If I could give you romantic advice, I would tell you never to look back at those who did not know how to appreciate you.
Why ? Because if they knew how to appreciate you, you wouldn’t even have to look back. They would always be by your side!
If at this moment you cross a difficult time, know that you are not alone.
Know that I am here for you, and that I know how terrible it is to suffer because of an ex who was not worthy of one of your tears.
It never stopped me from crying an entire river every time I dreamed of her face, and every time I missed her sense of humor.
But that didn’t mean I was weak, it just showed that I was human.
And in all this misery, I realized certain things.
First, you must reach down to be able to rise to this healthy place and revealing where everything suddenly starts to make sense: every tear you shed, every argument you have crossed and every moment of anger made you explode.
All the missed opportunities to fix things and all the treatment he inflicted on you.
Over time, all of these little things begin to reveal an overview that shows you that the current situation is exactly as it should be.
As difficult as it may seem to understand all of this now, I promise you it will make more sense in just a few weeks.
Unfortunately, you have to go through all the stages of mourning before you get to this good place – but it will happen for sure.
What I am trying to tell you is this: if the bottom of your heart you KNOW that the break was the best decision for you, be proud of yourself and stop doubting.
After all, you are an intelligent woman.
You know very well that if he cared to, he would never have left you. If he cared about you, he would have called to ask!
And if your feelings mattered to him, he would have tried to fix things before breaking up!
Don’t give him that satisfaction of going back.
Because there is nothing to find! Your past is part of the past for good reasons. You have learned a great lesson from it, and now you are ready to face your present and your future.
The thing you can do is show him what he lost!
Make her regret taking you for granted and losing you while remaining that confident, strong and positive woman that you are.
You don’t have to brag with a new man to show it to him. Just live your life as you always have, while keeping a confident smile on your face.
Show her that your spirit is not broken by staying a good friend with your friends and dancing all night long with girls, which will show her that you are open to new beginnings.
Revenge is for the weak. The only way for him to see what he has lost is to live your life authentically and to the best of his ability.
He didn’t run over you. You have not lost the taste for life.
You are more open than ever to new opportunities. And why ? Because you’ve been roasted, and you’re ready to let someone else in.
But this time, someone whose love will never hurt you.
No one can say for sure when this will happen. It remains in the hands of God.
But one thing is for sure, when you think deserve the best and you do not lose confidence, you start to see what we had never noticed before.
You will finally see that you will be much freer now than you have ever been with your ex.
Finally you will see that its toxic love has given you a third of what you deserve and he was holding you back.
With him, you were never free and full of hope.
And now everything seems to be an opportunity for a new and better version of yourself.
And this is the start of your new life. A life in which you will never focus on what is lost, but only on what is to come.
A life in which you know you will end up finding your happiness because you deserve it.
I know it’s easy to give up on yourself and cry every night before falling asleep.
But a strong woman knows that getting up and smiling when nothing is going is the bravest thing she can do.
She is a woman who will not let a toxic ex kill her. She will not shed any tears for him because it would be a waste of time.
And as tempted as she may be to go back and wonder what he’s up to, she won’t.
Because deep down, she knows that the sooner she starts looking into the future, the sooner her heart will heal and her mind will forget.
And one day, she will simply stop worrying about where he is and what he is doing. Because his life will be so fulfilled and happy – that nothing toxic will come to his mind!
And it will be a personal victory a priori modest, but nevertheless really important. She will have nothing to do with it!
And on this, whatever comes to mind is: “It’s over.”