In this article we are going to talk about the attitudes that men love towards women…
Here’s some good news: Unlike your physical appearance, your attitude is completely in your control and plays a big part in your overall attractiveness.
I’m sure you’ve experienced this in your own life.
Someone might just be average when it comes to physical attractiveness, but as you get to know them, they can become super attractive. Or someone can be extremely attractive physically, but those attributes are gone the second they open their mouths.
This article is not just about being more attractive to men. The attitudes and mindsets I’m going to share will make you attractive to everyone and it will help you in all areas of your life!
See just 6 feminine attitudes that men fall in love with!
Here they are:
1. Find the fun in anything
Life is basically a series of uninteresting events accompanied by exciting events at times.
At the end of the day, a relationship is about finding someone to “make a living with”… and life can be pretty mundane overall. What men love is a woman who finds fun in the world, whether waiting in line or in traffic.
It’s great to be with someone who has a light, upbeat attitude, as opposed to someone who just wants to complain about everything.
2. The confident attitude
You know this one was coming because it’s so important!
A lot of people have misconceptions about trust, a lot of people confuse that with arrogance. I see this confusion occurs a lot in the comments section of my YouTube channel all the time. I get comments like “You’re wrong, men don’t like confident women, my friend is very shy and quiet and men love her!”
This doesn’t prove anything because trust is not high! In fact, trust is silent. It’s not something you declare, it’s just something that flows and shines from you.
It definitely doesn’t mean you’re being nasty and just singing your own praises to anyone who will listen. Being like that isn’t confidence, it’s arrogance, which is definitely not an attitude men adore. In fact, being arrogant will only scare men.
Trust is not basking in its own wonder. Confidence is in an attitude of “I’m going to be okay no matter what.”
A confident woman doesn’t worry about a guy losing interest or leaving her. She accepts that these are possibilities, but she doesn’t worry about it because she knows she’s going to be okay even if that happens.
A confident woman also doesn’t need a man to validate her to feel good about herself. She already has a solid foundation of self-esteem, and while she appreciates the praise, she doesn’t need it to feel good.
3. Only good vibes
OK, I hate that expression, but it fits for the sake of my list, so let’s go for it.
We talk a lot about the power vibes in A New Mode, and I think that’s something that sets us apart from all the other relationship counselors out there.
Basically, your vibe is everything. It determines whether people are attracted to you or want nothing to do with you.
The term we use here is your “vibe”, but you could call it “energy” or “way of being” or “how you relate to people” or “charm”, you get the idea.
To have a great vibe, you need to understand that the way you present yourself to people is a clear reflection of how you feel inside. Not just the things you say, but even the things you think within the privacy of your own mind.
Your thoughts affect your emotions and your emotions affect your facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. And we have thousands and thousands of thoughts all day. This “soup” of constant thinking and emotional reactions to our thoughts manifests itself in an immediate “vibe” that other people can pick up on.
When you are in a great mood, you transmit a great vibe to others. When you are in a loving mood, you transmit a warm and loving vibration to others.
People can’t read your mind or know what you’re thinking, but they can certainly tell if you’re someone who has happy, loving, positive thoughts or worrisome, fearful, paranoid thoughts… or anxious, tense, stressful, or mean thoughts, negative and unpleasant, that’s the idea.
When you feel good on the inside, you manifest it out and people will be attracted to you.
So how do you get that awesome vibe? You manage your thoughts. You actively fight the negative thoughts that appear and choose to replace them with positive thoughts. It may seem strange at first, but the more you do it, the more it just becomes your natural way of being.
4. When you don’t stress about the state of your relationship
There is nothing pleasant or attractive about anxious and stressful energy.
Many women experience the phenomenon of a guy who suddenly loses interest, seemingly out of nowhere. But the fact is, it’s nothing. Often times, he’s feeling stressful energy that you’re sending out and he just doesn’t want to be around it. He may not be able to articulate it with words, it will just be a “feeling”.
This anxious, stressful energy can make him feel a lot of pressure, like you need the relationship with him at a certain milestone, on a certain date, or you need him to be a certain way to feel good. And he just won’t want to deal with it, and he might even walk away from you if that’s the case for you…
When you are stressed, you are interacting with the thoughts in your own mind, rather than being present and engaged with your partner. And you just can’t form a connection that way.
Stress thoughts are negative thoughts, and negative thoughts lead to a negative mood, which creates a negative vibe, and that’s not a good thing, as we talked about in the previous point!
Here’s another important thing to keep in mind. Men don’t usually make commitment a goal, it’s more of a by-product. He doesn’t necessarily seek a commitment, but he meets a great girl, likes to be with her, they spend more time together, and a relationship develops.
Many women have an opposite approach to dating. They date with an agenda. They have a goal in mind and want to fulfill it at all costs. But it’s no good being around someone with an agenda — like a car salesman or a salesperson at a clothing store working on commission. It stresses us out and we just want to leave.
The winning attitude is just trying to be present and letting things unfold naturally without stress, force or pressure. Remember that no matter what happens, you will be fine. This relationship does not determine your worth. You’ll be fine no matter what.
5. Be feminine
Men love a feminine woman, so don’t be afraid to embrace that side of you. Smile, be sensual and flirt! This will come more naturally to some women than others, but we all have that feminine, glamorous side within us, so tap into it as much as you can.
Take a little initiative sometimes (I said a little, don’t be too pushy, at least not if you’re at the beginning of a relationship) and be attractive.
And maybe it looks old fashioned, but it makes you feel like the man . That’s what all men want deep down.
Being feminine and sensual really comes down to being comfortable in your own skin, so do what you can to get to that place.
6. When you support him
This is something all men desire in a woman, but few openly admit to it.
Men love the feeling of having a woman by their side who truly sees them and values them for the man he is and the goals he wants to pursue.
If you can be that woman, he will be yours forever. This is what will make him see you as a figure above the rest, a woman who stands out from the rest, a woman he truly wants to share his life with.
When you are well inside, you will naturally be able to be that woman, because you are not so caught up in your own desires, worries, and fears. You will be able to be guided by others and this is an important component of being in a relationship.
I hope this article has helped you to better understand the attitudes men adore in a woman.