Okay, so since you’re reading this, I think there’s a guy out there that you’re really falling for, right?
And you’re kind of scared that this feeling might just be on your side, so you’re trying everything in your power to somehow make him fall in love with you as much as you fell in love with him. Am I getting close?
The problem with love is that if you have to force it, it’s probably not right.
So first, make sure you’re fighting for the right guy, and when you’re sure he’s worth your time and affection, get down to the business of making him fall in love with you – which I’m going to make a lot easier for you, then. pay close attention.
Love comes to everyone in its own time. You can’t rush these things. I know you are adamant about trying to make him fall in love with you, but the most important thing here is patience. You can’t speed up love, otherwise, you’ll just spoil it.
Another thing to remember is that not everyone is meant to be. If that doesn’t work, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, or that you should blame yourself.
What it means is that sometimes it just doesn’t work. And as hard as it is to understand what is happening, you will always understand why you had to stay that way after healing and after being able to see more clearly.
Give it time. Only he knows what happened and what his experiences with love were. He may need time, so be understanding and patient.
If you’re right, he’ll reciprocate your feelings, and if not, you can move on, knowing you gave it your all.
15 tips to make a guy fall madly in love with you:
Let him feel needed
Look, men love to know they’re needed. It’s a man thing. It doesn’t have to mean that you depend on it, nor does it make it any less awesome in its own right.
I’m sure you’re perfectly capable of killing that spider that won’t leave your bedside or maybe even changing a tire, but all I’m saying is that this doesn’t mean you necessarily have to do all these things yourself.
Now that you know your man really wants you to call him for these little inconveniences, why not take advantage of this and kill two birds with one stone?
First, you’ll save yourself the trouble of having to kill that spider and risk putting all that web on you, and second, it’ll boost your guy’s ego by needing him for this manly task. I would say it was a success.
Now, if you’ve been single for a while, you’re probably used to being your own handyman and literally doing everything yourself. Being single really makes you see how amazing and capable you really are, doesn’t it?
But it also means that if you want this guy’s love and attention, you’re going to have to swallow it every now and then and really ask for his help. Otherwise, he will feel useless.
If there’s something you know your guy could perfectly handle, don’t be afraid to call him. That’s literally all you need to do. Ask for your help.
And in return, you’ll get two things. First, you will see how good it is to have someone to support and help you at times, and second, you will give him a purpose. He likes you too, don’t forget that, so it will mean a lot to him too.
Spend some healthy time apart (which will make him see how much he misses you)
I know right now all you want is to be with this guy 24/7, and I can get that. But listen to me. You can still spend an insane amount of time with him, just don’t give him your all so quickly.
Spending time apart is really positive for couples, especially those in long-term relationships.
Because? Because for the most part, it gives you the chance to miss each other. But also because you don’t want to be that girl, the one who abandons her friends the moment she gets a boyfriend. (Don’t be that girl.)
You still have other people in your life who love you and want to spend time with you. Don’t take them for granted just because you have a man you’re obsessed with right now.
Spend time with your friends, visit your family, tell your grandma how happy you are (she will be the happiest for you), and dedicate your time to them.
And when you see your guy again, you’ll realize how much you missed him and appreciate his love so much more.
It’s nice to know that there’s someone out there that you can get back to who will miss you as much as you do, isn’t it? So give yourself a chance to try it out!
Plus, you’ll have a lot to talk about after spending time apart. See, it’s literally all the good stuff!
So make him miss you a little bit… it will only make him think about you, and when he thinks about you, he also thinks about the feelings he has for you, and I think you know where I’m going with this. that.
Praise him (but only when he deserves it)
You don’t have to invent things that aren’t true. What I’m talking about here is much simpler. Let’s say you meet him for a date night.
He shows up, picks you up, and looks so hot in that shirt. Just tell him exactly what you thought when you saw him!
Or if your hair looks especially amazing that day… how hard is it to say that to him? Boys love to be complimented just as much as girls! Just because they won’t laugh and be shy when they hear a compliment doesn’t mean they don’t like it!
