If you clicked on this because you’re really worried that your boyfriend has stopped liking you, the first thing you need to know is to trust yourself.
Do not believe me?
Well, that comes from the experts.
“It’s not something people just dream about in their heads unless there are warning signs,” says Eric Resnick, an online dating coach who has many clients who come to him after the relationship breaks down.
While some of these warning signs are listed below, read on knowing that your intuition should always come first.
1. He Is No Longer An Active Participant In Your Relationship
Maybe he doesn’t hear like he used to.
Maybe he’s been too open with his emotions and is now leaving you out.
Maybe he’s reluctant to make plans with you, or he’s not going to talk to you when you ask him about his weekend plans.
According to Resnick, whether or not a person is struggling in a relationship is an important sign that they are losing love.
These signs, by themselves, don’t necessarily mean that someone doesn’t love you.
Stress – particularly money or work stress – can definitely factor in how much a person is able to participate in a relationship emotionally.
The only way to find out what’s really going on is to ask.
2. He Doesn’t Flirt With You
Depending on your love language, your partner may show affection by giving you gifts or simply saying that you look beautiful.
Whatever the language, you will definitely notice when it disappears.
“If he doesn’t compliment you like he used to, it’s a sign he’s lost interest,” says Resnick. “That could be something coming from him or something you’re projecting onto him.”
People strive for both physical appearance and social grace when they first fall in love, notes Threadgill.
Flirting requires an effort that needs to be continued for a relationship to continue as well.
“If you notice that you’re no longer a priority in his life, it’s a sign he’s disconnected or pulling away,” says Threadgill.
3. He Puts Less Effort Into Taking Care Of Himself
Flirting shouldn’t just be one-sided, Threadgill points out.
When love happens for the first time, people tend to be more aware of how they look.
Do you know that makeover impulse that comes after a breakup when you start going to the gym or shopping?
This comes from an almost primal fear that you won’t be able to attract a new partner.
If your partner isn’t taking care of themselves anymore, it’s a sign that other things could be slipping away as well.
“He may also loosen up or withdraw in an effort to create distance,” adds Threadgill.
4. He Doesn’t Want To Fix Relationship Problems
“Men have biological needs to provide and protect.
They also tend to solve problems and want to ‘fix’ what’s not working in the relationship,” says Threadgill.
Surprisingly, she says that 90% of the queries she receives are from men.
So, if you bring the above issues to your partner’s attention, and he’s not willing to work on them, that’s a big indicator that if you’re not done yet, you will soon.
As in any relationship, communication is key.
If you’re worried about losing love, it’s time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner.
And if he doesn’t give you that, well, that might be all the information you need.