Why is it so important to tell people you love them?
There are plenty of reasons why expressing love is a good thing in every way, and they’re all backed by science.
1) It is contagious
Neuroscience suggests that expressing love and appreciation creates a positive chain reaction. Something like a “virtuous circle of love”. When you express your emotions better, people love and appreciate you more.
2) Build longer-lasting relationships
Another neuroscientific study shows that couples who are more expressive and committed to each other build healthier and longer-lasting relationships.
3) You become more loving
When you give your love without expecting anything in return, it comes back to you 10-fold. Research suggests that when you are mindful and compassionate about your love, your brain literally rewires itself to become more positive and loving.
4) It makes you healthier
There is countless research showing that expressing and keeping love in our lives makes us live longer and healthier lives.
5) Increases trust and intimacy
Saying I love you is one of the most powerful declarations of love. Thanks to this, it increases intimacy and builds trust in a relationship.
When should you tell someone you love them?
Timing is everything when you declare your love for someone.
According to philosophy professor Aaron Ben-Zeév:
“Romantic love expresses our genuine attitudes. Revealing our loving heart to a partner is immensely valuable for communication and personal flourishing. However, such a disclosure makes you more vulnerable and can put your partner in an awkward situation, especially if their attitude is different from yours.”
If you tell someone you love them when you’ve only known them a short time, you may come across as naive or lying. If you say it too late, he may think you don’t really love him.
More importantly, you shouldn’t feel pressured to say these two words if you’re not really in love with someone.
So when is the right time?
First, you should always make sure that your feelings are genuine. When you really love someone, you should have very little hesitation in telling them so.
Second, don’t rush. Genuine love takes time. The attraction is instant. Falling in love can happen in a few days. But real love has to develop and grow.
When the time is right, you will know. Love is something that finally comes to us naturally. When we drop our shell and just let love flow, everything becomes simpler.
No instruction manual is going to be able to tell you exactly the right time and place to tell someone you love them. It is something that arises spontaneously, when real love is there.
5 ways to express love through actions
The words are beautiful and reaffirm the meaning of what we really feel. But without action, words are worthless.
You don’t have to be an expert to make someone feel valued. Actually, it’s the little things that matter the most.
Clinical psychologist Marni Amsellem explains :