Do you want to know if dating your ex-boyfriend again is a good idea?
Before we go back to the past, here are 10 rules that will prevent a lot of headaches.
Some women rarely give their ex-boyfriends another chance.
After all, if it didn’t work the first time, why try the second time?
However, every now and then the same women who rarely give second chances end up giving in to an old flame, and it’s usually worth it.
Of course, when you get back together with an ex-boyfriend you know what to expect from him.
You know what it feels like to make love to him, you already know his favorite TV show and the candy he likes to buy you at night.
However, to give yourself a second chance, you’re going to need to be braver than you are when you’re dating someone new.
You have to forgive and forget… you have to be able to overcome the conflicts of the past.
So before you let your emotions from the past ruin your future, remember these 10 rules for dating your ex.
1. Don’t Bring Back The Past.
No matter what happened between the two of you before, no matter if he cheated on you or if you were the one who did something wrong, the first rule of dating your ex is not to remember him is not to make him remember the negative things from the past.
You should never start a sentence with the words, “remember that time…”.
Leave the past in the past and don’t talk about bad memories.
2. Don’t Ask Questions.
If you and your ex-boyfriend have been separated for a while and you know that the two of you have had a chance to meet other people, you are not allowed to ask questions.
Rule number two for dating your ex-boyfriend: It’s none of your business what happened when you were apart.
3. The Slate Is Now White.
Rule number three is similar to rule number one, with the exception that it takes more effort.
You have to be able to erase the blackboard before you can get back together with your ex-boyfriend.
In other words, try to learn about it, try to know more about it all over again.
Instead of assuming that you already know everything you could possibly know about your ex-boyfriend, give him a white slate, forget about the past, and learn all about him all over again.
4. Be Cautious, But Not Suspicious.
Of course, giving him a white slate doesn’t mean you have to go back into this relationship blindly.
In fact, rule number four is very simple: be cautious with your ex-boyfriend (it’s very difficult for people to change habits and behaviors, so he may not be as perfect as he seems), but don’t completely distrust him right away.
Go slow and don’t wallow in presumptions.
5. Remember The Reasons It Didn’t Work.
One of the best things to remember when you’re getting back together with your ex is why it didn’t work out the first time.
Before you think it won’t work this time, you need to seriously analyze why you broke up.
You just weren’t ready for a relationship?
Was there too much distance?
Was it some small detail or some huge problem?
Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember why things didn’t work out the first time and work to resolve those issues.
6. Don’t Make The Same Mistakes.
This brings us to rule number six.
While it is difficult for people to change their behavior, it is not exactly impossible to change the way they act.
One of the most important things you can do for your new relationship with your old boyfriend is to remember your mistakes and not repeat them.
- Did you pressure him too much?
- Were you too needy?
- Too arrogant?
Don’t be like that anymore.
- Were you too closed or too open?
Try doing the opposite this time.
7. Don’t Go Back To Love Fully At Once.
When you get back together with an ex-boyfriend, one of the first things you’ll notice is that all those old feelings come back with a vengeance.
You may think you’ve become friends with your ex, but when you kiss and hug him again, your heart will race and all those old feelings rush back into your head and into your heart.
The reason you can’t go back to loving your ex unconditionally is that he might not be as monogamous as you are, meaning you just want him and he might be hooking up with you and others at the same time.
So, before starting to openly declare yourself, saying “I love you!” out of the blue, beware of old sensations and treat feelings for him as if he were a new person.
Yes, this is easier said than done, but this rule can save you a lot of heartaches.
8. Go Slow.
Not only do you not want to start the love part of a new relationship with your old boyfriend right away, but you also want to take things as slowly as possible.
Go slow.
9. Your Friends and Family Must Know How to Behave.
If there’s one universal aspect of any relationship, it’s that men and women love to share problems with friends and family.
In other words, if you had a bad breakup with this guy and you’re sure your brother is capable of killing your ex if he sees you in front of you, you better tell your family that you’re dating again before you show up. with him at dinner.
Also, make sure your family and friends are behaving.
Their opinions must be kept secret.
10. Try New Things.
Finally, rule number 10 for dating your ex-boyfriend explicitly states: “try new things”.
Before jumping into the old relationship rut you had with him, it’s important for you and your ex to go out and try new things together.
If you guys had plans you’ve never made before (like skydiving or camping in the desert), then now’s your chance to do just that.
Conclusion.
When you get back together with your ex-boyfriend, don’t forget to be truly ready for that person again.
Don’t come back just because you’re unloved or lonely.
Also, don’t let the past become the future… and follow these 10 rules to avoid suffering.
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