Forgetting Your Ex Boyfriend
Every failed relationship is painful.
It hurts us in a way that no physical wound is capable of hurting…
I was also heartbroken.
I was so mad at myself for being so foolish and blaming the world for being so unfair.
I wanted to punch anyone and wanted to be alone for a while (thank God I don’t have suicidal tendencies).
I was emotionally tortured at that moment.
And every time I hear the sound of some cheesy songs, I start to cry.
I wanted to move on.
I wanted to forget about him as soon as possible (and that can happen the next morning when I woke up), but I couldn’t.
Everywhere I looked I saw him… there are so many memories and I thought I would go crazy trying to avoid them.
Soon, I realized that it’s not enough to just want to move on…
I have to do something about it and I did. It wasn’t easy, I’ll confess.
There were times when I was literally banging my head against the wall because I was too weak to fight the urge to contact him and erasing all the numbers didn’t help because I had the numbers in my head.
But as time went on, it became less painful until you literally couldn’t remember how it felt anymore.
Fortunately, I made it!
Let me share with you the things I’ve done and I’m sure it will help you too.
1. Accept What Happened, But Don’t Get Stuck in What Happened
It’s normal to be upset, crazy, and hurt after a breakup, especially if it’s someone else’s problem.
And you would probably be mad for a long time.
But if you get angry, you would just stress.
You have to accept that the relationship is over and don’t even try to pick up the pieces because you would only get hurt.
Acceptance is the first step to moving on and getting over this stupid ex, so it’s time for you to take the first step.
Once you’ve accepted, don’t get hung up on what happened.
Don’t overthink and overanalyze things.
Don’t get hung up on the “what if” or “what could have been” in the relationship.
Not worth it.
Believe me, I tried and it just made me feel worse and worse.
You can choose to avoid thinking about it to avoid suffering.
It’s not easy, but you can do it.
A good way of thinking is to record your feelings.
It doesn’t have to be the best writing or even good writing.
Just put your thoughts on paper.
Imagine that as you write, bad feelings and thoughts are leaving your body and sticking to the paper.
2. Let go
The rule of every relationship is never to be clingy.
You have to learn to let go. I know it’s not easy.
Letting him go is actually the most crucial and most difficult phase of any relationship.
There are too many memories and forgetting those memories seems like an impossibility.
Well, who wouldn’t find it hard to let go of their ex?
You invested so much time, money, and tears into making the relationship work, only to lose it in a heartbeat.
Of course, it’s hard to get rid of it! Who am I kidding?
However, you also have to think of yourself, dear.
You should respect and value yourself more than anyone else, and being rude indicates that your self-worth is well calibrated.
Don’t get attached to someone who doesn’t see your true worth. It will not work.
3. Get Out More And Be More Active
I understand that you want to be alone and I respect that.
Every woman deserves some alone time and I won’t deny her that right.
When you’re alone, you can think, but don’t overdo it. Don’t stay indoors for too long.
Get out.
Enjoy the outdoors.
Socialize with your friends and girlfriends.
This will give you less time to think about your ex.
Enjoy the sun or go somewhere else with your family.
It will definitely give you a better view of the world you live in… the world without your stupid ex…
Don’t forget that you lived very well without him. Your life isn’t over now that they’re gone.
Also, exercise, sunlight, and fresh air will help you to become healthier, which will make your body feel good.
Soon, your heart will start to feel better too.
4. Don’t Look Back Or Imagine “What If…”
Once a relationship is broken, it will never be the same again, no matter how hard you try to get it back together.
There’s a reason the relationship didn’t work out, and it’s rare that the relationship works the second time around.
If the reason for the breakup is unrelated to the couple (like a job or just a little misunderstanding), it is possible that things will work out if the situation changes.
But if you broke up because of individual differences or betrayal, you should think twice before getting involved with the same person again.
You need to look within yourself and be honest.
If you think you can still trust the person with all your heart, then go for it.
But you have to be careful.
Seriously, if he cheated on you once, he will cheat on you again for sure!
What I’m trying to say is that it’s best not to look back.
Fewer conflicts, no worries, and new possibilities for love and a better life.