That means they’re feeling too manly to let it go to their heads, but they really appreciate the compliments every now and then.
You love knowing how pretty you look (aren’t we all?), so why not make the guy you like so much feel good about himself?
Be REAL (never pretend you’re less intelligent than you are!)
I’ve heard so many people say that girls should dumb it down to boys to make them feel superior, and all I can say is, “What’s the real bullshit?”
Why the hell would I want to pretend to be something I’m NOT just to make a guy feel better about himself?
That thought never crossed my mind, and it shouldn’t cross yours either! If you have to pretend to be less awesome, less smart, or less ANYTHING, stay away from this guy.
These days listening to this ignorant stupidity really freaks me out… after all the years of evolution, is this what we’ve come to? No thank you.
If there is someone in this world who feels threatened by your intelligence and abilities, then that person has a problem that has nothing to do with you. Let them work it out within themselves and keep being tough.
Never let anyone steal your shine and reduce you to something you have no interest in being. As Ariana says: Thank you, next.
Appreciate his masculine side
That doesn’t mean you have to jump on him every time you see him and admire his muscles with loud groans and stuff like that. Not. You can literally take it however you want, depending on what masculinity represents to you!
You can appreciate your manly physical aspects, sure, but in a more subtle way. I feel like it’s more attractive that way, anyway. Don’t scream how hot he is. Instead, do it smoothly and quietly.
If you’re walking down the street, squeeze his arms a little tighter, and when you feel his muscles a little, make an impressed face and wink! That’s all I need.
Being masculine doesn’t necessarily mean looking masculine. For me personally, being a real man means treating people with kindness and respect. Helping an elderly person cross the street or helping someone carry their shopping bag.
Also, for me, a real man is being patient and not waiting for things to go your way, but working for everything and being grateful when things go well.
Appreciate tact over vanity, kindness over entitlement, and a helping hand over closing your eyes. And when you have a guy who can check all the boxes, you have a real man.
And that’s always something you can admire.
Don’t be quick to say you love him
As I stated at the beginning, patience is really of the utmost importance here. You cannot rush feelings. You can not Hurry Love. And you can’t rush anyone into feeling something that doesn’t exist yet.
I understand you’re on cloud nine for the guy. I know you love spending as much time with him as possible and really feel he could be a good partner for you in the long run. And all of this is amazing. But don’t get ahead of yourself here. be smart.
Not all feelings develop at the same rate, and you don’t want him to feel unprepared and surprised by your quick declaration of love.
Here’s what you should do if you really can’t help but talk about it. It’s very simple. Go to your best friend and tell her all about her feelings. Tell her how much you want to share with him. She’s the one who really knows you, so listen to what she has to say!
If she says it’s too soon and you’re probably going to be embarrassed saying those three words too soon, listen to her!
She loves you and literally only wants the best for you. If she can objectively tell you how things really are, pay attention and listen to her advice.
If you rush, you risk putting him in an uncomfortable position where he’s just not sure at the moment and needs time to process his feelings and reciprocate the feeling. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel the same way. All this means he needs time.
You should always respect his time as not everyone is on the same page at the same time. If he feels it, he’ll show it, one way or another, just don’t pressure him.
Don’t be afraid to tell him he’s on your mind
In the early stages of any relationship, one or both parties are always wary of telling the other that they are thinking about them, for fear of sounding too direct a little too soon.
This is understandable as the two of you are trying to protect each other from feeling hurt and/or disappointed by the response.
But let me tell you, things have really changed these days, and for good! It is no longer frowned upon to tell your man that you are thinking of him; it’s really very cute!
You love knowing that he is thinking about you or that he misses you, so be sure to reciprocate! This will put a smile on his face for sure!
You don’t have to be too authoritative about it. Just send him a cute message saying that something you just saw reminded you of him and now he’s in your thoughts. He’ll think it’s cute, and it’s not that bad, even if he doesn’t, as this is a really innocent message.
