Getting a man back may not be as easy as you might think, especially when your boyfriend is mad at you.
Here’s exactly what to do.
Every relationship goes through difficulties at times.
There will always be that time when you did something wrong and it made him angry.
Although you, as a woman, would prefer to see your boyfriend asking to make up so you feel better right away, most men will not react that way.
Maybe you’re uncomfortable going to bed angry, but for your man, sleep is just what he needs to clear his head.
Whatever the case, if you were the one who screwed up and made your boyfriend very angry, you have to take a different approach.
When Your Boyfriend Is Angry At You: 15 Things You Can Do.
If your boyfriend is irritated with you, or if the two of you just had a huge fight over something you provoked, here are a few things you need to keep in mind to get it resolved in record time.
1. Don’t Put More Fire on the Campfire.
If you guys just had a huge fight, both he and you are on edge.
He might be angry because of what you did, but that doesn’t mean you have to be mad either.
Even with a valid argument, you’re not going to help your case if you keep adding more fire to the argument.
Choose your battle and let him have the final word, especially at this point.
2. Give Him Space.
While you might want to fix things right away after a fight, the same can’t be said for your boyfriend.
Men want their space to reflect, so you need to get away for a while, even if you think you should go there and talk to him to try to make things better.
When your boyfriend is mad at you, he probably just wants a little alone time.
3. Don’t Force The Problem.
If he’s ignoring you or trying to avoid the problem, let him.
This is part of the fact that he wants some space.
If you’ve fought over something, you won’t be able to force him to reconcile and talk about the problem right away.
Most men don’t like confrontations, so you should wait until you see he’s in a good mood before talking to him again.
4. Give Him Time.
Depending on the severity of the fight, set aside a few days to stay away.
If you did something really bad or the fight was really bad, chances are you’re both about to freak out.
He may just want to distance himself from the situation for a while and put things in perspective.
Once you realize that he’s had the time to think about everything, you can then start talking about the problem and looking for some form of solution or reconciliation.
5. Make it clear to him that you care a lot about him.
As you give him time and space, keep showing him that he can count on you if he needs it.
Let him see that you’re giving him space, but not completely shut yourself off to the point where he can’t turn to you if he has problems or wants to talk about other things.
6. It’s Not Personal.
If your boyfriend doesn’t seem to want to talk to you, ignores you, or doesn’t respond to your texts and calls, don’t take it personally.
As stated before, men need time and space to process what is happening.
It’s not your fault he doesn’t want to talk to you yet.
Don’t forget, though, that it’s probably your fault that he’s extremely mad at you.
7. Respect His Privacy.
So… he asked for some space.
He’s not talking to you, he’s not asking you on a date, not even that usual late-afternoon coffee.
That doesn’t mean you should hack his Facebook and Instagram accounts just to see if he’s looking for other girls or talking about you to his friends.
Snooping around won’t help.
Just give it the space and time… And let it come to you.
8. Don’t Gossip About Your Fight.
Okay, you might be feeling bad about the fight and think you’re right, but don’t go around telling your friends about this fight.
A quick, shallow conversation about the subject is great, so you can vent some of your feelings and cry a little on your friend’s shoulders, but please don’t go around talking badly about your boyfriend to everyone.
Now that he’s mad, the last thing he wants is to hear from other people that the two of you are fighting.
9. Wait For The Right Moment.
Once you think he’s ready to talk, choose the right time and place to have the conversation.
Avoid public places, and always think of the worst-case scenario, for example, you could end up crying, begging on your knees… or he could end up with his eyes bulging with anger.
These discussions should be held somewhere private and in a place where there are no distractions.
10. Apologize… With All Sincerity In The World.
There’s no reason to prolong your fight.
There’s also no reason to indulge your ego, especially if it was your fault in the first place.
If your relationship is very important to you, then admit that you screwed up a lot and are sorry you hurt his feelings, and apologize for making him angry.
Once you start talking, apologize genuinely and control the urge to downplay, rationalize, or blame your boyfriend.
11. Listen to Him Carefully.
When the two of you start talking, avoid turning the conversation into a one-way street.
If you really want to apologize to your boyfriend so he doesn’t get mad anymore, let him talk.
Let him talk about what he felt or what you made him feel.
Genuinely listen to what he has to say and avoid interrupting him.
12. You don’t have to have the last word.
A relationship is a matter of commitment.
While there are inevitable misunderstandings, you have to choose your battles.
You don’t have to be right all the time, just as he shouldn’t think he has to be right all the time.
When your boyfriend is mad at you for something you did, be humble enough to accept responsibility for it and don’t make excuses.
13. Show All Your Affection.
Continue to show him that you love him, even if he is mad at you.
In fact, when you start talking about the fight, that’s a perfect time for you to be sweet to him.
Petting and talking in a soft voice are great tactics.
You can even use your hugs and kisses to win him over and make him stop getting mad.
You have the power to end the discussion just by doing this.
14. Fix Errors.
Once you’ve taken the blame for your mistakes and talked about everything that went wrong, it’s time to correct the reason for the fight.
If he’s mad at you because you texted your ex, then don’t do it anymore.
Better yet, delete it from your contacts and social media.
This time, don’t give your man more reason to be jealous, and give him your full attention from now on.
15. Don’t Do It Again, Or At Least Try Not To.
When your boyfriend is mad at you, saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough.
You also need to prevent the same thing from happening in the future.
Apologizing for something one day only to make the same mistake in the future will only make him more suspicious of your “sincere” apologies.
By following these tips above, you will be much more likely to reconcile when your boyfriend is mad at you.
Who knows… maybe you can even make peace with a great night of love!