Do we express the same thing by “I am in love with you” or “I love you”? Maybe not!
We should first of all start by making the difference between the representations of love and its reality, and then distinguish what would be the four stages of it.
In any case, apparently, everything except a long, calm river.
Being in love: between reality and representations
Being in love in real life is not quite like in very romanticized films where everything is good that ends well.