For many years, I went around in circles going out with horrible guys who took a lot more than they gave.
It was such a toxic environment and, honestly, I didn’t know what was wrong with me to continue to attract all these bad men into my life.
I kept thinking about it and I knew there must be a valid reason for it, so after multiple analyzes, I realized that my behavior was the main reason why I always ended up with the wrong guy !
I unconsciously put forward some unhealthy traits that kept me away from the men I really deserve and that brought me a wave of poisonous guys in life.
If you don’t want to repeat my mistakes and want to put your love life back on the right track, read these 6 things to save yourself years of regret.
1. I was drawn to dark and mysterious guys with a shady past
I was stupid enough to believe that I would be able to break through their harsh exterior and make them open to me like they have never done before.
Clearly, I was wrong, and it always came back to haunt me! These guys may seem attractive at first glance, but in reality, they are damaged souls who are unable to love themselves, let alone love someone else. Stay away!
2. Secretly I liked it when they behaved badly towards me
It’s a crappy thing to admit and it probably dates back to my childhood when I was told that if a boy was mean or teasing me, it was because he liked me!
It’s a crazy concept and I can’t believe you can believe it! This was therefore reflected in my adult years, when I believed that if he was shouting at me, that meant that he was really interested in me! What a crappy thing to think.
3. I wasn’t interested in cool guys
The cool guys always seemed boring. I’m aware that you can’t judge a book by its cover and now I don’t do it anymore, but I used to believe that I couldn’t be aroused by a nice guy, because it seemed too much to me commonplace .
And now, I would kill for this “ banal ” love ! Stability before unpredictability.
4. I loved men who were just coming out of a relationship
For reasons I didn’t know yet, I always fell in love with men who had just gotten out of a relationship or who carried an emotional baggage from previous relationships.
I foolishly believed that I would be the one with whom they will find their happiness and that I would put them back on track!
It was rarely the case and it was especially painful, because I always felt like a second choice.
Now I know I should have waited for them to recover from their past love before I started anything with them.
5. I dumped the men for no good reason
I just loved being right too much, so instead of fixing everything, I ended up leaving them so I wouldn’t have to argue with them.
It was a really poisonous circle that was unhealthy for both and it was all my fault.
I couldn’t accept that I wasn’t right all the time, so it was easier to end it and find another toxic type to replace it.
I was really selfish and never realized it.
I don’t really think they were so bad in the first place, I made them act that way by my twisted way of thinking and behaving towards them.
6. I was mad with rage if something didn’t go the way I wanted
If things didn’t go the way I wanted, I put this guy on the back.
You always had to do everything my way and I believed that if a guy couldn’t comply with that, it was not the guy I needed and there must be something wrong with him.
And all this time, I was spoiling everything. I was too stubborn to admit that I was wrong and I paid the price.
Thank God, I now see that a relationship is a two-way street and that both parties deserve to be listened to and recognized as well.
Anything else would be injustice and now I can finally see it.