Stop the slippery slope of losing love to the smallest signs
Seeing all those Hollywood rom-com makes us have this made-up idea of love in our heads. We start to expect that same level of unending romance in our own romantic relationships, which is why most of the time they don’t meet our expectations. While you may get through a one-time mishap, the lack of interest should really get you up and take a look at what exactly is going on in your relationship. To avoid catching you off guard, we’ll provide you with a list of signs to watch out for to see if your relationship is going downhill.
8 subtle signs your partner doesn’t love you
1. You make all the plans
Let’s go out? Shall we have dinner? Let’s watch a movie? Are we going to train together? Do you want to come? Do you find yourself constantly saying these things to your partner? If the answer is yes, then you must realize that your partner has lost interest and that they would rather sit at home on their phone and then spend time with you. If you are the one initiating all the plans, then know that the problem persists and that they are no longer there mentally.
2. No reliability
One thing you expect in a relationship from your partner is trustworthiness. Either that trustworthiness comes down to them doing something you asked them to do or they just stand behind you and be there for you in times of need. If you are constantly feeling disappointed, you have to make up for the tasks your partner hasn’t done, then it’s time for you to realize that she can no longer be trusted. Their sudden lack of reliability is not because they are lazy, but because they don’t care enough to be there for you when you need them.
3. Not the same level of intimacy
This aspect of the relationship must be viewed from two different angles. If your partner refuses to have the same level of intimacy with you and for no legitimate reason, then you should investigate why this might be the case. Are they getting that intimacy from somewhere else or are they just not interested? At the same time, if the level of intimacy increases more than usual while the emotional connection is decreasing, then know again that there is a problem. This increased intimacy is all they want because they have lost all other interest in the emotional aspect of this relationship.
4. Lack of communication
Communication is the key in each and every relationship and for someone you want to spend with every day, communication becomes 90% of the relationship. No communication in a relationship leaves you dating a brick wall and nothing else. You lose everything that is significant in the relationship. If you see that your partner is not only resistant to communicating emotions, then you should know that they no longer care enough to share them. This is a very important sign that shows that your partner has lost interest and prefers to keep things.
5. Meaningful conversation and talking about the future
Fun times and intimacy aside, what defines a strong relationship is that you can literally talk about anything and everything with your partner without hesitation. At the end of the day, it all comes down to those deep, meaningful, emotional conversations that you have that define your closeness and ease. If you find that your partner avoids those meaningful conversations and future plans (marriage and, most importantly, just the life commitment) are a no-go area for them to talk to, then you should know that you have seen a red flag.
6. No calls or texts
In the era of mobile phones, Snapchat, WhatsApp, and Instagram; talking to your partner is as easy as pressing a button. However, even with that ease, if your partner refuses to be the first to text or call you, then we have a problem. The text messages and calls you receive should not only belong to to-dos, etc., but it is important to have normal informal conversations every day, good morning text messages, etc. If you are not on the receiving end but on the sending end every time, know that the amount of interest and effort in this relationship is definitely not equal.
Fighting is part of every relationship that comes and goes, however, if you see that these fights become part of your daily routine, then the relationship is not where it was. Fights that have reasons behind them are understandable sometimes, but if you find that your partner is picky and picks up fights for unnecessary and unreasonable reasons, this is another red flag. You must understand that these fights are frequent because he wants you to know and realize that he is no longer interested in the relationship and is just trying to find a way out.
Today I can’t go out because I have a job. I didn’t call you last night because I slept early. I rushed in because I was late for work. My friends came last night. These are just some of the excuses that you will start to hear commonly and frequently when your partner begins to lose interest. You have to realize that if they cared enough about the relationship, they would give you priority. However, when you become second or third on the list and excuses turn into responses, then you have a code red situation, buddy.
Test to see if your partner loves you or not
Q1. Spend time with you?
Quality time in every relationship is very important. Whether it’s at dinner, at the movies, or just lounging around the house, you need to see if your partner still spends that time with you. If they are making excuses to hang out with you and those places are less frequent, then something is definitely going on.
Q2. How often do you fight
If you find yourself constantly fighting and arguing over the smallest things and you can’t go a whole day without fighting over one thing or another, then you need to know again that your partner is unhappy. He is unhappy with something that happened between you or he just wants to get out of the relationship.
Q3. Can you talk or is it a brick wall?
Are you still clicking? Can they still talk about everything and still have intimacy with each other? If the answer is no, and you feel that your partner has distanced yourself from you in terms of communicating with you, then, unfortunately, it is again an unfavorable sign.
Q4. Is the spark still present?
Is romance still present? Is he still the same person who has been with you throughout the relationship? Judge behavior change. Is it more distant? Reserved? Or are you just trying to get more comfortable? Ask him and if he’s still trying to be secretive, take that as your red flag.
Q5. Does he make time for you?
Everyone has a million things to catch up on throughout the day, but it all comes down to spending the slightest time with your partner because, at the end of the day, it’s the effort that counts. If he is not putting in the same effort as you, then your question is answered and it is unfavorable for you.
How to get your love back
Like anyone else, if you are involved in that relationship, you want to regain the spark and you want to regain your partner. First, analyze yourself and see if you have changed unfavorably. Are you more distant, in a bad mood, or just busy? Second, talk to your partner because communication is again the key. While they may not be open to this conversation, showing them that you are aware of their behavior change could open up to you. Lastly, try to be there for them as much as you can without losing yourself, and, hey, if it’s meant to be, it will be.
While the representation of love in Hollywood movies seems to be easy and straightforward, in real life it tends to get a bit complicated. Soulmates cannot be found every day, so be sure to keep an eye out for these red flags to assess where your partner’s interest lies and try to win back your relationship.