You never know if you’re dating an insecure man until it’s too late.
Find out if it’s worth dating a man full of insecurities and how to spot signs of an insecure man.
If there’s one thing that’s unattractive about a man, it’s his insecure behavior.
It’s safe to say that you’ve probably dated an insecure man, as more than half of them have some form of insecurity that keeps them from being 100% self-confident.
That’s right.
More than half of them are insecure.
Surprising, isn’t it?
What’s even more surprising is that virtually every woman has had the experience with insecure men.
And the funniest part is that most women don’t even know they’re in a relationship with an insecure man.
Men and Their Insecurities.
Insecure men can be one of the most sensitive and coolest men you’ll ever meet.
At first, he can be shy, but always ready to help you when you need him.
As time goes on, you will begin to notice that the help and advice have started to turn into snappy orders and manipulative requests for you not to do what makes him insecure.
Unfortunately, you won’t see the signs behind the mask of a kind, nice man until it’s time to end a relationship or after you’ve already broken up.
That’s the strange power of insecurity and insecure men in a relationship.
Experiences With Insecure Men.
Reader Patricia tells a story that you can relate to.
She dated an extremely insecure man years ago.
He was an exceptionally nice guy who loved Patricia and treated her like a princess.
The moments together were incredible.
A few months later in the relationship, he began to think that Patricia’s friends were a bad influence on her.
She started to think that too and decided to spend less and less time with her friends.
Then it was the same with her colleagues at work, with her time at the office and her time at the mall.
He was never thick.
In fact, he was extremely understanding and nice.
Patricia was important to him.
However, he seemed to get hurt when Patricia went out without him.
Except he went out with his friends.
When Patricia told him she wanted to do something, anything, he was always furious if it wasn’t something he approved of.
Patricia then started to change just for him, to make him proud of her.
After all, he was a great catch.
However, the more Patricia tried, the more she failed.
Nothing pleased him, and he always found a way to point out flaws in the things she did.
Patricia was in this situation for almost three years until she decided to end the relationship once and for all.
A few dates later, Patricia met another great guy.
After a few weeks of dating this new guy, she started to see the same symptoms she’d seen in her old boyfriends, amazing guys who treated her well but over time turned into impossible men to please.
The Mind Of An Insecure Man.
It took a few years to see what she was going through with the guys she was dating.
Acknowledging the fact that you are dating an insecure man is never easy.
Almost every time, you’ll end up assuming your boyfriend is a self-confident guy.
If you’re stuck in a relationship with an insecure man, you’re going to have to spend your whole life trying to please him and make him feel happy and satisfied in the relationship.
And when you least realize it, your insecure man will learn to control his life by playing the victim.
And you will never see that you are being manipulated until you lose the happy life you once had and become a woman whose only ambition in life is to keep her man happy and make him proud of her.
The Problems Of Dating An Insecure Man.
Insecure men are scarily jealous.
But they won’t admit it.
In fact, they will make you feel like you are the bad person in the relationship.
They will behave as if they are sacrificing so much for your happiness, leaving you burdened with guilt.
Insecurity in your man can also make you antisocial and stunt your career and growth as a person.
When you least realize it, you’ll start avoiding all your friends and only spend your free time with him.
Even when you want to meet a friend or friend, you will wonder if your boyfriend or husband will think it’s bad.
Have you been through this?
So you’ve fallen into the trap of being submissive to an insecure man.
One of the easiest ways to recognize an insecure man is to notice his behavior when you are having a pleasant conversation with another man.
A confident man would not feel offended or threatened when his wife talks to other guys, even if he knows that the woman has had a history with the guy.
Insecure men don’t say what they feel.
They look for ways to tie you down and do things their own way.
Why Are Some Men So Insecure?
Insecurity is a deep-seated problem, and every man has different reasons for being insecure.
However, almost all insecurities are associated with men having low self-esteem.
If the guy is afraid of you breaking up with him, he will do anything to manipulate you into staying with him.
Insecure men like to control women because they can’t resolve their own feelings of inferiority.
Even so, they are not brave enough to speak their minds and feelings.
Another truth is that extremely insecure men have serious issues that they prefer to ignore.
And there’s nothing you can do.
So don’t try to date an insecure man in hopes of changing him.
He won’t change unless he chooses to change and fights to resolve insecurities.
Signs Of Insecurities That Men Show.
One of the biggest signs of insecure men is a lack of trust in the relationship.
If your man doesn’t trust you or seems to be always suspicious of your behavior, he probably has a lot of insecurities to deal with.
Most insecure men can’t take criticism and will do anything to blame someone else and won’t accept their faults or try to change for the better.
Insecure men are not always insecure.
Sometimes it may just be the fear of losing you that makes your man insecure.
When you feel a hint of insecurity in his behavior, help him by showing affection and giving love.
If that doesn’t work, run away before he starts trying to manipulate you!
Conclusion.
Insecurity in love may seem cute at first, but there is a fine line separating an adorably jealous man from an extremely insecure man.
Keep your eyes peeled for this and try to observe more because there are a lot more insecure men out there than you can imagine.