Our common sense tells us that we should never tolerate someone who harms us.
If your friend was in a toxic relationship where a guy treated her badly, you would be the first to tell her and advise her to break up.
And no matter how much she likes this guy, as her best friend, you would be the one to tell her that her place is not by her side.
Why then is it so difficult for us to notice that the person we love is treating us badly, and why is it even more difficult to stop enduring this?
Love can make us blind, it’s true. When you love someone, it’s easy to idealize all the good they do.
And when he does something wrong, we always end up making excuses for him.
You were not born in this world to waste your energy, your good heart and your love with someone who does not appreciate you enough.
Start loving yourself and worrying about your own well-being, and things will start to work out for you.
We must remove the pink glasses that are on our eyes in order to see things clearly for once.
If he doesn’t answer when you call him and doesn’t even apologize for his absence, that’s not a good sign, I guarantee it.
If you wait for hours before he answers a simple message, this is not a good sign.
If he is never there for you, whatever the reason why you need him it is not a good sign.
If he does not know how to find the time or energy to be part of your life and participate actively in it, this is not a good sign.
If the person you are with does not seem to respect, support, or love you as they are supposed to, it is certainly not a good sign.
We never really want to have a bad opinion of the person to whom we have given so much.
In our head, we would like it to be good, pure and perfect.
And it is precisely because of this that we rarely allow ourselves to admit that we are being mistreated by someone.
Accepting and admitting that someone is hurting us by their behavior towards us is the first step in solving this huge problem.
No matter how much you love someone, you should never allow them to break you into a thousand pieces.
Love is not something one way and when it becomes what is certainly not a good sign.
If you love him, he must love you back, right? And if he really loved you, would he hurt you then? Absolutely not.
The person who truly loves you will always have your interest at heart.
The person who cares about you would never intentionally harm you.
If someone continues to treat you like you would never dare to do out of simple respect for this person, and you still continue to forgive them, it is high time to break this vicious circle.
No one should hurt you, no matter what it means to you.
Would you hurt the person you love? Of course not. So why are you letting someone do it to you?
I know that you always manage to find excuses to explain the fact that someone hurts you and that he always succeeds in making sure that it was not his fault.
Not only are these malicious acts important, but they are also crucial for your self-esteem and for your future happiness.
It takes your trust and your sincerity as if it were nothing, then it throws them as if they were garbage, giving the impression that you do not count at all in this relationship.
I wonder what would happen if you did the same to him! And would he be ready to forgive you? I am almost sure and certain not.
I’m pretty sure he’s the kind of person who must constantly apologize and apologize for their actions.
Well, let me tell you something: the excuses that don’t go along with a change in behavior are just empty words.
I also suppose that, if by chance, you decide to stand up to him and show him that you will no longer bear his bullshit, he will make you feel guilty for having been angry with him.
He’s the kind of toxic person you don’t want to have in life.
They may make you think they are going to change, but they never are!
You may be thinking about giving it a second chance, but I’ll tell you one thing right away, it will only waste and spoil it.
Someone who claims to love you but still chooses to treat you badly doesn’t deserve a second chance.
Yes, you have to know how to forgive and it’s a good path to choose, and you can certainly choose to forgive him for each time he has hurt you.
But, when I say forgive I don’t mean forget, so don’t confuse the two I take it from you.
Do not allow her to treat you as if you are not worthy of love and never give her the opportunity to hurt you again.
