How Not to Look Desperate for a Guy You Really Like

Everyone knows that a needy and obsessive woman is the one that drives men away the most.

Avoid These Mistakes And Learn Not To Look Desperate For The Boy You’re Liking So Much.

When you’ve been single for a while and the guy who has everything you’ve been looking for shows up, you can’t help but be extremely excited.

This is understandable and is the reaction of most women who find themselves in the same situation.

Be very careful though, as getting too excited can make you make bad decisions and do stupid things that can ruin your romance.

It’s best not to show any of those annoying behaviors that will make him think you’re desperate (and break up with him).

  1. “I’ve been waiting for this moment my whole life.”

You might think saying this will make him say “wow!” and will commend you on your impressive patience.

I’m sorry to inform you, but his reaction to such a sentence from you will do the exact opposite.

What exactly do you mean by “this moment”?

He will feel unnecessary pressure, this can push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.

  1. Send A Bombardment Of Text Messages.

Texting him more often than necessary, using a bunch of heart emojis, or calling him every five minutes is not going to make him feel loved.

Instead, he’ll feel suffocated and think you’re needy and clingy.

So get a life, girl.

Let him notice your absence to want your presence in his life.

  1. Chase Him On Facebook.

He added you or you added him on Facebook.

Since that day, you’ve spent every waking hour of your life logging into his profile to see what’s going on in his life.

You absolutely like everything he posts and love everything he shares (even if you have no idea what it’s all about).

Don’t be surprised if he blocks you.

  1. Show up at the door of his house without warning.

This is a great tip to make him lose his respect for you. You decided to surprise him by making a surprise visit to his apartment.

You knock on the door and when he opens it and sees you, he’s going to be very surprised (congratulations, you’ve reached your goal!) and obviously annoyed.

You didn’t notice because he let you in even though he was annoyed.

Wait for him to come up with an excuse for you to leave as soon as possible.

  1. Post Your Feelings For Him On Social Media.

You’ve been seeing each other for two weeks.

To celebrate the second week together, you thought it was a good idea to share what’s going on in your heart by posting those three words on your timeline, tagging him in your post.

His friends go wild, but instead of an “I love you too” from him, he deactivates his account and disappears from your life forever.

  1. Making Wedding Plans.

Since you’re so convinced he’s the one, you thought you’d better tell him that you want a wedding in a beautiful garden, four kids and two dogs next time you guys watch a movie on Netflix.

Hold the wave, woman.

These matters should be discussed when you are absolutely sure he feels the same way about you too.

  1. Give him a shower of gifts.

Yes, you can give him a gift on his birthday, but not every time you feel like giving him a gift.

Yes, you are going overboard if you choose an expensive gift (even if you can afford it).

That’s not romantic, that’s a desperate plea for his love, and it’s obviously going to make him think you’re trying to buy his feelings (and he’s not going to feel good about it at all).

  1. Push Him to Meet His Parents.

Wanting him to meet his family after a month together is ridiculous.

Yeah, it’s nice to know that you’re proud to date him and you want everyone to know that, but it’s too soon.

It’s best to wait for him to ask to meet his parents.

When he says no, it’s going to be a hard slap in the face and that’s the last thing you want to happen.

  1. Ask what he is doing all the time.

Your man is sure to enjoy getting a text or two from you, but texting or calling him every goddamn hour of the day just to see if he’s okay isn’t going to make him think you’re thinking about him.

Instead, he’ll think you’re possessive or even think you’re unbalanced.

This desperation you’re showing him isn’t going to help make him fall head over heels in love with you, so stay calm and get a life.

He’s too big to take care of himself. He is fine.


Letting go of any desperate behavior will not only hurt your chances of hooking up with a guy you’re obviously liking so much, it will also damage your self-worth and self-esteem in the process.

Learn to control these feelings.

Learn not to act on impulse.

You will find that you will be happier when you act on what makes sense and not on what you are feeling at the moment.