“Please, when a guy plays these ignoring games, how are we supposed to react or behave?
This is so confusing.”
This seems to be an issue or question that keeps popping up here…
Women feel ignored and they don’t know what to do about it.
So much so that it led me to write an entire Ebook on the subject that will be released soon.
Let’s start with the game.
Honestly, the truth is…
Most men DO NOT (consciously) PLAY GAMES.
They don’t have a bigger plan in mind.
They’re not thinking that far.
They just know how to interpret it that way and if they could – you normally see it happening from a mile away…
mainly.
If you think you’re being played, this article will help you find out pretty easily:
- Defining a Gamer, The Games He Uses, and Why Most Men Are Not Gamers
- The only way to find a real player is if he’s using you.
- He Finally Asked You Out – Signs You’ve Met a Player and the Games He Plays on You
Okay, sure it does, but it’s not the norm or the goal for an average man to put in so much time, energy, and effort, because if you think about it…
Playing games is a lot of work.
What is actually happening is something similar, at least it will look like that, but it is usually a completely different problem.
So What Do You Do If You Know (In Doubtful) He’s Playing The “Ignore” Game With You?
Maybe he’s doing it because he thinks that by ignoring you, you’ll come running to him.
He could believe the myth that “women only want what they can’t have” and so by ignoring you…
he’s trying to get you to look for him.
This is simple…
ignore it too!
Don’t give up, because you’re just playing exactly what he wants and expects to happen, which means giving up his power and setting a future example that when he acts this way – he’ll win and he’ll always get what he wants.
Think about your future with him – is this really the kind of guy you want to date?
Is this really the kind of guy you’d like to marry one day?
Whenever you feel like you’re not sure how to date a guy long-term…
transport yourself into the future with him and imagine that what he is doing now is only going to get worse.
This will keep you from playing with him and keep you from wasting your precious time on a guy who likes to treat others like children OR who needs to play games just to get what he wants.
Go away and don’t look back!
What to do if you’re being ignored because he doesn’t feel good enough or able to date you.
Men ignore the women they most desire because they don’t feel capable (or worthy or good enough) and either sabotage themselves or avoid them because of it.
They pre-reject themselves to lessen the pain.
Even if you start talking to this guy, you’ll find he’s always a little distant or unresponsive and it’s easy to see how confused you can be with what he’s doing to you.
But the fact remains…
He’s doing this for his own reasons, which are usually centered around him, not believing that you like him or that you’d like to be with him.
Unfortunately, this type of guy is EVERYWHERE.
He might even be a guy you think is good for women just because he has a natural ability to attract women.
Deep inside this guy, he is constantly sabotaging himself because he can never admit or is not willing to raise his esteem enough to get through all of this, and meanwhile, his ignorance or silence towards you, just makes you (probably) want him more.
Dealing with it, solving it, or knowing what to do is not easy for many reasons, all starting with…
You cannot make or force someone to change themselves from within.
They have to want to change.
Here’s what you can do…
First, DO NOT treat him like a child.
You don’t spoil him too much or act as a mother to him.
It will only make him see that his efforts are working on you and he will continue to do so.
Second, don’t limit yourself to dating just him.
Date other men at the same time.
Third, he must understand through his actions as a woman that her happiness does NOT depend on him or his state of mind.
He must realize that his place in the world is no longer valid as yours and that he is not the determining factor for you either.
He should also feel that your respect for him is unshakable unless he does something to ruin it through his not-so-nice means or games.
You don’t have to put up with his bullshit if it’s affecting you negatively.
Never forget that this type of man can NEVER be turned or made to stop ignoring her or made suddenly become someone different.
He is who he is and until he chooses to change, you may never get to this guy.
You can try anything and everything on it if you like, but I don’t guarantee that the results will be satisfactory to you.
In other words, look for the “best” and more confident men right away.
If you want “instant” advice, you can use it here or as you wrote it – how to deal with it ignoring you…
The pattern repeats itself:
If he’s ignoring you because he doesn’t feel good enough or thinks you could never feel the same way about him…
Go away and don’t look back!
You will NOT want to be stuck with a guy with such low self-esteem that he can’t even do anything but ignore you because as stated above you will keep getting more of the same which will end up with you constantly trying to build him up…
Tired you out and destroyed the relationship in the end.
He will find the way or not, and that is NOT his responsibility.
You should never compromise with a man, give in to his games, put yourself down, or believe he will get better unless he really is taking an active role in improving himself.
