15 ways to play hard to get with your partner

In the present age, people have perfected almost every art known to mankind, except the mysterious art of courting. There are so many ways to go after the person you like, and each romance novel will tell you something different. So where does one go if they have a huge crush that they want to pursue? Do we listen to Shakespeare? Nicholas Sparks or EL James? There is no “right” or “wrong” way to seek love. Every situation and relationship is different, but we have a few tricks up our sleeves that are universally known for capturing the imagination. One of these tricks is a little game with the natural charm that a mysterious person carries. Your best bet in fostering mutual attraction is to get them interested in you! Not sure how to do it? We have you covered!

How do you catch the attention of your other person by playing hard to get?

Giving in to your heart’s desire and rushing toward your crush may seem like the easiest thing to do. But trust us when we say that playing hard to achieve it is the best way to do things. Not only do you establish your value, but letting them work to conquer it will make your partner value you that much more. This method may take a little longer than bombarding your partner with all the affection that you have stored inside, but it will be much better at capturing their attention and staying on their mind. After all, who doesn’t want to be on their partner’s mind at all times?

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1. Don’t text them first!

Let your crush make the first move. If you want to play hard to get there and you want to do it effectively, you need to let your crush see how they feel about you. Texting the person you like first makes you seem overly available and involved! Keep the upper hand by allowing your crush to guide you. It may seem difficult to wait for someone to text you, but patience is vital and the payoff will be worth it. There is nothing more exciting than waking up to a long-awaited text!

2. Don’t be too eager to respond so quickly!

You can know that the person you like is interested in you through their text messages. That the person you like is comfortable with you is not enough. Make them want your attention! Don’t reply immediately, reply to a few emails, and do some homework. Get on with your day and reply to text messages from the person you like. However, don’t expect too much, you don’t want your partner to lose interest in you, but you also don’t want them to think you’re too available. Balance is key!

3. Don’t offer excessive information and tone down the spooky!

We have all stalked our lovers on social media from time to time. It is completely natural to be curious. However, make sure your crush doesn’t know all the information you’ve gathered about them! Dragging them before anything has started is the last thing you want to do. So keep everything you’ve learned about them to yourself and let them reveal what they want to you slowly and at their own pace. Also, don’t tell everything about yourself at once! Keep the mystery, let them wander a bit and let them go bit by bit so they stay interested!

4. Don’t be too friendly

In order to appear more approachable and speed up a relationship, we often make the mistake of being too friendly. You have to sound genuine and easy to talk to, but being overly friendly works to your disadvantage. Keeping a bit of formality in your text messages will make your partner think about how they are talking to you and what they are saying. They will be more aware of their words and how they are perceived in you.

5. Make it fun and flirty!

Keep the whole conversation light, fun, and flirty! Don’t go overboard with flirting in case you seem too strong. Remember, little by little you go far. Keep your sentences open, talk about their interests, and show a keen interest in what they have to say. The whole vibe of your conversation should be comfortable, casual, and fun! Work towards it and don’t worry too much about the little things. After all, you need to be able to enjoy the conversation for it to lead to something.

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6. Make the person you like work for it! Don’t be too eager to give in

Apply this mantra everywhere in your approach towards your partner. Making them work will make them value you much more than if you jump into them. If they don’t seem very enthusiastic, don’t worry. Your nonchalant attitude will keep them doing their best to impress you.

7. Work on you too!

The more you value yourself, the more around you will too. Know their value! Think of yourself as the prize and if someone doesn’t try hard enough to win it, then it’s not worth your time. Work on yourself, even in daily life. This will eventually translate to how you interact with others, including your partner. Self-esteem is a very attractive trait; make sure you use it well.

8. Don’t tell him you like him yet! Just work on the vibe between the two of you

We repeat. Don’t jump on them! Strive to understand them and your relationship with them. Work to improve the vibe you share. Let them take the first step, be patient but open. Telling the person you like that you like him before he is sure of his feelings can ruin everything before he even starts.

9. Find the perfect balance between space and affection

While playing hard, make sure you don’t seem completely disinterested. This will make them lose interest in you as all their efforts will seem useless. Being overly affectionate is also a big no. Find balance in your interactions with your partner. Keep the conversation flowing. Dropping a few compliments here and there won’t hurt as long as the compliments are rare otherwise. Don’t seem too available, but don’t seem too distant either. Make sure they know that you have a life outside of your interactions with them and that they are not the center of your attention.

10. Casually mention some of your other friends.

If someone likes you, they might get jealous. Use this to your advantage, casually mention some of your other friends, so they know that they are not the only important person in your life. Be open and casual, but don’t make it an agenda to make them jealous.

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11. Flaunt yourself!

Do your best if you were asked on a date or if you went out with the person you like! The better you look, the better you feel, and it shows in your actions and your words as well. The better you look, the more they will be attracted to you. However, don’t make it too obvious that you prepared just for them. Be subtle and look beautiful!

12. Minor accidental touches

Being too clever is never a good option, lest you scare them off. But light touches on the hand or shoulder, or accidental rubbing of the arm, could make them feel comfortable and notice you.

13. Trust is key

Have confidence. You have everything going for you. You are smart and handsome, and you need to believe in that for it to show itself sincerely. Your self-confidence will establish your importance and the fact that you are an absolute treasure!

14. Know your priorities

Keep your priorities straight, and with that, we want to make sure that the person you like isn’t at the top of that list. Your conversation with them is important, but it should never be the only thing on your mind at all times. Find other activities to focus on simultaneously so that your mind is too preoccupied to think about them all day.

15. Let them take the first step

Don’t be the first to make a move on your date either! Wait to call them. Let them put in a little more effort before it opens up a bit. For now, make them work for it and not the other way around.


If you believe in being completely honest about your feelings early on, then playing hard to get might not be the right thing for you. Not everything works out for everyone, but if you don’t mind being a little patient and watching your partner work to get your attention, it’s definitely worth a try. It’s a fun and flirty way to test the waters and get a feel for the depth of your partner’s feelings for you as well. If all goes well, your hard-to-get attitude will have them gravitating toward you in no time!