Breakups happen for a variety of reasons. Breakups often happen unexpectedly.
In any breakup, a common emotion that we can all feel is heartbreak. This can lead to a bad mood and general anxiety.
It is normal to have these feelings. But, if you want your ex to come back to you, he must know what he is missing. So it’s better not to stay like that for too long. There are many ways to make your ex miss you and also get him back.
The methods that exist don’t have to ask or beg him to come back. In fact, doing so might just push him further away. It’s important for him to feel like he’s a hot commodity and very rare to find. Ask yourself.
What do you have to offer in the relationship? What do you have to offer yourself? Sometimes when we fall in love, we can find ourselves so involved in someone else’s life that we ignore our own identity. It’s important to reconnect with your true self above all else.
Things you should know about how to make him miss you after a breakup
I know I know.
If a man broke up with you, this can seem a little scary. You must not know what to do.
I know that all you would like most right now is being with him again.
But, in this article, I’m going to bring you back to reality for a minute, and show you the hard truth about this whole idea.
First, is there anything you can do to make him miss you, and get him back in a relationship?
Yes, there is.
The truth is, making a man miss you is easier than you might think.
You will learn this in the 12 Steps below.
I’m believing that it’s all over between you and your ex and that it’s mostly up to you to save the relationship. So let’s start.
Here are 12 steps to make him miss you like crazy after a breakup:
Step #1: Note that most breakups have no going back
Here are some of the stories I hear all the time:
- A woman sent her ex-husband 200 text messages (as a romantic gesture), but he didn’t respond.
- The other thinks she will never find someone like her previous man again – and also posted this on her Facebook.
- Another person said their relationship ended in recent months, despite the two doing everything they could to recover.
I always have to say to these women, that they have little chance of getting their men back. Not just because the above situations are utterly hopeless…
But even when the relationship ended smoothly, there is little chance of them actually getting back together.
But, these women may end up finding a relationship coach who will be happy to tell them what they want to hear.
And to be honest, that’s not what happens in most cases.
Step #2: Understand that there are no magic pills
I can’t change your ex. Neither can you. In fact, anyone who says they can is lying.
Even more so if the relationship has been destroyed, and you are now looking for a way to get back together with your boyfriend or husband. So I have to disappoint you because it is very little you can do.
But in the next part of this article, I’ll teach you what you can do to increase your chances of getting your relationship back on track.
Don’t take this as a simple and guaranteed way to get your ex back. Think of it as a way to increase the chances that your man will miss you again.
So let’s go?
Step #3: Exercise
To make sure your man will miss you, the first thing you have to do is start feeling comfortable in your own skin again.
He fell in love with a strong and independent woman. Not someone who spends his days eating ice cream on the couch.
Do you understand what I want to say?
I can’t blame him if that’s how you’ve been spending your time lately. I have my own unhealthy ways of dealing with heartbreak.
But don’t tell anyone that. For the rest of the world, pretend to be made of steel.
The tension you are feeling in your body is normal
But now you have two options of what you can do with all this built-up pressure.
You can use it to make yourself stronger or weaker.
By exercising, you make sure you turn that stress into something positive.
And bring him a little closer to making your ex miss you.
What do you think about doing this instead of crying:
- Become the most positive woman on the planet. When you exercise, you soon feel better and release the pressure built up inside you.
- You focus your attention on something else for a while. It’s impossible not to think about him if you’ve just been sitting on the couch with a bowl of ice cream. But if you focus all your attention on training, it’s much easier.
- Working out makes you relaxed. You take the tension out of your body and result in a more relaxed and positive attitude.
- You’ll be in better shape, and your appearance and confidence will increase.
- It also has many positive effects on your state of mind. It is the only way, other than medication, that will ensure the recovery of people with depression.
Step #4: Focus on your social life
In order to become the woman he once knew and for him to miss you, it is important that you focus on your social life.
When you feel sad, there’s a good chance you feel lonely. So it’s almost impossible to stay positive.
So avoid being alone and instead do the following:
- Strengthen your family ties. Maybe you haven’t seen your grandmother in three weeks. Did you know that family is one of the main reasons for achieving happiness?
- Spend some time with your friends. Both the kind who give you emotional support and the girlfriends who want to distract you by taking you out.
Step #5: Don’t try to change your ex’s opinion
You lost him. I understand this perfectly.
You ask yourself, “ How can I make my boyfriend miss me? How can I make my man miss me more?” I understand that too.
And you want him to miss you more than you do.
But will you promise me one thing?
Can you try NOT to convince your ex-boyfriend or husband? Not even when he’s weak?
Because whether it works or not, you always run into a big problem.
There are two common ways that women try to change their boyfriend’s opinion.
Way #1: The rational way
This includes thoughts like “we’ve been together for ten years ” or “you’re not throwing away what we’ve built together”.
Way #2: The emotional way
Here she completely exaggerates her emotions and exaggerates her feelings by saying things like, “I can’t live without you” or “If you leave, I’ll kill myself.”