Now let’s look at another example and see how you can handle this.
I hope one of them fits your situation perfectly.
What if…
You’re In Two Different Moods – He May Sees You As A Casual Dating And You May Think You’re More For A Relationship.
The key here is that you are NOT in a relationship, but you may be acting like you are in one.
This case might be a little more complicated, but it all boils down to something very important…
something that may have never crossed your mind.
You are NOT being ignored.
He’s just living life, probably dating other people, and you’re contacting him more than he cares to respond to.
Maybe he feels smothered or believes that if he always answers you’ll believe it’s a relationship or you’ll think you’re confusing things, that he’s ready for serious commitment when he’s not.
That doesn’t mean you’re pushing him away – although you might be.
That leaves you with these sub-reasons:
A. You are not being ignored and you contact him more than he would like to respond.
You’re not giving him a good reason to respond.
He doesn’t feel obligated to respond and likely receives multiple messages or calls daily from many different women.
B. He is not (so) interested, ready, or willing to enter into a meaningful relationship with you right now and feels that responding too much to you will only lead you to believe he is ready.
He’s not ready to give up his time with you.
He is not ready to “be” there for you under most circumstances.
Both A and B tend to be true when the woman is too needy, acts too desperate to have a relationship, is too self-centered, or is possibly living an overly dramatic lifestyle causing him to avoid most contacts.
But it can also happen to you if he’s just given you signs that he feels like he’s in a relationship, but then again – he wouldn’t be ignoring you if that were the case.
How you can deal with this problem first starts by figuring out if it’s A or B.
If it’s A, you’ll need to take a closer look at what, when, and how often you’re also contacting him and other guys.
This could be a circular pattern meaning…
When you meet a guy, you get into another mode or state of mind where you automatically act.
If you quickly go into “relationship mode” right after meeting a guy – this can happen to you a lot.
My advice will always be this:
When you meet a guy – texting or contacting him less than he is always better than more than him.
Sure you’ll scare some guys off by being ‘cooler’, but these guys might not be what you’re looking for.
Either way, these are the ones who tend to be in ‘relationship mode’ very early on and tend to take on a female role, leaving all the male work to you.
A man needs to learn to miss you and think about you or what he is doing or who you are with in order to start feeling something deeper once a connection is already established.
He needs a good reason to want to see her again.
Your interactions should be fun, powerful, and SHORT.
If it’s B (he’s not that interested), then you need to find a way to objectively examine your life, how you live it, how much you really love yourself, where you think you are, and where you want to be.
B is shit. I know it is.
I’ve been there and done it many times in my sad past life as well before I got married.
All I can say is that the work is worth doing.
It pays off in many areas of your life and has a weird side effect on your life…
Even if it doesn’t focus on dating, guys, and relationships, these things tend to happen naturally if you keep putting yourself in the right positions to find the kind of guy you’re looking for.
What I mean is…
DON’T make your existence, happiness, or whatever, depending on whether or not an individual is interested in you and you will be fine.
That last reason is fully covered in the e-book, but I’ll touch it lightly here.
You are in a relationship where communication was interrupted or was never fully implemented.
Getting straight to the point…
He might be tired of listening to you.
He may not feel heard.
He may feel that he has no voice in the relationship.
He may even feel that whatever he says will only cause another fight, so he chooses to keep his mouth shut.
He chooses to ignore it or stay silent out of frustration or play the passive-aggressive role because that’s what he always did anyway or he doesn’t know what else to do.
There is no simple answer to this because it is up to you to learn how to communicate and be ready and accept that your relationship if it is to be saved, needs some concrete work.
Now I’m not saying it’s your fault or his.
All that means is that somewhere, at some point – which could have started before you started dating – the lines of communication between you and him crumbled.
Remember if:
Most men aren’t the gambler type.
Trust that they have no idea how to play you and even if they did – think about what he thinks he is going to get from you with this little game of ignoring you…
probably nothing if you’re smart.
It’s not really a productive game, especially if you follow the advice above and just… walk away.
It kind of takes away his power to use that kind of game.
If it’s a relationship problem – I sincerely wish him the best of luck – TRUST him if you do the right thing and take the necessary steps, and he’s willing to fix it – you can start something new and get your relationship back on track.
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If it’s a relationship problem – I sincerely wish him the best of luck – TRUST him if you do the right thing and take the necessary steps, and he’s willing to fix it – you can start something new and get your relationship back on track.
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