When you are in a relationship, you would never describe your other half as someone who is difficult to love, would you?
And yet it is what you think of yourself and you even think that others have this image of you.
Whenever something bad happens to you, the first thing you do is blame yourself.
Your head gets angry with yourself and you see yourself as a big dud.
The simple fact that you believe in these things is the biggest cause of the problem.
Having low self-esteem is the first sign that you are underestimating yourself.
This means that you do not see anything good or valid in you when it is simply not true.
First of all, let’s try to see what made you believe these lies and how we can fix them so that you can find your well-being in general.
You are a sensitive person.
And when you are a sensitive person, you have the ability to see many things that others do not even notice and that most people miss.
It also means that you tend to be overwhelmed more easily than others by situations or events you are going through, and that you do not know how to set limits or how to say no to others.
You often take things too seriously, and often you often feel that you are not doing everything you should.
You know how to be very hard on yourself when you fail, and the worst part is that you are also too harsh on yourself when it comes to things you can’t even control.
You are someone who thinks too much about everything and nothing, you are like it seems, an excessive thinker.
People who think too much live far too much in their thoughts and spend significant and unhealthy time reliving their potential mistakes and regretting some of their actions by wanting to change something that has already happened.
And it is exactly this unhealthy behavior that prevents them from leaving even a chance for self-esteem to exist.
You have trouble accepting imperfections. And when we are always looking for perfection, it means that we must constantly prove our worth.
And in the long run it becomes exhausting. In addition, it is a feeling that is often mixed with fear and discontent.
Yet you don’t need approval to be what you are in freedom.
You should be loved as you are, without having to prove anything to anyone.
If you want to stop constantly lowering yourself, you will need to change those negative thoughts that are bad for you and your well-being in general.
You will have to change what you think about yourself.
And to be able to change this distorted image of yourself, you will first need to find out what a healthy relationship looks like.
In order to regain self-confidence with the help of your future partner, you will need to pay attention to the following things that teach us what it’s like to be in a healthy relationship and with the right person:
The right person will manage any conflict with maturity.
There will be no petty comments or annoying silences, missed calls or aggressiveness.
Instead, there will be more phrases like “tell me how you feel in real life? “” Let me just explain to you how I feel and why “.
There will be no feeling of guilt. Because, there is nothing worse than manipulating a person who has already been injured before, especially when you use this feeling of guilt against them and to control them.
Every healthy and happy relationship should be based on trust and sincerity.
You will feel that everything can be resolved.
When you find the right person who can understand your needs, you will always feel at your side.
With the right person, you will feel like you are exactly where you belong.
You will have the feeling that you can finally lower your guard without fear, and that you can relax because you have someone who respects your needs and your interests despite all your faults.
The right person will never see your faults as a reason to doubt you, but as an opportunity to better understand yourself.
Our faults are there only to remind us where it is that we need love the most.
The right person will never use cos faults against you.
With the right person, you will learn that true love is not supposed to be difficult at all.
You will learn that no one can be difficult to love.
Love is supposed to be something light, filled with joy, understanding, and attention.
Love should lift us up in the air, not belittle us and make us question everything we do.
You should never think of your partner as someone to obey, someone you are not worthy of, or someone who pushes you to compare yourself to others in order to measure your worth.
Your partner should be someone who will walk with you hand in hand and make sure to show you and prove your love in every way that exists.
Once you stop believing that you are difficult to love, you will finally begin to notice the love you have, not only the love you receive from your partner, but also love of your loved ones.
Love should never be taken for granted.
When you are in pain and have a bad day, when you do not feel desirable, remember this well.
Remember all the people who have loved you throughout your life and remember all the things others have done for you.
And remember above all one thing: no matter your past, no matter your fears, your courage, your confidence, your age, your appearance or what you have accomplished or not – you are always worthy of love and deserve to be loved and respected.