Most guys will know how to appreciate this. If he feels pressured by this cute little text, then he’s probably not the right guy for you.
Always support and encourage him
One of the most fundamental aspects of a relationship is support. You need to be there to help your partner and show them that you support their ideas and ambitions, and don’t doubt them. He’s probably full of doubts, so be his cheerleader.
If he likes sports that you don’t really understand and/or aren’t totally interested in, you don’t have to suddenly become an avid fan of them.
Just learn a thing or two about it so you can ask him about how his favorite team fared in the playoffs or something similar.
If he likes climbing and you’re afraid of heights, he certainly doesn’t need to become his climbing buddy.
Just support him and be sure to ask him how it went and a bunch of follow-up questions. Guys love it because it shows you really pay attention and are interested in their hobby!
If he wants a major promotion at work and is very nervous, don’t add fuel to the fire and make him doubt himself even more.
Instead, tell him how proud you are of him and that he’s amazing no matter what! Make him see your worth in your eyes.
He’ll feel a lot better having you as his main support system, no matter what he’s going through. Things are easier with someone by your side, supporting and cheering you on.
Be that for your guy! Knowing that you protect him will strengthen the bond you already have and also make him see how much he truly cares about you. And isn’t that all you really need in life?
Support your man the way he supports you. Appreciate each other’s strengths and encourage each other through their weaknesses.
Love him for who he is and never try to change him
Don’t love him for the parts of him that you like and try to change the parts you don’t like. That’s not how love works.
Of course, there’s always going to be something you’re not totally ecstatic about, but the sooner you learn to accept EVERYTHING in it and not just the parts you approve of, the sooner you’ll learn what true love is.
Acceptance. That’s the magic word. The easiest way to make him fall in love with you is to accept him exactly as he is.
There’s always going to be something that pisses him off, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned about men, it’s that you can never change them. It doesn’t matter how hard you try.
They are who they are. Of course, I’m talking about minor and annoying habits, I’m not talking about treating him badly in any way! With anything else, you’re going to have to learn to live with it.
So what if he has an annoying habit, who doesn’t? I’m sure he feels the same way about you (nobody’s perfect!), and he never tried to change that for you, right?
So do the same for him and accept his quirks and flaws as part of the package. That’s the only way to make a guy fall in love with you.
Hear what he’s saying
Don’t just listen to him with one ear and text your friends at the same time while checking your Instagram feed.
Really listen when he’s talking and watch for non-verbal cues. This is often more revealing than what he actually says.
When you pay attention when he’s talking, you’re giving yourself a chance to get to know him better and see what bothers him and what excites him most in life. Watch your body language. See what he’s not telling you with words.
The way your body follows your words is really revealing. You’ll be able to really delve deep into his mind and find out more about him than he might be willing to share verbally.
Learn to pick up on those little non-verbal cues he’s unconsciously transmitting. You’ll know more about him based on what he’s actually saying.
Also, just listen and be a good partner for him. If you want to know how to make him fall madly in love with you, you will learn by listening to what he is saying. It’s really that simple.
Small gestures let him see how much you appreciate him
Do you know how you love it when he surprises you with those little everyday things that somehow always end up being big?
Like remembering how you really wanted that book a few weeks ago and then surprising him with the book on his birthday?
Or sending your favorite flowers to work, just to make the day better? Even just makes your coffee the minute you wake up, because he knows you can’t start your day without a huge cup of black coffee.
Well, now it’s your turn to do the same for him!
The best way to make him fall in love with you is to show him how much he is valued with small gestures that will melt his heart!
This is where the listening part really comes in handy! You never know what you might notice, so pay attention.
Listen when he’s talking about things he’s passionate about; things he loves and appreciates, and things he wishes he had but never got the chance to get.
Find out the best way to surprise him and get one of those things he wants but for some reason never decided to buy. It really doesn’t have to be anything expensive, as long as it’s from the heart.
