It is as painful as going through hell, but you have to admit that it is better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by lies. Because sooner or later the truth will surface and if it is later than sooner, it will be all the more painful.
In truth,
It is not that complicated. If he wants to be with you, he will be with you.
I know it’s easier to think it’s complicated. I know it’s less painful to blame it on timing or anything else, just to avoid blaming him. And that’s why you’ve been waiting so long. This is why you have never given up hope and this is why you have managed to convince yourself that one day perhaps, it would not be complicated anymore and that your wait would finally take on meaning. And it is for all these reasons that you have not ceased to destroy yourself, piece by piece. Because it would never have stopped being complicated with him.
And it can be complicated in a thousand ways. He may be a moron who simply uses you to make another girl jealous or maybe he is a poisonous man who just needs someone to get rid of his anxieties. You may also have been just a springboard to occupy your time.
But the hardest part will be to forget him if he is in fact a good guy. Maybe it makes you feel good, but you don’t have the same effect on it. Or maybe he likes you, but doesn’t think of yourself as the woman of his life. Maybe he would be with you if he didn’t already think of another.
Whatever scenario you choose, if he wanted you, he wouldn’t have to think twice and if he really wanted to be with you, he would choose you out of gut instinct. And since you think things are complicated when he has no intention of choosing you, you will certainly have to face a terrible truth:
In fact, it’s not that complicated. If he wants to be with you, he will be with you.
It is time to stop making excuses and justify his actions. Think about yourself for a second and your behavior. Is your life really that complicated? If you wanted someone, would you really apologize and fight for them? You would never allow someone you want in your life to feel that it is not a priority or allow obstacles to stand in your way. And nothing prevents him from doing the same. Obviously expect that he lacks willpower.
There are two ways to forget about it and no matter which one you choose, you will be heartbroken no matter what. But the important thing is that you can choose to break it once and for all or feel it break again and again.
You will break your heart again and again if you continue to justify your actions. You will break your heart again and again if you continue to choose a man who will probably never choose you. You will break your heart again and again if you keep waiting for someone who will certainly never join you as you would like.
But you will only break your heart once if you decide to be honest with yourself. You will only break your heart once if you decide not to hide your face. You will only break once if you decide to make yourself a priority. Let your heart break only once and move on, once you have managed to accept this:
It is not that complicated. If he wants to be with you, he will be with you.
