like a hobby.
Make sure your partner has a history of being a romance junkie.
If he has, don’t expect him to commit to you, because he won’t.
This is how the fantasy of romance falls apart.
Reason Seven – Pressure Cooker
Even in a truly loving relationship, some men will feel like they’re being pressured to take it to the next level when they’re not ready.
Give him time to figure it out, but if you feel he’s feeling pressured, ask him how he feels.
He needs to know how you’re feeling, but if you’re already picking out your wedding decor and deciding your guest list, you’re giving him the ticket not to commit to you.
Reason Eight – Pre-Term Liability
With any true union comes to a lot of responsibility.
It makes sense that some men might not be ready for the responsibility.
Sure, he might love spending time with you, but he might not be ready to hold the bucket for you.
If you are approaching 40 and the fertility clock is ticking, he may not be ready to deal with the alarm going off.
This reason is completely understandable.
However, this does not mean that it is acceptable.
It’s up to you.
Reason Nine – You’re Not His Dream Girl!
This pill is difficult to swallow.
Make a note that you won’t always be his dream girl.
There’s really nothing you can do about it even if you want to.
Guys should know deep down that you’re not the one, but they’ll tie you up because they like you in their arms.
Maybe they enjoy your company.
This is where you need to take control.
Make him decide, and if you’re not what he’s looking for, you need to break up and move on.
Let’s take a closer look at why you shouldn’t commit to this man.
There are certain types of men that women shouldn’t date, especially if you’re looking for a special man you want to walk down the aisle with soon.
It’s important that you learn not to waste time with “maybe” men.
Be aware that the mind is a powerful thing, and it’s very easy to rationalize his behavior because you want the dating game to be complete forever.
If he acts like a duck and quacks like a duck, he sure is a duck!
It’s never easy when you’re trying to figure out why he doesn’t commit to you.
It is important that you work step by step.
First, you need to make sure that this is the guy you really want in your life forever.
Pay attention to the warning signs of a bad apple and throw it away if it describes your man.
Then you need to look at the pointers and signs and decide why your man isn’t committing to you.
There are often multiple indicators that you need to address.
Finally, you’ll need to figure out what to do about it.
Sometimes you can reassure him and eliminate commitment issues; others, there’s nothing you can do.
Most importantly, never forget that you are in the driver’s seat.
It’s up to you to make sure you find and keep the man of your dreams, the guy who wants to commit to you and only you.