What Message to Send to a Guy When You Want to Take the First Step

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Gone are the days of waiting for a man to approach you and make a move.

Women are becoming more and more confident in their ability to ask a man out whenever they want.

These days it’s women who take the first steps and, I must say, that’s awesome!

However, even if you are a confident woman who has the courage to take the first step, it can still be daunting.

Something that makes this a lot easier is taking the first step through a text message.

While some people may be against it, I am not.

What Text Message to Send to a Guy You’re Interested In

With texting becoming the primary means of talking to someone, it makes sense that you would make your strategy through texting – especially if you already have a good momentum going.

But the problem is finding exactly what to say so he knows how you feel without scaring him off.

I have a lot of experience texting guys when I like them and experience making the first move, and I have a lot of friends who have already told me exactly what they would like to receive in a text.

Before we get to what to text a guy when you want to take the first step, we should first go over some basic text messaging rules.

Text Messaging Rules

It might seem like you should just text whatever you want, whenever you want, but there are a few rules of texting a guy that you should get to know before you dive in for the first time.

1. Never send multiple messages if you didn’t get a reply from the first one.

Nothing screams “NEEDY AND STICKY” like texting after text when he hasn’t even responded.

I understand that you’re eager to talk to him because you like him, but it makes you look desperate.

2. Never text him after midnight.

Some people may know these other unspoken rules, but this one might be new to you.

I say you should never text a guy after 0:00 because most guys take it the wrong way – and you definitely don’t want to be seen as easy if you intend on dating him…

3. When He Says He Needs To Go, Don’t Text Him.

This is a big mistake most girls make and you come off super clingy in a guy’s eyes.

When he says he needs to do something and he can’t talk anymore, don’t text him while he’s away.

If he’s got his cell phone near him, it’s going to be very annoying, and if he’s not, he’s going to think you’re needy and over-the-top when he finally looks at his phone.

4. Don’t Let The Conversation Die.

Conversations that happen quickly never result in a good relationship.

To text a guy when you want to make the first move, you should keep the conversation lively but never forced.

Think about topics to talk about, and if you find something he seems to like, stick with that topic for a while.

Now, What to Text a Guy

Now that you know what to avoid when texting a guy, we can move on to the good stuff.

When you want to take the first step through messaging, here’s what to send a guy and why messaging works.

1. There is a great movie, and no one to keep me company. What do you want to do tonight?

That message would be perfectly placed when he asks what you are doing tonight.

It’s perfect because you’re not being too blunt, but you’re also letting him know that you don’t have company and want one and that you’re ready for a relaxing night out.

2. I have two tickets to this amazing show. Will you be busy this weekend?

If you really want to go on a fun first date and you feel really good about the chances he’ll say yes, then send him this message.

You don’t have to say you bought tickets specifically for both of them, but just by saying you have two and asking if he’ll be free at showtime will let him know that you’re into him.

3. Hi, what do you say we go out tonight?

This message is particularly helpful when he says he has no plans for the night or even if his plans didn’t work out.

It might have been last minute, but if he was already planning to leave, he should be ready.

4. I like you. Let’s have a coffee sometime.

Straight to the point.

A direct approach is never a bad idea when texting a guy when you want to make the first move.

Honestly, I think most guys like it better that way – or at least everyone told me.

This takes the guesswork out of the whole thing.

5. You know, I think we would have a lot of fun together.

This message is a little vaguer and works especially well for shy people who feel confident that the guy likes them too.

It’s not easy to ask him out on a date, but it’s spreading the idea that you’d like to go on a date if the opportunity arises.

The ball is now in your court.

6. You’re a lot of fun texting, but what about in person?

Men are competitive creatures.

If you send this message, it will seem much more of a challenge to him.

He’s definitely going to want to prove to you that he’s just as fun in person as he is online and you’ll have a date!

7. I’ve never enjoyed talking to a person as much as I enjoy talking to you.

This is a very cute message that will definitely make you smile.

In addition to being flattered, he’ll also get the hint that you like him.

I hope he feels the same way and this message gives him the opportunity he needs to ask her out.

8. So there’s this party I was invited to, but I think it’s going to be really bad. Do you want to come with me so I at least have a fun person to talk to?

It might seem counterproductive to ask someone to accompany you to a “clunky” party, however, it works very well.

You’re flattering this guy by not only inviting him but also telling him he’s going to be the only fun person at a lame party.

This encourages him to go and you are also revealing how much you like him.

9. What do you think of us taking this great conversation out to eat?

If you’re having a great conversation and would rather meet in person, send him this message.

As long as he’s not busy and you can get up and running quickly, this is the perfect way to go from texting to in-person easily and without a lot of work.

10. You know what, we’re going out one day. I think it would be a blast.

Another very direct approach that doesn’t put a lot of pressure on a guy.

When you’re having a fun conversation with him, throw it in the middle of the conversation.

You’re clearly stating that you’d like to go out with him, but by avoiding the word “date” you make it less formal and it’s easier for him to agree.


Knowing what to write for a guy can be one of the hardest things.

Fortunately, we have all the messages you need to get started.