There’s no other reason for your ex to text you unless he’s trying to waste your time even more.
Find out 5 things you shouldn’t do when your ex texts you.
There is no doubt that getting over your ex can be a very difficult thing to do.
We all have that ex that we let into our lives, for reasons we’re not always sure.
There’s no other reason your ex is trying to get back into your life other than wanting another opportunity to waste your time.
Maybe he’s saying he misses you and wants you back, but he’s really just trying to see if he can still get you if he wants to.
You need to stop that because it will only end up with your heartbreak – again.
There’s a reason you and your ex-boyfriend didn’t work out.
Instead of trying to make something work that is obviously not meant to work, try to find ways to not let it back into your life.
Here are some tips to help you avoid falling into the trap.
1. DO NOT Respond Immediately
Responding immediately can be seen as you being readily available whenever he wants you to be.
This can show that he is still one of your top priorities.
You can make excuses, saying that you were already on the phone when he texted you, or that you saw him at the right time, but that doesn’t mean you should (or even have to) respond right away.
If you’re going to answer, then it’s something you need to think about for a minute.
No one is saying you have to respond to him and have a full conversation.
You have every right to hang up the phone and ignore the message.
You are not obligated to him in any way.
2. DO NOT Jump Into A Conversation
You really should think about why your ex is texting you in the first place.
Did he just get out of a relationship?
Has something happened in his life that he felt the need to have someone familiar in his life?
Is he just bored?
There could be so many reasons why he is texting you.
Don’t always assume he’s texting you just out of curiosity to see how you are doing.
This is almost always not the reason behind this message at 11 pm.
If you decide to respond, proceed with caution.
Don’t jump into a conversation without seeing why he decided to text you in the first place.
You don’t need to get involved if he has an ulterior motive.
3. DON’T Forget Why You Two Split Up
Like I said before, there’s a reason you and your ex aren’t together anymore.
It can be very easy to go back to good conversations and talk about happy memories.
At the time, it might make you think about why the two of you ended up in the first place.
This new conversation can make you feel like your ex has really changed, and that maybe you should give him another chance.
Don’t fall into this trap.
Of course, the conversation will be good!
There’s a reason your ex decided to text you, and usually, it will come with him wanting something from you.
When you want something from someone else, of course, you will be nice to the person.
You want to kiss the person who can give you something you want.
It’s usually a scam to make sure he gets what he wants, regardless of how it affects you.
Just because the conversation is good now doesn’t mean he’s changed.
He just knows you well enough to know how to make you think he’s a different person.
It’s so easy to forget about all the bad things that happened in a relationship when there are good things happening right now.
But don’t forget that bad things happened and that they ended your relationship once and can again.
4. Don’t Give In
If he tries to talk to you and acts maliciously, remember who he is.
If he’s trying to pick a fight with you, remember that you don’t have to feel obligated to end the conversation.
There will always be unfinished business after a relationship ends.
I don’t think it’s possible to feel like you’ve gotten as much closure from someone else as you think you need or even deserve.
When sharing your life with someone, you must remember that you cannot control how the other person reacts to a situation and that you will not always agree.
Sounds simple enough, but it can be problematic when it comes to the end of a relationship.
Ending a relationship is never easy and there will always be things you wish you had said, heard or even done.
But you need to understand that this will not always happen.
Just because he texts you don’t mean this is your second chance to have a conversation you needed to have.
You will almost never get the closure you were looking for.
5. DON’T Let It Affect You
Don’t overthink the situation, especially if he just texted you a “hi.”
It doesn’t have to be turned into a big deal if there’s no reason to.
If you really want to walk away from your ex, you’ll take that text with a hint of suspicion and hopefully just ignore it.
Realizing why the two of you broke up and the reasons your life is better without him will do you more justice than discussing conversations and arguments you’ve had a thousand times.
There’s no guarantee the conversation will do you any good, especially if you’re doing better without him.
Dealing with an ex can be very complicated, but there are great things about not being with that person anymore.
One of the best is that you have no further obligations to him.
You don’t have to respond to him or give him some of your time.
Go ahead and live your life without the dead weight.
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