Don’t run after love, what is really beautiful never demands attention
What is truly beautiful does not require attention, it simply exists naturally, as it is, in confidence and daring.
Remember this the next time you’re chasing someone you think you love. Remember this the next time you feel the urge to compete for the attention of someone you admire. We often feel the need to show ourselves at the heart of our concerns.
We often feel the need to change ourselves to better meet their needs, we often wonder if we are exactly what they are looking for. I have heard this feeling many times.
Stop the “If only” and “But maybe.” Believe me when I say they don’t exist within the limits of the love you want. They only exist in the reality of the love you are pursuing.
The most amazing person I have had the privilege to love stood firmly in front of me and said, “This is what I want .” There was courage, transparency. There was a statement.
There was no insecurity, no need to compare myself to others, or to compete.
The most amazing person chose me every day and I chose her. When that was no longer the case, we parted ways. We didn’t hang around, we didn’t try to convince ourselves. We didn’t feel the need to hang on and pursue something that wasn’t fulfilling us. It was natural and organic, and it allowed me to feel deeply and with confidence. This is the kind of love you want.
Don’t run after another human being. Instead, pursue your curiosity. Continue your development and your goals. Pursue your passion. Work for something bigger than you, and instead of trying to persuade someone that you fit into their world, build your own.
Relationships are not competitions.
They are unions. You go in with your own visions, your own hunger, and when you trust, when you let it flourish in you, you never break down to appease the pursuit. You simply exist as you are.
And when you meet someone who does too, when you meet someone who chooses you in the midst of it, you thrive together, which creates an ever-growing and influential dynamic.
What is really beautiful does not require attention.
The real carnal relationship, the attraction to another human being, it just survives. She blossoms. It’s the kind of beauty that springs from you that you can’t explain, that lets you “just know”.
It never comes from competition, it never comes from uncertainty. You will never have to work to inspire it in a person because it will simply exist in them.
