Don’t Ruin Your Chances Of Getting Back Together
After a breakup, stopping all communication and following a strict “no contact” rule is one of the best methods to get your ex back.
If you’re not doing this, now is a good time to start.
But even if you’ve successfully avoided all direct contact since the breakup, you could be violating the no contact rule in subtle ways that are killing your chances of getting back with him – without even knowing it!
It’s time to end these things immediately so you don’t keep sabotaging your efforts to get back together with your ex after a breakup.
Here Are Three Ways You Sabotage Your Chances Of Getting Back With Your Ex By Unintentionally Breaking The “No Contact” Rule
1. You’re Still Following Your Ex On Social Media
Be careful when looking at your ex’s stories or status on Snapchat, Instagram, or WhatsApp.
If he can see who sees his posts in the app you’re using, he can see that you’ve viewed them.
By visualizing and letting him know that you looked, you are breaking your commitment not to have any contact.
He’ll assume you’re still interested, otherwise, you wouldn’t be looking at their stories.
That’s just one of the reasons why no contact is that important if you’re trying to get back together with your ex.
2. You kept your ex’s phone number in your contacts
By closing your ex’s phone number stored on your phone, you could end up accidentally calling him – and he’ll think you’re trying to get in touch.
Imagine you haven’t made contact in 30 days, 60 days, or more when suddenly your finger slips and you dial his number!
You have just violated the no contact rule and need to start counting again.
Take his number off your phone.
Write it down somewhere if you want.
But, if you haven’t already done so, erase the number immediately, so that there is no possibility of having that little mishap.
Even if he replies or texts you and you explain it was an accident, he won’t believe you – so don’t make that mistake.
3. You’re Talking to Mutual Friends About Breakup
Talking to friends about how you feel can help you get over your breakup, as long as there’s no possibility that these “friends” will somehow tell your ex or the possibility that someone will tell him.
Let’s say you’re doing fine, no contact, but then tell a friend what’s going on with you and your ex.
Then your friend tells someone else who eventually tells his ex.
You’ll feel like you’re doing great, but your ex will know exactly what’s going on.
Whoever you talk to about your situation, make sure the person is not a “spy”.
Rest assured that what you say won’t get back to your ex.
If there is a possibility that this will happen, don’t say anything.
If they ask about the breakup, say something like, “You know what, it’s over. It’s in the past. I do not want to talk about that”.
You’ll probably want to talk about it, but just don’t bring it up.
This will self-sabotage and undermine every effort you made to get back together with your ex using the no contact rule.
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