In today’s digital age, texting has become a staple form of communication for many couples. However, not all texts are created equal, and some can actually cause more harm than good in a relationship. As a relationship coach, I’ve heard from many men who wish that their partners would stop sending certain types of texts. Here are six texts that men would prefer women to stop sending, as well as six alternatives that they would love to receive instead.
Texts to Avoid:
- The Passive-Aggressive Text: These texts are usually intended to express frustration or annoyance without directly confronting the issue. For example, “I guess I’ll just do everything myself” or “Thanks for nothing.” These types of texts can come off as manipulative and can lead to unnecessary arguments.
- The Clingy Text: Constantly texting your partner to check in or ask what they’re doing can come off as controlling and suffocating. Give your partner space to breathe and pursue their own interests.
- The One-Word Response: Responding to your partner with just “K” or “lol” can make them feel like you’re not interested in what they have to say. Put in a little effort and respond with a thoughtful message.
- The Excessive Emojis: While a few emojis can add some personality to your texts, going overboard with them can make you seem juvenile or insincere.
- The Ultimatum Text: Issuing ultimatums, such as “If you don’t do X, then I’m leaving,” can come off as threatening and manipulative. Instead, try to have open and honest discussions about your needs and concerns.
- The Texts While He’s Working: If your partner is at work, constantly texting him can be a major distraction and can cause him to feel stressed or annoyed. Respect his boundaries and wait until he’s off the clock to have a conversation.
Texts to Send Instead:
- The Compliment Text: Let your partner know that you appreciate and admire them with a thoughtful compliment. For example, “You always know how to make me laugh” or “I’m so grateful to have you in my life.”
- The Sweet Reminder Text: If your partner is going through a tough time, send them a supportive message to remind them that you’re there for them. For example, “I believe in you” or “You’re strong and capable.”
- The Flirty Text: Show your partner that you still find them attractive and desirable with a playful, flirty text. For example, “Can’t wait to see you” or “You looked so beautiful today.”
- The Gratitude Text: Express your gratitude for your partner and all that they do for you. For example, “Thank you for always being there for me” or “I feel so lucky to have you in my life.”
- The Apology Text: If you’ve done something wrong, apologize sincerely and take responsibility for your actions. For example, “I’m sorry for what I said earlier. I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
- The Just Because Text: Sometimes, the best texts are the ones that don’t have a specific purpose. Send your partner a text just to let them know you’re thinking of them. For example, “Hope you’re having a good day” or “Miss you already.”
By avoiding these six types of texts and instead sending thoughtful, sincere messages, you can strengthen your relationship and improve your communication with your partner. Remember, communication is key in any relationship, and taking the time to craft meaningful texts can go a long way toward building a strong, healthy connection.