Science has proven that if you cheated once, you will cheat forever, do yourself a favor and look for someone who can see your true worth…
What I’m trying to say is that it’s best not to look back.
You will have fewer internal conflicts, fewer worries, and more possibilities for love and a better life.
5. Make New Memories
To get your ex-boyfriend out of your mind, you have to create new memories.
If you’ve visited some places together in the past, you need to go to a new place you’ve never been before.
Better yet, go somewhere you’ve already been, but this time do it with your loved ones and friends.
Eat a cuisine you’ve never tasted before.
Try a different sport.
Do something you never thought you would do like bungee jumping, skydiving, zip-lining, rock climbing, or anything else!
If you create new memories, you’ll have a better chance of getting over your ex, and in the process, you’ll discover many other things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.
6. Strive to Improve
Are you single?
This is the best time for you to focus on yourself. Now your money and time are all yours.
Don’t feel guilty about spending it.
Go to a spa.
Buy a new set of clothes, shoes, and makeup.
Give yourself a big makeover as the strong, independent woman that you are.
Enroll in a cooking course and learn something new.
Indulge in worthwhile activities such as yoga, swimming, cycling, and the arts.
As you improve yourself, you build the self-confidence that was damaged by your previous relationship.
Being confident in yourself gives you a certain balance.
It makes you feel good about yourself, and that’s very attractive.
It also helps to have a role model or mentor, someone you look up to as a person.
It could be someone who has also been through a breakup and can give you some guidance in dealing with your feelings.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
7. Avoid Contact With Your Ex-Boyfriend As Much As Possible
Your ex may still want to contact you, even after the breakup.
If that happens, it will certainly make it harder for you to forget about it.
Be respectful but attentive to their needs.
You can change your number (or block his) and delete his number from your contact list.
If you’ve memorized his number, you’re really going to have to discipline yourself and do your best not to contact him.
Try to memorize other important phone numbers.
Keep yourself busy so you don’t even have time to think about contacting him.
Over time, you will be surprised that you no longer remember his phone number.
Block it from all your social media accounts, and delete all your old messages and emails so you don’t waste time.
Make a new email address.
The desire to contact him will gradually diminish until you no longer remember him.
8. Make Lifestyle Changes
Make a list of all the things you want to do with your life.
What are the things you could never do when you were with him?
Did he hate boating because he got seasick? Take a cruise.
Did he always turn away when you wanted to go dancing? Take dance lessons!
Clean your room and throw away all the things that are associated with your ex like photo albums, gifts he gave you, and old flowers you still keep as keepsakes, letters, and birthday cards.
If you have posters or pictures on the wall with it, repaint your walls and redecorate your room.
These are not easy things to do, but you have to move on, and removing these things as a reminder of your previous relationship will help you forget about it faster and for good.
Challenge yourself to be strong and you will be amazed at how easy and how rewarding it can be when you succeed.
9. See the Good in Yourself
Nothing is impossible if you are determined to truly move forward, but you need to help yourself.
Make a list of all your ex’s bad qualities, the things you couldn’t stand in him.
List all the reasons why you shouldn’t get back together.
Then list all of your good qualities, those qualities that make you special and that are worth a second chance at love.
Make a list of your 100 best qualities.
Don’t stop until you reach 100!
Having these things written down will help you convince yourself that you made the right decision.
10. Love Again
This is the best way to get over your ex.
Even if your previous relationship didn’t work out, that shouldn’t stop you from loving again.
Try not to close your heart to a new possibility of a better, bolder, bigger love than the one before.
Smile and hope.
There is someone who is right for you, someone who will be grateful to have you, someone who will value and respect you more than anyone else.
You will find a new love that will make you grow more and that will be inspired by your everyday life.
And who knows, the next person might be the one you decide to spend the rest of your life with.
That’s it, folks. That’s my advice.
If I managed to get over my ex, I’m sure you can too.
Even if it looks like it, it’s not the end of the world.
There is still someone out there waiting for you who will find you no matter what.
Be grateful and learn from your past and use it to become a better, kinder person.
Realize that there are different types of people we should meet in life.
Some of them are just passing by to teach us lessons, some will make us stronger, some are intended to show us what the real world is like and there are those that will stay with us forever.
Love yourself more and you will see that new love is coming soon.