So pay attention now:
f you’re trying to convince a man to miss you, there’s a good chance he won’t agree.
But even if you change your mind using one of the above methods, you will still face an even bigger problem.
Here’s what happens if you can convince him
At that moment, he didn’t really decide to be with you because he wanted to or because he was in love with you.
No, he’s doing it because you’ve convinced him it’s the right decision… or out of pity (if you’ve chosen the emotional path).
Therefore, this choice did not come from him.
And he’ll never be really happy going down that road.
Maybe your relationship will last another six months. Maybe shorter or shorter. But then it will burn like a candle and you are back to square one.
Step #6: Give your ex a chance to miss you
He only misses you when you are not having any contact with him.
Here’s the thing…
Guys can only fall in love when they miss you.
I always tell couples who are having a hard time to take a step back for a while (sometimes it’s also good for couples who are doing really well, by the way).
That feeling of missing each other is a way to bond more strongly than being close to each other all the time.
But I know how scary that sounds.
It’s a big risk to let someone go, hoping they’ll come back to you.
But research shows that men are greatly affected by breakups and not having more contact.
Mini separations are common
Often couples break up for a few weeks.
A person begins to rethink the relationship and ends it. So after three weeks, he’s going to be like, ” What did I do?” And he’ll call to make it up to you.
This usually happens. Maybe you did it yourself.
What you never want to do after a breakup
What almost never happens is the following:
- He finishes.
- The woman texts him every day for him to come back.
- Or stays at your door and puts love letters in your mailbox.
- And they magically get back together
It never happens.
It’s a fairy tale.
And if you try to do that, you’ll kill every opportunity you have to get back together.
Because you just showed him that you don’t know how to say no (and therefore don’t respect him).
This is a disaster, as boosting his ego is just one way to make a man fall in love with you.
But that is not all:
As a result, he will never reconsider his decision. And after a few weeks, he’ll get over it faster.
Here’s What You Should Do
- Give him space to do his own thing and give him the chance to miss you.
- Don’t text him anymore
- Don’t show up at his house
If you want a chance for him to come back to you, make sure he is no longer in your life.
Once you’ve done that, you can continue with the next step.
Step #7: Make him jealous
One of the most powerful ways to make your man miss you like crazy is to make him jealous.
A simple way to do this is to post a photo on social media with another man.
This is a bonus tip, which I suggest you only use in certain situations.
It doesn’t hurt to let him know in a subtle way that you’re back on the market.
He will realize the consequences of his actions. And he will feel that you are no longer in his life.
And believe me, if he misses you, he’ll check your social media.
Step #8: Use social media strategically
I said above that it’s good to make him jealous. For example, posting a photo or sharing a story with you and another man on Facebook or Instagram.
Of course, you shouldn’t overdo it. If you change your profile picture to a picture with another guy and update your relationship status to “in a relationship – with that new guy”, then that’s too much.
A simple photo with a semi-friendly look with another man is enough.
Also, don’t always post on social media, especially if you didn’t do it when you were in a relationship.
Because the more he sees your new posts and messages, the less he will miss you.
To keep him informed about what’s going on in your life, he feels he’s still in touch with you. But when he doesn’t see any sign of your life (other than that picture to make him jealous), he’ll start to wonder what you’re doing.
He wants to know how you are and what’s going on. Then he will think:
I don’t know how that breakup impacted her. Let’s find out.
If he’s approaching you, don’t respond.
If he broke up with you, now he has to pay for it. I know it’s hard for you, but it will help you get back together with him if that’s what you want.
The first step to achieving this is for him to approach you on his own. It shows that he is still interested in you. It’s a concern later to find out where he really is.
I wrote an entire section on how to do this step-by-step effectively in this article, using the ‘no contact rule’ in Step 2.
Step #9: Solve the problem
Did he break up because he didn’t feel good about the relationship anymore? Or because he wanted something else in his life?
In both cases, you should know more closely what you can do with this situation.
Imagine he broke up with you because he thought he didn’t see enough of you
In that case, you can do anything to get him back, but he’ll never go along with it if you can’t see him more often. Even if you somehow manage to get back together, the relationship won’t last long.
But if he can’t see you more often because of his own schedule, then he doesn’t know his priorities or has something to complain about.
But if you’re a person with a busy schedule, then you can choose to set aside more time for him, so you can see each other more often and at better times.
Your goal is to make him go crazy with desire.
So he realizes how much he misses you and how bad it is that you broke up.
And if you suggest they can see each other more often now, he’ll definitely want to get together again.
Step #10: Ask yourself: Will this man make you happy?
Let’s stop here for a second.
You’re putting a lot of effort into this man. But is he really the person you want to grow old with?
I know you are very sad right now since you broke up.
But if you rationally look at your time together:
- Were you happy most of the time?
- Or was it mostly stress and misery?
- Could you do whatever you wanted in life?
- Or did he stop you from achieving your goals?
If you answered “no and no” to the second and fourth questions, and answered “yes” to the first and third, then you know it’s good to keep trying.