Give him something that makes him think, “Oh my God, she really heard me when I talked about this last month. What a rad! ”
He will love it more than any expensive gift. Knowing that you pay attention to what he likes and what makes him happy and really going out of your way to getting that for him shows your appreciation and dedication.
And if that doesn’t make this man fall in love with you, then I honestly don’t know what will. (But it will happen, don’t worry, just give it time if necessary!)
Don’t insult his sense of humor
I know a guy who has a weird sense of humor that not everyone else has, but he’s funny in his own way.
And it never crossed my mind to tell him anything about it, as I really feel like everyone has their own quirks that make them stand out from the rest. And that’s his!
I find it endearing how he always has to crack a joke wherever he is, and he feels so confident no matter how many people laugh (or don’t). I’ve always known he comes from a gentle place, so I never try to put him down.
My point is, appreciate your man’s weird little things. That’s what makes it different from the rest and makes it unique in its own way.
It’s easy to follow the crowd and blend in with everyone, but it’s hard to be true to yourself and not care what the crowd thinks.
Let him have it. Let him be funny and learn to appreciate him. It’s what makes him who he is, and that’s the guy you fell in love with, isn’t he? So don’t change it.
Think of all the little things he might not like about you but would never say anything. He knows best. And he learned to like you even more for them. Then do the same for him. If no one else wants to, laugh at your jokes and make your day.
Have a little faith in him
When you’ve been hurt before, trust doesn’t come so easily to you. I understood. And it’s perfectly understandable to build a wall around yourself to protect yourself.
But have a little faith. Understand that this guy is not the one from your past who hurt you when you were at your most vulnerable, who took your heart and broke it into little pieces.
It was a difficult time but this is also a different man and believes it or not they are not all the same!
Learn to trust him and have faith that he can really be exactly who he says he is. I’m not saying give him all his heart on a silver platter, but throw him a bone and see if he can appreciate it. My guess is that he will.
If you are normally the one who takes control of the decision-making in the relationship, try handing that control over to your partner. I know it’s hard to let go of control, but it might be just what you need.
Let him show that he can take care of you. Let him show that he’s capable of making decisions in your relationship and let him plan that weekend trip at least once. He might surprise you!
If he feels that you don’t have faith in him and that you’re not capable of letting him make a single decision, he won’t tolerate it.
Trust is a crucial part of a long-term relationship. And if you want him to fall in love with you, you’re going to have to show him that you trust him enough to let go of your need to control everything and let him in.
If you really love him, you should also trust him. This is the basis of a healthy relationship. If you want him to be your long-term partner, you’ll also have to be a good partner for him.
keep your independence
Many girls tend to lose sight of who they are when they fall in love with a guy. In the early stages of a relationship, it may be understandable to some extent, but it shouldn’t last long.
A guy likes to know that you are an independent woman, that you are not dependent on him for anything, and that you are able to take care of yourself if you need to. It’s one thing to make him feel needed in certain situations, but you also need to show him that you’re your own woman, that you go after what you want and spend quality time with the people you care about.
As I said earlier, a little time apart in a relationship is healthy and necessary. This is what will make you miss and appreciate your partner.
But not being able to cross the street without it is not appealing to say the least. Be your own woman and love your man, but leave some space for other things you are passionate about.
Never lose sight of a man who can become a weak presence in your life.
Have opinions and engage him intellectually
Men are attracted to women who are smart, experienced, and ambitious. Those who fail to appreciate this are not men, but boys.
Have intellectual conversations with him. Delve into deep topics that interest you and discuss your passions and current events in the world. Have meaningful conversations and show him how smart you are.
Make him see that you’re not just a prank. You also have the brains to back it up! If he’s a real man, he’ll fall madly in love with you because of his intellect.
It’s great to be able to stimulate him at bedtime… but when you stimulate his mind, that’s when you know you’re going to lock him in.
Relationships tend to get boring when you run out of things to talk about. Don’t let that happen. Keep things fresh and never just depend on how you look. You are so much more than just a good catch.
Make him see the girl he’s about to fall madly in love with and make him never want to let him go!