Choosing Between Two Guys: 20 Questions To Help You Decide

You’re in a situation that most girls only dream of being in, but is it really fun to choose between one guy or the other?

This article will make that decision easier for you.

Have you ever imagined that one day you would be in the middle of a love triangle?

Except, in this triangle, both guys are madly in love with you, and you’re in love with both of them.

While this may seem like a situation that only happens in dreams, that leaves you feeling great when you wake up, this situation is not so easy to resolve and get out of.

Of course, you love spending time with the two guys — going on dates, cuddling at the movies, and even having a little fun under the duvet, but eventually, both of you will want to take over the relationship and put a label on it…

Thus, you will have to choose one of the two to stay exclusively.

How Can I Choose One If Both Are Awesome?

How to choose if you really like both guys equally?

On the one hand, you are aware that you have to choose one of the two to assume a relationship.

But on the other hand, you’re so happy with the two of you living this love triangle that you don’t want to lose either of them!

Finding a person you want to date and be on your side is always rare, imagine two!

Even though you feel lucky in this situation, you are now responsible for the happiness of one of these two guys… and responsible for the unhappiness of the other.

We have something to learn from actress Reese Witherspoon in the movie War Is War.

Some of her practices for deciding which man is better might seem strange, but others have made it onto our list of ways to get a choice between two guys.

1. Know As Much As You Can About Both.

How can you properly decide between two guys to date if you don’t know either of them very well?

To confidently decide which man is best for you, you should want to find out everything you can about them: their hobbies, what they like and don’t like, where they work, the interests they both have in common with you, the personality of each, and so on.

2. Talk About His Plans For The Future.

What do these guys want out of life?

What is his view of their life path?

To choose who is the best for you, you will have to guess which person has a future that best fits yours.

How can you choose a guy if his plan is to travel the world and you’re terrified of flying?

3. Try to Find Something Determining a Possible Breakup.

What do you find unacceptable and wouldn’t date a guy with that trait?

Everyone has something like that. A determining negative factor.

You know yours, and you’ll want to make sure he doesn’t have any.

Does Mark smoke? Does Bruno hate dogs? Is one of you reputed to be dishonest or unfaithful?

In addition to making sure they don’t have any driving factors and stopping you from dating, you should also show your driving factors so you don’t feel guilty and ensure the two of you won’t fight in the future over one factor or another.

4. Beware of Warning Signs.

Sometimes it’s hard to see something they do as a warning sign, but you have to pay attention.

One of the two makes fun of you, but does it make you feel bad?

Do they try to hide the content that appears on their phone?

Things like that can be serious warning signs in a relationship.

5. Spend At Least Two Consecutive Days With Them.

Spend at least one full weekend with each one.

This is crucial in determining whether you’ll be able to stick with one of the two in the long run.

You can have the best chemistry with someone for a few hours, but what happens when you’re together all day?

Are you annoyed or are you even happier that you can be on his side?

This will help you decide who you can see by your side at all times for years to come.

6. Think About Your Feelings.

It is practically impossible to like two people equally.

At least not truly.

Maybe you have strong feelings for both of you, but one of the two makes you feel the true power of love.

Sit down and think deeply about which of the two you feel you have the most connection with.

This will help you choose between the two guys.

7. Don’t Compare The Physical Appearance Of The Two.

Some people will say that you should choose the person you find most physically attractive.

And even though physical attraction is a big part of a relationship, it’s also the part that dissolves the fastest.

So remember not to put your physical appearance too far when you’re considering choosing who you want to be with going forward.

8. Think Critically About the Future.

How do you feel imagining your life without one or the other?

Which of the two seems easier to forget?

If it’s easier for you to imagine your everyday life without one, then you should choose the other.

9. Which Of The Two Names Are You More Excited about When Appearing On Your Phone?

When you’re with someone, their name popping up on your phone makes you all happy.

What name makes your stomach turn cold when you see it on your phone?

Who are you most hopeful of receiving a text message from?

10. Who can you have the best conversations with?

At the end of the day, you’re going to want someone who’s easy to get along with and talk to. You’ll want to be with the person who can stimulate you more mentally than physically—but preferably both.

11. Who Can You Comfortably Be Silent With?

Having great communication is very important, but finding someone you don’t have to say anything to on their side is just as important.

When you’re dating someone, you can’t spend every second talking.

This means that you will have many moments of silence.

You need to be with someone fun even when the two of you are silent.

12. Which of the two makes you feel more attractive?

Maybe both guys make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, but one of them sure makes you feel like the more attractive woman in the world.

You must want the man who has the ability to make you feel the best…

Even on your bad hair days.

13. With which of the two can you be more yourself?

You should never fake anything for the person you want to date.

If you think you’re more comfortable being yourself with either one specifically, choose him.

14. Don’t Ask Anyone For Help.

You’ll want to set up a meeting with your friends to discuss which of the two men is best for you, but the problem is, your friends don’t know how you feel.

They can only see what guys are doing, not how they make you feel.

That decision only you can make.

15. Which of the two makes you feel safer?

In the long run, you will want a man who leaves you with a sense of security and comfort.

One of the two makes you much safer than the other.

This is the one you should choose.

16. Which of the two cheers for you more?

You will have many moments in life where you will feel down and down.

You need a boyfriend who can encourage, motivate and cheer you on quite effectively.

The best guy for this is the guy you should choose.

17. Make a Comparison List.

All those things in your head aren’t as effective as a list on paper.

Lists are more visual and you can better see the strengths and weaknesses of each person.

Make this list and find out who suits you best.

18. Consider Putting His Past Into The Equation.

Now, it’s true that you shouldn’t judge a person based on their past, but if you’re trying to decide between two amazing guys, you should.

Who had the worst relationship in the past?

Chances are good that his new relationship will follow the same pattern as his last one.

So stay well informed about their past relationships.

19. See Who’s Trying Harder.

One of them is definitely trying harder than the other to be with you.

So, find out which guy is fighting the hardest to win your heart.

It is very likely that he will last longer with you.

20. Do you act more naturally on one side than on the other side?

At the end of the day, a relationship has to be easy.

A relationship shouldn’t require a lot of effort from you for you to be happy and comfortable with the person you’ve chosen.

So decide which man you are most comfortable with.


Deciding between two amazing men who seem to have great qualities is not an easy task.

Fortunately, you’ve just learned all the details that will make this process a lot easier.