You know, the funny thing is that I keep writing about the fact that we have to wait for the guys to run after us and which we deserve to be run after.
Then I look at myself and I see that I am doing my best to make my relationship work, but for what? For five minutes of his time? For five minutes of love?
To hell with that!
We deserve to be chased after, so why are we chasing them?
Why are we giving everything and making superhuman efforts to make things happen? To make our relationships work?
I’ll tell you why – because we were brought up in the belief that we have to take care of our relationships.
But it takes two to love each other, it takes two to be in a relationship. If one is the only one to try and fight, there is no point.
So here we go to all those who are tired of getting rid of the bad guy.
Stop chasing after him and see what happens. The following six issues are always better than where you and I are today.
1. He misses you
You don’t realize what you have until you’ve lost it and it’s scientifically proven! There is also a good chance that it can be verified with him.
When you start making yourself a priority and putting all the energy you spend on it to your advantage, he will realize that he misses you.
He appreciated the attention with which you covered him, he appreciated that you ran after him but all that is over and he misses it.
He will miss your laughter, your smile and your incredible energy that gave him strength. But look at your life before and your life now.
If you like to be the center of your own universe, treating yourself like a queen, as you truly deserve to be treated, is it really worth giving up all that?
If after weeks spent giving you the minimum of attention, he still expects you to run after him, then he is crazy!
And I know it’s hard to get away from something you’ve invested so much effort into, I know it’s hard not to run after someone you really care about.
But it’s time for him to start chasing you. It is time he gave you the love you deserve. If he can’t, drop him!
2. Fewer bad appointments and much more free time
The thing with guys who like to be chased after is that either you don’t like them or they need to boost their ego. And you give it to him.
The love you have for him makes it easier for you to apologize to him and for making far more compromises and sacrifices than you would ordinarily do. But is it worth it?
Whenever you have been together, you have had the impression that the minutes were counted and that it was the only free moment in his agenda instead of having the impression that he had found time for you.
Because that’s what you do when you like someone, that’s what you did for them. And now that you are no longer going on a date with him, you have much more free time for yourself.
You can use all this time you spend waiting for it to achieve your dreams. All this time spent being obsessed with him, wondering what he had in mind, your passions and your life.
Once you fall in love with your life, everything else follows. Even your love life.
3. He starts chasing you
This is the time when he begins to think selfishly. He will remember how nice spending time with you and how important it is to have you by his side.
He will think of all these wonderful meetings and he will naturally want to relive these moments.
But all the work is not done yet, the next step is to start chasing you.
Men are hunters (or something like that anyway), but generally, they like to be chased after and also chased after you. The perfect combo is then to offer them the opportunity to have both.
You had your share, you showed him that you liked him, you showed him that you went well together and that you had tons of things in common.
You showed her that spending time with you was great and that spending the day writing messages wasn’t as boring as it seemed. Now is the time to return the favor.
Stop writing to him, calling him, talking to him about your life and pretend you are just acquaintances.
The feeling of losing yourself will press the panic button on his brain and activate the hunting mode.
Unfortunately, I am not inventing anything. In this phase where you will cut ties, he will send you messages and find time for you.
It will send you the most mundane messages possible, just to start the conversation.
He will cover you with compliments and whenever you receive them with pleasure, he will be filled with pride.
Men like to make efforts knowing that these will be recognized.
So whenever his “seductive talents” leave you speechless, he will see it as a reward.
What is more, you will also gain a significant amount of free time.
4. You start to notice men who really want to run after you
If you’re busy chasing after someone, you’re unlikely to notice anyone else. This is how it works.
You only have eyes for him, so you don’t see the men who are deeply in love with you.
You only have ears for him and therefore you do not hear love in the voices of others.
Because the love you have for him overwhelms you, you do not notice the men for whom having you by their side would be an honor.
And there, you give yourself a chance to notice them.
The fact that you are moving away does not mean that your love is gone. But rather than erasing it completely, consider putting this love on hold.
You haven’t forgotten, you’re just taking a break. In doing so, don’t be afraid to open up to other men.
You don’t have to let them enter your life or go in search of love, just give others a chance to entertain you.
Give someone else the chance to be part of your life, a friend, or maybe this cute boy at the bar who puts you in a good mood.
Or maybe more… You never know what life has in store for you. Don’t be afraid to take risks and meet other people. You might be pleasantly surprised.
5. You can revive your friendly relationships
Sometimes we tend to get so lost in love that we move away from our loved ones, friends and family.
It is not incredible but enough to feel that a form of distance has set in when we see them again.
It is not obvious, but you can feel it – for example when you realize that you cannot be open to them concerning the fights that you are waging, for fear of being judged. But they are your loved ones, they will never judge you.
They are the ones who see you cry and love you anyway. They are the ones who hold your hair when you vomit and still love you.
They are the ones who are by your side during your breakups and they are the ones who help you pick up the pieces of your broken heart.
They will always be the ones who will secure your rear.
And it is therefore a great opportunity to rekindle these relationships.
Plan a getaway and have a wine tasting with your friends or enjoy a sleepover watching movies and eating popcorn.
Go to a club and experience new adventures, things you can tell your grandchildren!
See this period as the perfect opportunity to pretend that tomorrow does not exist, neither today nor yesterday.
Make it count. As well as the day after and the day after. See this as a chance to make your life something truly extraordinary.
6. You start to enjoy your life
It is probably the most beautiful outcome of all.
It is the one in which you fall in love with your life, rather than falling in love with the first moron come, incapable of appreciating you for your true value.
This is the issue where you understand that it was he who dimmed your light and made your spark fade.
Not because it is good for nothing, but simply because it took what you gave and gave you nothing in return.
When you give of yourself to someone, when you make so much effort, when you invest so much time and love in someone and that someone gives you nothing in return, you find yourself exhausted.
You find yourself emptied and empty, simply because you have received nothing. It’s that simple.
But once you learn how to be alone, once you start to appreciate the time spent with yourself and you start to master the art of loving yourself, you are amazed to see how wonderful life can be.
And you will enjoy it every second!
Whatever the outcome, it’s always better than being stuck in a one-way relationship.
You may be scared, because you love him, because you let him come into your life and bet on him.
Now that you’ve gotten used to being with someone, you may be terrified of being alone, even if you know they shouldn’t be in your life anymore.
But these are risks you must take.
Stop chasing after him and see what happens – either you will lose someone who has never been truly yours, or you will win someone who will be worthy of you. In any case, you will be a winner.
