Have you ever wondered how to make a man crazy about you with just a few sentences?
If so, this article was made just for you.
Here’s what real men most want to hear from women:
1. “I like you.”
Nobody likes games at this point in their lives, and neither should you. Instead, be bold and honest about your feelings. You’ll make a lot of progress in dating if you’re open about how you feel and what you’re looking for.
And if he’s not looking for the same, at least you can find out soon, instead of building feelings for him, only to find that he’s really not looking for a relationship right now.
Now, I understand that becoming vulnerable can be difficult for you. We all have relationship baggage of one kind or another, and you may find it difficult to talk about how you feel. But if you really want to find love again (or for the first time), I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and open up.
2. “Sorry, I’m busy tomorrow.”
Hmm. When can you fit it?
Telling the man you’re interested that you’re busy shows that you’re not waiting for him. You have a life.
But don’t pretend to have plans only if he asks you out. In fact, have them. Most men are attracted to independent women because they have a fulfilling life and are not looking for a man to fill some void. On the other hand, a woman who leaves her friends to go out with a guy, or who is always available, can end up being clingy or needy, and that’s not attractive.
What guys like is a woman they have to work a little harder to be with and to get on their schedule.
3. “Can I pay?”
There is no rule when it comes to who pays for a date. Even in modern times, 80% of people think the guy should pay on the first date, but that doesn’t mean you have to leave him.
I don’t know a man who doesn’t like to see a woman ask if she can pay for the date or at least contribute. He might not allow it (some guys just want to pay), but he’ll like what she offered.
If you ask him out, you can insist that it’s your pleasure. Or at least you can cover the tip or buy dessert.
Offering payment shows that you are looking for equality in a relationship, not that you want a man who will dine and drink wine without you ever returning the favor.
4. “Tell me more.”
Having someone interested in what you’re saying isn’t just what guys like; all people like. But if you’re trying to show a man that you like him, one of the best ways to do that is to actually listen to you.
It’s easy to do on the first date. After all, your stomach is full of butterflies and you keep thinking about how perfect this guy is for you. But it gets harder to be an active listener the longer you date. Still, it’s important to continue to listen, respond, and ask questions about the man you like.
Harry Weger, Jr., Ph.D. published a paper called “The Relative Effectiveness of Active Listening in Early Interactions” in the International Journal of Listening, and he says:
“Feeling understood by another person is a very basic part of feeling accepted and valued as a person and is a foundation for relationships of all kinds.”
So if there’s the potential for this to turn into something long-term, you need to engage with this man, caring (genuinely) about what he has to say.
5. “I don’t need a man.”
Although you like having a man in your life, you are independent with or without one.
So you don’t need to say this openly if it seems a little difficult, but you want to communicate that you are independent. You don’t need him… but you want him in your world.
If this one still isn’t resonating with you, let’s dive into it. Do you feel like you need a man to be happy or successful in life? I know this is not true. You thrived on your own, even if it was just a short time ago. You can change light bulbs and kill spiders without the help of a man. You can be happy without one.
And you need to be happy alone. Because no man will be able to make you 100% happy. Yes, he can bring happiness to your world, but if you are already satisfied with your friends and your life, then he can only increase that magic.
In other words: set up your life so that you are happy as things are before a man enters it. So when the right guy comes along, you’re not trying to fill a void with him (trust me: it never works).
What guys like is to see that you are self-sufficient and not needy. He will want to be a part of your world even more in this case.
6. “I miss you.”
This is another one of those moments of vulnerability.
If you haven’t spent time with this man in a while, you might be tempted to let him think you’re going on other dates or you’re just super busy and don’t have time to think about him. But what reaction do you expect to get from this attitude? Jealousy, or worse, abstinence. Would you like him to treat you like that?
What would happen if you opened up and told him you missed him? That you would love to see him again soon? You would make him happy. You would make him go out of his way to make plans with you as quickly as possible.
Which of these two scenarios is the one you really want? What do you think lays a better foundation for a future with this man?
7. “Let’s [insert activity here]”
Take the initiative and plan your next date.
Is he the one who usually makes plans for the two of you to do something? Maybe he loves to do the planning, but I bet he’ll be happy to find out that you don’t expect him to always come up with a plan to go out.
Come up with some innovative ideas for a date. Think about what he told you and use that in your planning. Maybe he said he’s never kayaked, but he’d love to try it. Find a kayak rental company, check the forecast for this weekend and make a suggestion.
Or maybe the last date you had was in a loud bar and next time you would like to go somewhere quieter where you can really get to know each other. You could suggest a private picnic in the park.
Just show him that you don’t expect him to do all the creative planning for the date.
8. “I’m in.”
You’re willing to try new things, so let him know. This could be eating Ethiopian food for the first time, going rock climbing at your gym, or taking a trip together.
I’m not saying you have to become Mrs. Spontaneous if more planning, but should be open to new experiences. What guys want is a woman who will at least try something once, instead of closing herself off to something she has never experienced.
If this is making you uncomfortable, certainly don’t agree to try something you don’t want to do just to impress a man. But try baby steps. If you’ve never had sushi, you don’t have to go straight for raw fish. Try the vegetarian maki and see how it tastes. You might be surprised and really like it!
Above all, what you want is for you to be who you are. If you’re not adventurous, or offering to pay isn’t your style, don’t do it. But find the confidence to be authentic, because the right man is going to love absolutely everything about you.
Whether you’re starting a relationship or just dating someone, you lay the foundation for a solid future if you’re sincere in your actions. Don’t be afraid to scare him: if you do, he wasn’t right for you.
Have faith that there is the perfect man out there for you. YOU will drive him crazy… just for being yourself!