I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that love should be the last thing you should think about.
No, far from it, I know that it is one of the most important things for every human being.
Whether you admit it or not, it is obvious that a healthy romantic relationship can significantly improve the quality of life.
And of course, it can make you happier and more satisfied.
But that does not mean that you have to chase after him at all costs.
This does not mean that you should make it the center of your universe or that you should ignore all of your other successes simply because you do not have a happy love life.
This does not mean that you should fight for it, at the risk of destroying yourself.
Because in the end, it’s always better to lose a love than to lose yourself.
Make no mistake: I am not trying to pretend that a mature relationship does not require time, patience and energy.
Certainly, efforts must be made. Some will even say that you have to fight for true love and that you have to win many battles before you can find it.
However, it is one thing to make an effort to make your relationship work, and it is quite another to invest your whole life in it just to keep it from falling apart.
This is especially true if your boyfriend is not a true partner for you, both good and bad, your partner in crime.
And especially when it’s the person you have to fight against and is your biggest opponent.
If so, stop fighting for love and start fighting for yourself.
Because you are the most important.
It is not selfish to realize that the relationship you have with yourself is much more important than any other relationship you can have with someone, including that with your romantic partner.
So stop making sacrifices all the time just to try to save this man.
Accept that your efforts are in vain and that in fact he does not even want to be saved and that you certainly cannot be the one who will succeed in saving him.
Instead, once you accept the reality of things, run away to save your life and leave even if it is the last thing you want to do.
Save yourself, before it’s too late to fix it and before you’re broken beyond repair.
Stop chasing after him and accept that, unfortunately, he doesn’t want you to catch him.
Stop wasting your precious time and your youth for this man who is clearly unable to give you what you need and what you want.
Stop being content with the crumbs of his attention because at the end of the day, you can’t even say that you are fighting for his love – but that you are begging him for it.
And that’s not all: since during the road, in addition, you lose your dignity and your pride.
So, instead of chasing after a man, start chasing your ambitions and dreams.
Focus all of your energy on your goals and don’t give up until you’ve reached each one.
Stop putting it first.
Accept the fact that your relationship is only a priority for you, and that for him it is always at the bottom of the priority list.
Understand that you are dealing with a selfish asshole who thinks only of his needs and who does not even care about your feelings.
Stop believing that your future depends on your romantic relationship.
Stop believing that your general happiness depends on your happiness in love.
Certainly, a healthy relationship can improve the quality of life.
And certainly it’s nice to have someone by your side, someone who loves you no matter what and someone who will be there to support or stop you when needed.
This does not mean that you cannot be happy living a single life for a while, because it is better to stay single than to waste your life with someone who does not deserve you.
If you are unhappy as a single, you will be even more unhappy in the wrong relationship.
Your problems will not go away the moment your relationship begins to work and your life will not suddenly find meaning just because you are with someone.
So stop always looking for the perfect romantic relationship, because it won’t bring you the changes you hope to experience.
Rather, work on the relationship you have with yourself and make it as amazing as possible, because it is precisely this relationship that matters most in your life.
And what’s most important: start loving and respecting yourself more.
Because nobody will do it for you.