But if that’s not the case, stop telling yourself it’s the right thing to do. Even if you miss your ex. Even if you can’t imagine a life without him, or if you think you’ll never leave this dark place without him.
‘Cause then the truth is he’ll never make you happy
And trying again will not only take up your time but also your peace of mind.
It only makes sense to try if you think he’s the one.
Step #11: Use your attractiveness
Do you know how men fall in love?
It has a lot to do with attraction. And one way to make your man miss you like crazy is to use your feminine attractiveness. A man can’t just fall in love with you if he doesn’t find you attractive. He might like you a lot and want to go out with you a lot.
But if he doesn’t feel that attraction, the relationship will fail.
It may sound strange, but 9 out of 10 men will rethink a relationship with you based on how attracted they are to you (and don’t worry too much about why they broke up in the first place).
You might think that a smart man who still has feelings for you would ask you, “Hey, are you less busy now? Or do you still work 15 hours a day? ”
But that’s not how it works in real life.
‘Cause guys fall in love when they miss you
If he still has feelings for you and you walk past him dressed to kill, he’s almost going to explode with desire.
He can’t help it. Even knowing it’s not good for him. He won’t be able to resist not agreeing with you.
That’s why I want you to look at what men find attractive in a woman. In a relationship, men want peace, a clear role, and respect. And about appearance, eyes, youth, buttocks, body mass, waist-hip ratio and other things play an important role.
But to make it even easier for you:
Become the woman he fell in love with, once again
During the relationship, the two of you changed. You become more used to each other.
You have to bring that back and be determined to do it before you plan on going in to talk to him.
I don’t think I need to explain how to make gentle contact with him.
Only do this if he has already paid you some attention and approached you. And in that moment, focus on showing him how beautiful you are.
Step #12: Find out what his feelings are
When you’re talking to him again and he shows you how beautiful you are, one thing is very important.
Is it a situation where he never wants to get back with you, no matter what?
Before you even think about doing this:
Find out if he’ll enjoy getting back with you in an ideal world. Don’t listen to what he says, but see how he behaves.
You can also use my test to see if he is in love with you.
But be careful. Your heart and mental state are at stake.
If you’re not sure about this, don’t do it.
There are millions of great guys in your country.
It seems very straightforward, but you will find someone else.
You may say to yourself, “I just want to be with him”.
OK. But the chance of your heartbreaking is far greater than the chance of succeeding. And you can be smarter, walk away, and leave it as is.
How to make your ex miss you and want to get back together?
You should know quite a bit about your ex, considering you were close to him at one point. So you should know something about what he likes and what he doesn’t like.
If you and your ex still respect and talk to each other, invite him to your favorite artist’s concert. Or take him somewhere only you know he’s always wanted to go.
Whatever you give him, make sure it’s personal to show how much you understand him. This is an immediate reminder of how you regard him, as well as the chemistry between the two of you.
Make sure it’s a gift he can’t say no to; something he really loves.
This is also a way to make him miss you because it will trigger memories he had with you in the past.
Make your ex-boyfriend fall in love with you by loving yourself. As selfish as it may seem, you should always be your number one priority.
If you and your ex made plans to travel somewhere but are no longer together, you can still go alone.
Independence is very attractive and it’s like making your ex miss you. It shows that nothing and no one will stop you from enjoying life and having fun.
Crying over a breakup can be great on its own, but it’s not necessary to move on. In fact, moving on is one of the best ways to make your ex miss you after the breakup.
The importance of moving forward
How to make your ex miss you largely depends on you not forcing anything. In short, not caring so much is a way to make your ex miss you and want you back.
There’s flattery that many people feel when they know their ex is heartbroken or still wanting it, whether people admit it or not.
Many people miss the importance of moving forward.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t worry about your ex. It simply means that you shouldn’t be bothered by him or the current state of your relationship with him.
There’s a difference between moving on and pretending you’re getting over someone. Moving on will require you to know how to get over a breakup.
Stop talking to him suddenly. Imagine that you and your ex have to decide to take a break from the relationship or simply try to be friends with each other.
You may still have those strong feelings for him that will have to be controlled because of the breakup or friendship. You will have to totally disconnect from that person, which means no texting or calling.
Learning how to get over someone totally can be a step-by-step process because you have to unravel a lot of expectations and deep feelings. But, that’s better than pretending you’re okay just being respectful to your ex.
To make this process much easier, stop all communication with your ex. You can block him for a while to make healing easier.
Delete all his photos as well as text messages. As they say, out of sight, out of mind. There’s no worse feeling than accidentally opening old text messages with your ex only to find you’re going down the rabbit hole, staring at it for hours and reminiscing.
Save yourself the theater and the headache. You should make sure you do all your healing before trying to get your ex back. It’s critical to see why the relationship didn’t work out in the first place and see if there’s anything you can do differently.
A good tip is also to disappear from social media (in this article I explain why this will make him miss you)
Practicing self-love through meditation, getting in shape, and pursuing new hobbies will feed your soul. Your ex will likely see this ‘new you’ and all you have to offer for himself.